Current Events > C/D: You want your wife/SO to be a stay at home spouse.

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I'm not going to go work and bust my ass for 8 hours a day so my partner can lollygag around the house.

Get a job or a very time consuming hobby.


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In an ideal world we'd both prefer if my wife stayed at home but bills dictate otherwise

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I don't want kids so ideally my spouse doesn't either, therefore we both work full time jobs and have boatloads of money and free time to do things that people with kids don't do (which is to say, literally whatever we want)

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My girlfriend makes more than I do :)

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in an idea world we'd both stay at home and life off the land

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deny, I want to be the stay at home spouse

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D I want to be the stay at home spouse

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SSJKirby posted...

deny, I want to be the stay at home spouse

SSJCAT posted...

D I want to be the stay at home spouse

Yeah, those.

I want someone to stay at home tbh

Depends on who makes less money I guess

Maybe if we're lucky jobs will become permanently remote soon

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D, I refuse to be the only source of income unless it makes financial sense and was only temporary. It would make me too anxious because we'd be screwed if I lost my job.

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Hail naw she better go make some fucking bread

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SSJKirby posted...

deny, I want to be the stay at home spouse

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i dont want her to be stay at home but she does right now

i just want her to be happy whatever she does

D. I want her to do whatever the fuck she feels like doing.

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I find it scary to be the sole breadwinner. Just too much obvious risks and pressure.

Also, selfishly, I'd feel envious in some way. They should at least be doing something during they're free time. Who wants someone who does nothing?

If we're talking about stay at home mom, I'd still rather not but I'd be fine with it for a little bit. As the kid gets older though, it doesn't seem like it'd make sense to stay at home.
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i definitely think at least one parent needs to stay home with a kid just based on experience

with two its nearly impossible to have two incomes. really tugs at my wife too. I tell her all the time all she has to do is score a job that makes more dough than me and we can switch instantly (after a bit of a hunt she could probably find one with a comparable salary) but then she starts panicking about being away from the kids because she wants to be near them all the time.

its a complex struggle that the modern woman has to endure if a large portion of their identity is tied up in their career.

Romes187 posted...

i definitely think at least one parent needs to stay home with a kid just based on experience

with two its nearly impossible to have two incomes. really tugs at my wife too. I tell her all the time all she has to do is score a job that makes more dough than me and we can switch instantly (after a bit of a hunt she could probably find one with a comparable salary) but then she starts panicking about being away from the kids because she wants to be near them all the time.

its a complex struggle that the modern woman has to endure if a large portion of their identity is tied up in their career.

Is there an age where you'd both be fine going back to work?
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emblem boy posted...

Is there an age where you'd both be fine going back to work?

My goal is to be able to make a good chunk with the startup I'm working for, then let my wife focus on her career once the oldest hits like 4 or 5 years old because I want to home school them for a while.