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NPC 04/01/24 9:31:27 AM #1:	I get this feeling that every time it is raised, the perception is that the solution lies with women. This is despite men admitting that they struggle to make and maintain friendships after school, they don't open up to their male friends, and struggle to be emotionally vulnerable and open. It seems that some perceive the problem being that the role of friend and person to open up to was taken completely by the romantic partners in their lives, and want this to continue. Women performed this unpaid labour, and men got so comfortable with that, that they never really saw the purpose is having a network of close friends to turn to. As more women enter the workforce and gain the right to vote, marriage is no longer a necessity for survival. Women now have choices. I have noticed these choices being criticized, "Dating apps give women too many options and they don't want to settle!". And this is true. Women now want more than just a partner for the sake of having one. They want compatability. They want someone who sees them as an equal, who is willing to share the mental, emotional and domestic load. They want someone who they are attracted to, and doesn't feel entitled to sex. Women are also more likely to put in work to maintain friendships and our social lives. I am introvert and have social anxiety. If I could, I would almost never leave the house. But I do work at being social and maintaining friendships because they are important to me, and it just isn't healthy being that isolated. Once you are an adult, part of being an adult means acknowledging that you get a lot of freedoms because society assumes you can handle adult responsibilities. And that includes working to resolve the problems in your life. Some problems are big enough that they do need societal intervention, but one also has to acknowledge that sometimes the work needs to start with you. As someone who has struggled with making friends (I suck at small talk and am very quiet), I do emphasize. It is incredibly lonely and isolating knowing you have a lot of problems and stress, and no one to turn to, especially if you move to new city or town. However, I made the effort to go out of my comfort zone. It took a lot of failed efforts, but slowly but surely I did manage to make new friends. And once I made these friends, I got introduced to their friends, and so on. If I got invited to an event, I would go even if I was feeling lazy that weekend. I would host small get together at my place. I joined clubs, went to MeetUp events. Reached out to old friends and classmates on Facebook. I think the age of women as romantic partners being the primary person that men offload their problems to is coming to an end. In the past, I would do this only to find the man rarely if ever asked about me or my problems. I was just convenient to talk to, but he didn't really see it as a two way street. The solution to end this epidemic needs to start with men, and I worry that they don't realize this. <cite>NPC posted [p:979673440] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>I get this feeling that every time it is raised, the perception is that the solution lies with women. This is despite men admitting that they struggle to make and maintain friendships after school, they don't open up to their male friends, and struggle to be emotionally vulnerable and open.It seems that some perceive the problem being that the role of friend and person to open up to was taken completely by the romantic partners in their lives, and want this to continue. Women performed this unpaid labour, and men got so comfortable with that, that they never really saw the purpose is having a network of close friends to turn to.As more women enter the workforce and gain the right to vote, marriage is no longer a necessity for survival. Women now have choices. I have noticed these choices being criticized, "Dating apps give women too many options and they don't want to settle!".And this is true. Women now want more than just a partner for the sake of having one. They want compatability. They want someone who sees them as an equal, who is willing to share the mental, emotional and domestic load. They want someone who they are attracted to, and doesn't feel entitled to sex.Women are also more likely to put in work to maintain friendships and our social lives. I am introvert and have social anxiety. If I could, I would almost never leave the house. But I do work at being social and maintaining friendships because they are important to me, and it just isn't healthy being that isolated.Once you are an adult, part of being an adult means acknowledging that you get a lot of freedoms because society assumes you can handle adult responsibilities. And that includes working to resolve the problems in your life. Some problems are big enough that they do need societal intervention, but one also has to acknowledge that sometimes the work needs to start with you.As someone who has struggled with making friends (I suck at small talk and am very quiet), I do emphasize. It is incredibly lonely and isolating knowing you have a lot of problems and stress, and no one to turn to, especially if you move to new city or town. However, I made the effort to go out of my comfort zone. It took a lot of failed efforts, but slowly but surely I did manage to make new friends. And once I made these friends, I got introduced to their friends, and so on. If I got invited to an event, I would go even if I was feeling lazy that weekend. I would host small get together at my place. I joined clubs, went to MeetUp events. Reached out to old friends and classmates on Facebook.I think the age of women as romantic partners being the primary person that men offload their problems to is coming to an end. In the past, I would do this only to find the man rarely if ever asked about me or my problems. I was just convenient to talk to, but he didn't really see it as a two way street.The solution to end this epidemic needs to start with men, and I worry that they don't realize this. