Current Events > Girlfriend has a "reasons to break up" list

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MrDrMan posted...

Ive seen people together two weeks and fighting every day. Means nothing. Every relationship is different.

Think what you want chief. Were good.

Clearly not. All this internet posturing isnt going to matter when your partner breaks up with you because youre a prick.

Zonbei posted...

Clearly not. All this internet posturing isnt going to matter when your partner breaks up with you because youre a prick.

Dont hold your breath on that.

MrDrMan posted...

Half this shit isnt even true. Ive never told her she cant share anything mental health realted. I bring her food all the time and shes the one thats always back and forth on shit so yes theres been times we broke up and I hooked up with other people.

Can I give you my honest opinion? I think the 2 of you should go your separate ways. She has issues, CLEARLY. She's mad about shit you've never even done, and she's mad at you for shit you have indeed done. You're mad at shit she's done, and are clearly at unease due to her harboring of negative feelings.

This one is a goner, if you try and push through it'll eventually end anyway and you're just prolonging the inevitable.

MrDrMan posted...

Weve been together like a year and a half. We were casually hooking up for probably a year and a half prior. List is probably six months old.

ok so how do you think the relationship was before you read the note, and how did she react exactly when you brought up the note?

this topic sucks

nfearurspecimn posted...

this topic sucks

Your account is not even two years old. Basically your opinion is irrelevant.

MrDrMan posted...

Your account is not even two years old. Basically your opinion is irrelevant.

it's not even your fault tho. everyone keeps tryna shove shit down your throat.

nfearurspecimn posted...

it's not even your fault tho. everyone keeps tryna shove shit down your throat.

I retract my previous statement.

120 post later and tc still only agrees with people who will support him.

@MrDrMan Can I ask you one thing? What do you think would happen if you maybe just went over the list with her and talked about both of your feelings on it?

Would you be willing to maybe try something like that?

@itachi15243

120 post later and tc still only agrees with people who will support him.

@MrDrMan Can I ask you one thing? What do you think would happen if you maybe just went over the list with her and talked about both of your feelings on it?

Would you be willing to maybe try something like that?

If you had read youd know Id already done that.

Youre surprised I dont agree with people trolling me?

MrDrMan posted...

@itachi15243

If you had read youd know Id already done that.

Youre surprised I dont agree with people trolling me?

I'm sorry, I last posted 130 posts or so ago and things seemed the same at a cursory look.

How did it go?

And I'm not sure if people are trolling you now, but I do know that you got a lot of good advice earlier and didn't want to hear it. I'm glad you talked it out with her though.

itachi15243 posted...

I'm sorry, I last posted 130 posts or so ago and things seemed the same at a cursory look.

How did it go?

And I'm not sure if people are trolling you now, but I do know that you got a lot of good advice earlier and didn't want to hear it. I'm glad you talked it out with her though.

Ok well sorry for the rude response. I dont agree on the good advice at all(at least early in the topic) but I digress.

Anyway were good. I always planned to address it somehow but Im not one to react out of emotion. I had my time to vent my frustrations and when I talked to her I had a clear head and it went smoothly.

I told her the list was hurtful even if it wasnt meant for me and she told me some things that bothered her. All in all it was a good talk and were good. I was never really mad about her making a list. I was upset about the contents of the list.

MrDrMan posted...

Ok well sorry for the rude response. I dont agree on the good advice at all(at least early in the topic) but I digress.

Anyway were good. I always planned to address it somehow but Im not one to react out of emotion. I had my time to vent my frustrations and when I talked to her I had a clear head and it went smoothly.

I told her the list was hurtful even if it wasnt meant and she told me some things that bothered her. All in all it was a good talk and were good.

I guess there are two sides to the same story, it's hard not kinda go off personal experience when you only only get a bit of information on one side, and can't manage to agree with or understand your side, you know?

I get the feeling that if she means as much to you as you make it sound, you can definitely make it work. Sounds like you made a solid first step toward that.

itachi15243 posted...

I guess there are two sides to the same story, it's hard not kinda go off personal experience when you only only get a bit of information on one side, and can't manage to agree with or understand your side, you know?

I get the feeling that if she means as much to you as you make it sound, you can definitely make it work. Sounds like you made a solid first step toward that.

