Current Events > Have more than one woman ever been into you at the same time?

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How did you choose between them?
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Several times. And each time I chose poorly.
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Nah. I've got enough trouble reeling in one, forget about two at the same time.
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Yeah once, in middle school. Just more or less ignored both of them and then they were both super bitchy to me for a while for not asking them out.

It was a shitty time as you can imagine
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Yes, and... I choose incredibly poorly.
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Yes. One was a sure thing who was basically head over heels for me. The other gave many indications of being into me but was the "plays way too hard to get" type. I ended up with neither of them.

See, I was way more interested in the second one in general so I went all in on her. Looking back, I'm pretty sure nothing I did would have ever been good enough. I got really invested in her and wanted it really badly, but it was basically never going to happen and I should have known it from the start.
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Yea but I didn't really like either of them
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Only when I was a teenager. I always cold shouldered them though cause I just liked living carefree without being obligated to anyone. Eventually they would stop trying and move on. I always wondered if getting into a deep relationship would of stopped me from completely fucking my life off. I seem to try harder when others are involved. When Im alone I just self medicate and piss life away.

We only live once and I think I blew it.
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Yeah, but (afaik) it wasnt a regular occurrence. The most at one time was about five, iirc. I just went with my gut, I guess, but it was certainly not easy to possibly break four hearts... I never tried to lead anybody on, but I clearly must have. To this day, there are some female friends whod probably be at my house within minutes if I was single again, it feels like theyre just respectfully waiting... There was one that randomly texted me a few times a year to see how it was going and as soon as Im still taken came up she would stop replying. It was funny but pathetic. It did stop though, after about three years.....

My biggest problem is that Im naturally flirty or warm with women and they sometimes misinterpret it. I just like females more. As I got older, I realized a small part of it was the need to be desired... so Im not entirely innocent, but I never lied to / mislead or took advantage of anyone. I just like having close female friends. I also hated subtly because I was oblivious, so if somebody had just asked me out, theyd have won, instead of using trickery or (what I took as) mixed messages.

It was more awkward than anything after a while though, honestly. The biggest problem is the one I wanted was the one who wasnt sure if they wanted me or not, and I still enjoyed the company of the others and thought there was a possibility for something lasting with at least two of them. The irony of the whole thing was other girls trying to steal me was a large part of why the girl I liked most decided to go for it. If theyd backed up a bit, things may have gone differently.

Part of what made it so overwhelming was that I was an ugly duckling and went from what felt like few options to many. It sucked and stressed me out. I was flat out unappealing until I got okay around 15 and good looking from 19 onward.
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No.

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