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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rexcrk 04/01/24 9:41:53 AM #3:	Meh. Dudes should focus on learning how to be happy being by themselves too. Smartest decision I ever made was teaching myself that. Like dont get me wrong, I love my friends and family, but I also highly value my alone time too. And of course if the stars align and I actually meet a woman Im compatible with who can stand being with me for more than like three months, I wouldnt turn that down. But learning to be alone has vastly improved the quality of my life. --- Shplendid! <cite>rexcrk posted [p:979673539] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>Meh. Dudes should focus on learning how to be happy being by themselves too. Smartest decision I ever made was teaching myself that. Like dont get me wrong, I love my friends and family, but I also highly value my alone time too. And of course if the stars align and I actually meet a woman Im compatible with who can stand being with me for more than like three months, I wouldnt turn that down. But learning to be alone has vastly improved the quality of my life. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Smackems 04/01/24 9:44:13 AM #4:	Tldr a woman definitely solved mine --- Common sense says it may not taste good, but it'll make a turd. <cite>Smackems posted [p:979673561] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>Tldr a woman definitely solved mine </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
NPC 04/01/24 10:02:07 AM #5:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] Sorry I wrote this before I had my mornin coffee... obviously I meant memorize rexcrk posted... But learning to be alone has vastly improved the quality of my life. Absolutely! If you can't learn to be alone you're setting yourself up for disappointment. Smackems posted... Tldr a woman definitely solved mine Yeah but how did you meet? I'm guessing you just didn't stay in your house expecting something to just happen and actually put yourself out there. <cite>NPC posted [p:979673773] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> Sorry I wrote this before I had my mornin coffee... obviously I meant memorize rexcrk posted... </cite><quote>But learning to be alone has vastly improved the quality of my life.</quote>Absolutely! If you can't learn to be alone you're setting yourself up for disappointment.Smackems posted... </cite><quote>Tldr a woman definitely solved mine</quote>Yeah but how did you meet? I'm guessing you just didn't stay in your house expecting something to just happen and actually put yourself out there.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Mistere_Man 04/01/24 10:09:23 AM #7:	Weird, post 6 kept disappearing and reappearing for some reason. --- Water+Fall=Radiation. <cite>Mistere_Man posted [p:979673864] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>Weird, post 6 kept disappearing and reappearing for some reason. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Were_Wyrm 04/01/24 10:15:23 AM #8:	It won't be solved because no one cares. --- I was a God, Valeria. I found it...beneath me. - Dr. Doom https://i.imgur.com/0EJvC4l.jpg <cite>Were_Wyrm posted [p:979673932] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>It won't be solved because no one cares. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
rexcrk 04/02/24 11:01:28 AM #9:	NPC posted... Absolutely! If you can't learn to be alone you're setting yourself up for disappointment. Some people take it weirdly personal too. Like theyre angry that others are able to be content with being alone --- Shplendid! <cite>rexcrk posted [p:979692024] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>NPC posted... </cite><quote>Absolutely! If you can't learn to be alone you're setting yourself up for disappointment.</quote>Some people take it weirdly personal too. Like theyre angry that others are able to be content with being alone </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
orcus_snake 04/02/24 11:06:34 AM #10:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] Probably meant empathize --- "Warwick are you jungling" "No I'm standing by the wolves because I miss my family" <cite>orcus_snake posted [p:979692087] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> Probably meant empathize </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
-ZIO- 04/02/24 11:07:29 AM #11:	Yeah, I saw this post on r/twoxchromosomes, too. --- (He/Him) <cite>-ZIO- posted [p:979692101] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>Yeah, I saw this post on r/twoxchromosomes, too. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
FortuneCookie 04/02/24 11:24:26 AM #12:	The men's loneliness epidemic is not going to be solved by women So, femboys then? <cite>FortuneCookie posted [p:979692359] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>The men's loneliness epidemic is not going to be solved by womenSo, femboys then?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
texanfan27 04/02/24 11:28:40 AM #13:	A woman in a mans life can multiple his happiness, but it cannot add to it. So if the man isnt happy alone, he wont be happy in a relationship. people need to find their own happiness first before seeking a relationship. my wife multiplies my happiness and love by being around her, and she feels the same as she has a comfort being and safe place with me. --- I'm a ? Block. No, punching me won't give you power ups. <cite>texanfan27 posted [p:979692417] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>A woman in a mans life can multiple his happiness, but it cannot add to it. So if the man isnt happy alone, he wont be happy in a relationship. people need to find their own happiness first before seeking a relationship. my wife multiplies my happiness and love by being around her, and she feels the same as she has a comfort being and safe place with me. