Current Events > I seriously envy people who have the ability to "not give a fuck".

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My life has been utterly ruined by my anxiety and inability to stop obsessing over how other people perceive me. It's completely ruined me. How are some people capable of this? Can you learn it?

It's pretty easy. Why are you so worried about what other people think. You post about this shit every fuckin' day, just stop man.

I used to be like you but now I'm dead inside

I didnt learn it its just how i am

MarvAlbert posted...

You post about this shit every fuckin' day, just stop man.

I'm sorry.

Just be a good person and do the right thing. If you're constantly worried about this then you obviously aren't making the right decisions so you need to stop making bad choices.

CRON posted...

I'm sorry.

jfc don't be sorry, I'm not telling you to stop posting, I'm giving you the answer to your question.

breathing and calming exercises help me a lot, I suffer from ptsd so I have crippling anxiety around people

420 blaze it

If you got to know them, you'd probably find that a lot of them aren't the sort of person you'd want to be.

You need to remember that most people don't care what you are doing. And who cares about the few that do? I only focus on being decent to the people around me.

Norman_Smiley posted...

420 blaze it

Weed has the opposite effect now and just makes me paranoid and sad.

ViewtifulJoe posted...

If you got to know them, you'd probably find that a lot of them aren't the sort of person you'd want to be.

I'm aware of the fact that most people are just doing their own thing and don't dwell on thinking about some random nobody, but it does nothing to change my thinking. I'm constantly afraid of being judged and talked about.

most of us just got tired
i got tired of caring about what people think
fuck them, is what my brain now says

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ayahuasca

alcohol is bad too

bsp77 posted...

You need to remember that most people don't care what you are doing. And who cares about the few that do? I only focus on being decent to the people around me.

I can't shake this. It comes from me being bullied, mocked and talked about throughout my entire life. I've never truly felt like I had this sense of privacy or ownership of myself.

shironinja posted...

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ayahuasca

Never in a million fucking years. All of that is just pseudospiritual nonsense. You ingest a substance and your brain basically hits the Google "I'm Feeling Lucky" button. If it actually helped, millions and millions of people would be frequently using it. Weed makes me paranoid and I've been told by countless people to not try any psychedelics.

CRON posted...

I can't shake this. It comes from me being bullied, mocked and talked about throughout my entire life. I've never truly felt like I had this sense of privacy or ownership of myself.

But you are older now and typically surrounded by older people as well, I presume. 30 year olds generally don't mock and bully each other.

My teen years weren't great either and I now have more confidence in my 40s than ever before. It was a process.

OK then try this.

Close your eyes.. and with your mouth blow all the air out of your lungs. Then over the course of two to five seconds breathe in slowly through your nose.

Repeat as needed.

I would tell you what you need to do, but I already know what you are going to say.

Ar0ge posted...

I would tell you what you need to do, but I already know what you are going to say.

I'm all ears.

Caring often leads to pain sadly.

You'll generally only find three types if people who can simply not give a fuck, at least in my opinion.

1: Egostical jerks who portray themselves as super nice.

2: Sociopaths.

3: People who have been through hell, and have become numb to it.

I fall into the 3red category. I went through so much stuff as a kid with horrible family things going on, I just eventually stopped caring. Damaged goods.

Senta posted...

You'll generally only find three types if people who can simply not give a fuck, at least in my opinion.

1: Egostical jerks who portray themselves as super nice.

2: Sociopaths.

3: People who have been through hell, and have become numb to it.

I fall into the 3red category. I went through so much stuff as a kid with horrible family things going on, I just eventually stopped caring. Damaged goods.

True if you mean truly not giving a fuck, but I took the topic more as in people who don't overly worry about what others are thinking when you are simply existing. You know, most people.

bsp77 posted...

True if you mean truly not giving a fuck, but I took the topic more as in people who don't overly worry about what others are thinking when you are simply existing. You know, most people.

Fair. I didnt even think of that. Shows how my mind works.

Senta posted...

Fair. I didnt even think of that. Shows how my mind works.

Or how TC's mind works :)

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/7/2/8/AAPhobAADutA.png

Stop making posts like this and being a spiteful hater in general, it'll go a long way towards helping your mental state.

bsp77 posted...

True if you mean truly not giving a fuck, but I took the topic more as in people who don't overly worry about what others are thinking when you are simply existing. You know, most people.

My problem is that I'm aware enough to realize this is the truth. Most people just don't give a shit about the granular details of complete strangers they don't care about. Even knowing this, I still can't change the way I think. Medication hasn't helped, and I can't afford therapy.

I know where this issue comes from but being aware of it just makes me feel worse.

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Well, I think the difference is actually caring vs arguing about it on a gaming forum. Often just not worth it. (I am sometimes guilty of this too)

You just use all that as armor so you dont have to be responsible for your own failure to generate any substantial progress in life. Imagine ten years from now youre gonna be in your 40s posting here about how you never had a chance in life because some children called you a nerd 25 years ago. At some point youre just making a choice to not change your circumstance, even if the circumstance is the pattern of behavior wherein you constantly indulge this insufferably narcissistic idea that youre a central figure in the daily thoughts of every person you encounter. You have way too much free time if getting ridiculed by everyone is the type of shit you fantasize about, you need to find something to do with your life.

https://youtu.be/2CLTBV0SV2Y

tldw: You need a life philosophy.