Current Events > Growing up, did you have a good relationship with your father?

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Hindsight no.

I lived life as an ignorant child and only when I got older I realised how inept my parents were in raising us and just how screwed up my dad is.
Mum isn't great too but nowhere near as awful.

HBKick18 posted...

not really. he provided for us and loved us but unfortunately worked very long hours and believed in physically punishing his kids so my few memories of him growing up involved him hitting me with his belt, for getting bad grades or detention, while I cried and cowered on the floor.

Relatable AF.

But honestly, the yelling was a lot worse. I can't feel the belt anymore, but I still have major anxiety asking for help lest somebody yell about how a two year old could do it.

I have no idea who my real dad is. I was well taken care of by my grandfather until he died when I was 12.

I havent seen my father in 23 years. And I was 10 years old when I met him for the first time since I was a baby. I couldnt tell you what he looks like if I wanted to.

Daddy wasnt there to change my underwear

Wasnt the best, pitted me and my sister against each other and honestly didnt take good care of himself.

I turned out hood, knowing his flaws I choose to be better to my wife and how not to be him.

Mostly ok. He tried his best. My sister went through a rebellious stage at 13. It made it hard for him. My brother and I were always at each other's throats. When I moved from home we all kinda left around the same time. Brother moved to Alaska for years and my sister had a successful job. I did my own thing but since I was close and not close. I rarely visited. Since I took ill, I can no longer take care of my self like I use to. Our relationship hasn't really changed. He forgets it's been 30 years and had a life of experience. Still treats me like I didn't. I always had a problem with people older than I giving respect. I'll relate a story of a customer I had once.

My dad is a good person and he was a good father. I hated him for a while in middle school/high school because my parents separated and he wasn't around, but I got over that in time. My parents did not divorce and got back together eventually and they were both happier.

He is an excellent grandfather to my son and I wish they lived closer.

My father tried his best but he was a very flawed person. Our beef was from age 26 to 31, my childhood unaffected, but we were good by the time he passed.

My dad is great, I get to travel back home later this month and can't wait to see him

Biological father left the hospital when I was born, adoptive father was a drug addicted man child who died of an overdose 3-4 years ago, step father was a drunk who regularly beat me and mentally tortured me.

I dont have a very positive outlook of father figures. Its kept me from getting close to any older men who saw my hurt and wanted to be there for me. Its so alien to me.

Yeah, he was my best mate. It's easier to let go of someone you don't love, so losing him has been hard.

Vampire_Chicken posted...

Yeah, he was my best mate. It's easier to let go of someone you don't love, so losing him has been hard.

One parent child and I dont know if I could handle my dad dying at 10 year old where Id remember instead of at 3 cos my first experience with someones death was my nana partners parents when I was 12 and I handled it so bad because I never even thought of death due to how sheltered I was and the more I thought the more I got upset how I couldnt speak to his parents who kept me sometimes adn when my nana partner became full on suicidal after a week of his mum dying it just made me cry even though I only just understood the concept of dying.
he tried to speed over the speed limit in a car with me and my nan inside for like 20 seconds and I just was so bad feeling for him it kinda killed me and I didnt say to him cos it was his parents and i was 12 so I couldnt console him effectively. He is on meds for depression now and doing good but still