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Gwynevere 04/02/24 11:30:40 AM #14:	Nice one TC https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1bsxj8k/the_mens_loneliness_epidemic_is_not_going_to_be/ --- A hunter is a hunter...even in a dream [She/they] <cite>Gwynevere posted [p:979692433] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>Nice one TChttps://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1bsxj8k/the_mens_loneliness_epidemic_is_not_going_to_be/ </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Murphiroth 04/02/24 11:35:54 AM #15:	Gwynevere posted... Nice one TC https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1bsxj8k/the_mens_loneliness_epidemic_is_not_going_to_be/ Not the first time I've seen him parrot someone else's thoughts as his own. <cite>Murphiroth posted [p:979692502] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>Gwynevere posted... </cite><quote>Nice one TChttps://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1bsxj8k/the_mens_loneliness_epidemic_is_not_going_to_be/</quote>Not the first time I've seen him parrot someone else's thoughts as his own.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Prestoff 04/02/24 11:41:52 AM #16:	Gwynevere posted... Nice one TC https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1bsxj8k/the_mens_loneliness_epidemic_is_not_going_to_be/ lol --- DI MOLTO! <cite>Prestoff posted [p:979692575] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>Gwynevere posted... </cite><quote>Nice one TChttps://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1bsxj8k/the_mens_loneliness_epidemic_is_not_going_to_be/</quote>lol </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
NPC 04/02/24 11:49:51 AM #17:	Gwynevere posted... Nice one TC https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1bsxj8k/the_mens_loneliness_epidemic_is_not_going_to_be/ Do you disagree with the message? People here hate reddit, I could never link it. <cite>NPC posted [p:979692693] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>Gwynevere posted... </cite><quote>Nice one TChttps://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1bsxj8k/the_mens_loneliness_epidemic_is_not_going_to_be/</quote>Do you disagree with the message? People here hate reddit, I could never link it. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Gwynevere 04/02/24 11:59:11 AM #19:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] Lmao I just saw that --- A hunter is a hunter...even in a dream [She/they] <cite>Gwynevere posted [p:979692820] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> Lmao I just saw that </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ItsNotA2Mer 04/02/24 12:00:34 PM #20:	Gwynevere posted... Nice one TC https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1bsxj8k/the_mens_loneliness_epidemic_is_not_going_to_be/ Wow, seriously? --- It is impossible to live in the past, difficult to live in the present, and a waste to live in the future. (He/Him). <cite>ItsNotA2Mer posted [p:979692838] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>Gwynevere posted... </cite><quote>Nice one TChttps://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1bsxj8k/the_mens_loneliness_epidemic_is_not_going_to_be/</quote>Wow, seriously? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
VeggetaX 04/02/24 12:00:41 PM #21:	Robot waifus can't come to existence fast enough. --- Don't like it? Don't watch it. It's that simple Dictator of Nice Guys <cite>VeggetaX posted [p:979692844] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>Robot waifus can't come to existence fast enough. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ItsNotA2Mer 04/02/24 12:04:40 PM #22:	https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/6/695fba72.png --- It is impossible to live in the past, difficult to live in the present, and a waste to live in the future. (He/Him). <cite>ItsNotA2Mer posted [p:979692909] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/6/695fba72.png </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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BaphometFlux 04/02/24 12:08:13 PM #24:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] Because TC is pathetic. --- "The Future Rules!" <cite>BaphometFlux posted [p:979692974] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> Because TC is pathetic. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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bsp77 04/02/24 12:09:17 PM #26:	This is a great post actually. It is very true. I did suspect that TC did not write it though based on most other posts from him --- Currently playing: Cyberpunk 2077 <cite>bsp77 posted [p:979692993] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>This is a great post actually. It is very true.I did suspect that TC did not write it though based on most other posts from him </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ArkhamOrigins 04/02/24 12:10:10 PM #27:	ItsNotA2Mer posted... https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/6/695fba72.png This is fucking gold lol --- The <cite>ArkhamOrigins posted [p:979693006] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>ItsNotA2Mer posted... </cite><quote>https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/6/695fba72.png</quote>This is fucking gold lol </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Master_Kazuya 04/02/24 12:11:07 PM #28:	NPC posted... Sorry I wrote this before I had my mornin coffee... obviously I meant memorize Your thought emptiness epidemic is not going to be solved by Reddit --- 1 Like 0 Comments <cite>Master_Kazuya posted [p:979693026] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>NPC posted... </cite><quote>Sorry I wrote this before I had my mornin coffee... obviously I meant memorize </quote>Your thought emptiness epidemic is not going to be solved by Reddit </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Master_Kazuya 04/02/24 12:12:59 PM #29:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] It also makes the abrupt change to "memorize" pathetically funny instead of comprehensively confusing --- 1 Like 0 Comments <cite>Master_Kazuya posted [p:979693064] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> It also makes the abrupt change to "memorize" pathetically funny instead of comprehensively confusing </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Heineken14 04/02/24 12:13:21 PM #30:	Murphiroth posted... Not the first time I've seen him parrot someone else's thoughts as his own. I mean, look at his name.... --- Rage is a hell of an anesthetic. <cite>Heineken14 posted [p:979693070] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>Murphiroth posted... </cite><quote>Not the first time I've seen him parrot someone else's thoughts as his own.</quote>I mean, look at his name.... </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Prestoff 04/02/24 12:13:54 PM #31:	Heineken14 posted... I mean, look at his name.... lol --- DI MOLTO! <cite>Prestoff posted [p:979693086] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>Heineken14 posted... </cite><quote>I mean, look at his name....</quote>lol </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Murphiroth 04/02/24 12:14:19 PM #32:	Heineken14 posted... I mean, look at his name.... True, but I'm pretty sure he thinks that's ironic. <cite>Murphiroth posted [p:979693098] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>Heineken14 posted... </cite><quote>I mean, look at his name....</quote>True, but I'm pretty sure he thinks that's ironic. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
wanderingshade 04/02/24 12:20:19 PM #33:	How much of this problem do you think is due to many men not really looking for a "partner" or a meaningful relationship and just looking for bang maids? --- "You're made of spare parts, aren't ya, bud?" <cite>wanderingshade posted [p:979693203] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>How much of this problem do you think is due to many men not really looking for a "partner" or a meaningful relationship and just looking for bang maids? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
WingsOfGood 04/02/24 12:22:34 PM #34:	You realize women never cured male loneliness. Having a wife and no friends meant you just as lonely. <cite>WingsOfGood posted [p:979693242] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>You realize women never cured male loneliness. Having a wife and no friends meant you just as lonely.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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WingsOfGood 04/02/24 12:25:11 PM #36:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] But still lonely? <cite>WingsOfGood posted [p:979693284] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> But still lonely?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ironman2009 04/02/24 12:25:44 PM #37:	Find something to chase after. Once you get it find something else. --- THRILLHO <cite>ironman2009 posted [p:979693294] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>Find something to chase after. Once you get it find something else. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Japanties 04/02/24 12:36:51 PM #39:	wanderingshade posted... How much of this problem do you think is due to many men not really looking for a "partner" or a meaningful relationship and just looking for bang maids? As a man, I was the bang maid in my last two long-term relationships with women. It's odd that people think only men look for that. <cite>Japanties posted [p:979693465] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>wanderingshade posted... </cite><quote>How much of this problem do you think is due to many men not really looking for a "partner" or a meaningful relationship and just looking for bang maids?</quote>As a man, I was the bang maid in my last two long-term relationships with women. It's odd that people think only men look for that.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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ItsNotA2Mer 04/02/24 1:24:36 PM #41:	TC Houdini'd right out of here. --- It is impossible to live in the past, difficult to live in the present, and a waste to live in the future. (He/Him). <cite>ItsNotA2Mer posted [p:979694156] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>TC Houdini'd right out of here. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Kimberly 04/02/24 1:26:57 PM #42:	NPC posted... Women now have choices. I have noticed these choices being criticized, "Dating apps give women too many options and they don't want to settle!". And this is true. This is incel rhetoric. --- I'll be your guide when you wanna get lost I'll be the sword at your side at all cost <cite>Kimberly posted [p:979694192] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>NPC posted... </cite><quote>Women now have choices. I have noticed these choices being criticized, "Dating apps give women too many options and they don't want to settle!".And this is true.</quote>This is incel rhetoric. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
VeggetaX 04/03/24 7:04:21 PM #43:	Don't care for the subject of this topic but I don't see how using other sources and making it your own is some how a "gotcha". I take topics here and post it on other forums all the time and vice versa. Is it the unoriginality that's making the lot of yall thinking this is wrong or some shit? Is plagiarism something you guys really care about when it comes to topic stealing? Please educate me. --- Don't like it? Don't watch it. It's that simple Dictator of Nice Guys <cite>VeggetaX posted [p:979716512] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>Don't care for the subject of this topic but I don't see how using other sources and making it your own is some how a "gotcha". I take topics here and post it on other forums all the time and vice versa. Is it the unoriginality that's making the lot of yall thinking this is wrong or some shit? Is plagiarism something you guys really care about when it comes to topic stealing? Please educate me. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Guide 04/04/24 6:33:42 AM #44:	Dudes need more clubs, like old people had. --- evening main 2.4356848e+91 https://youtu.be/Acn5IptKWQU <cite>Guide posted [p:979723937] in The men's ... [t:80736146]...</cite> <quote>Dudes need more clubs, like old people had. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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