I get that. I just wish people would simply say that rather than jumping to youre a pos she should dump you blah blah. Its the worst part of the internet. People see one post or one picture and think they know everything about you. Just not cool.

Man this girl means everything to me honestly.

If I had known that all you had to do for a 500 topic was write some shit on paper and pretend your girlfriend wrote it, I would have done that years ago

Gwynevere posted...

If I had known that all you had to do for a 500 topic was write some shit on paper and pretend your girlfriend wrote it, I would have done that years ago

Some people lack imagination. Its ok.

MrDrMan posted...

Some people lack imagination. Its ok.

Translation: I got demolished in this topic because my girlfriend was right and everyone immediately realized it, so Im trying to save face by pretending it was my master plan to troll all along, just like the other ten million times thats been done on the internet.

Zonbei posted...

Translation: I got demolished in this topic because my girlfriend was right and everyone immediately realized it, so Im trying to save face by pretending it was my master plan to troll all along, just like the other ten million times thats been done on the internet.

Ooh a bunch of nerds demolished me how will I live?

Its a joke. Relax. I dont care either way. Youre embarrassing yourself.

MrDrMan posted...

Ooh a bunch of nerds demolished me how will I live?

Its a joke. Relax. I dont care either way. Youre embarrassing yourself.

Dude, you airing your laundry on the internet - we all been there before, but don't start talking about embarrassment.

Nintendo_Porn posted...

Dude, you airing your laundry on the internet - we all been there before, but don't start talking about embarrassment.

Bruh you act like I didnt make the topic knowing that.

My girl is still with me. I dont give a shit what anyone here thinks. Has absolutely zero impact on my day to day life but if it makes you feel better thinking I embarrassed myself go ahead.

No, i refuse to shame a man talking about their fucking feelings and shit as i know it's hard, but realize you are doing this on CE - not the best bros to depend on for this. At least you won't get a bias opinion.

Nintendo_Porn posted...

No, i refuse to shame a man talking about their fucking feelings and shit as i know it's hard, but realize you are doing this on CE - not the best bros to depend on for this. At least you won't get a bias opinion.

Nah I knew that but Id rather share it here than risk changing anyones perception about her.

There were a few people I had decent discussions with. About what I expected.

Appreciate it though. It really is a challenge as a dude just telling people how you feel without getting instantly crucified or dismissed.

MrDrMan posted...

Nah I knew that but Id rather share it here than risk changing anyones perception about her.

There were a few people I had decent discussions with. About what I expected.

Appreciate it though. It really is a challenge as a dude just telling people how you feel without getting instantly crucified or dismissed.

At least the gf will always appreciate you letting her know there is something there. It's cool man...Don't feel ashamed of being vulnerable.

MrDrMan posted...

Ooh a bunch of nerds demolished me how will I live?

Its a joke. Relax. I dont care either way. Youre embarrassing yourself.

This coping strategy to protect your feelings is painfully transparent.

Nintendo_Porn posted...

No, i refuse to shame a man talking about their fucking feelings

He was getting shamed for being an absolute dick for literally the entire topic, not for talking about his feelings. I actually spent a bunch of time trying to talk this out with him and give advice but he just refused to engage and regressed into troll bullshit so I gave up.

Zonbei posted...

He was getting shamed for being an absolute dick for literally the entire topic, not for talking about his feelings. I actually spent a bunch of time trying to talk this out with him and give advice but he just refused to engage and regressed into troll bullshit so I gave up.

That's another thing, but I want to give the BOTD because it's so hard for guys to even do this sometimes. You can say you don't care all you like, but you still here. TC is half way there, so why not go all the way, and realize not all of us on CE are too far gone to not remember a human is on the other computer screen.

...Too optimistic?

Tc was bragging about how attractive his girlfriend is lol.

She's probably fat

Rayman2943 posted...

Tc was bragging about how attractive his girlfriend is lol.

She's probably fat

Hey!

If she ain't 280, she ain't a lady.

*Loves big girls*

Nintendo_Porn posted...

That's another thing, but I want to give the BOTD because it's so hard for guys to even do this sometimes. You can say you don't care all you like, but you still here. TC is half way there, so why not go all the way, and realize not all of us on CE are too far gone to not remember a human is on the other computer screen.

...Too optimistic?

I meant I gave up on spending my time actually trying to help. I clearly still care about berating him.

I tried meeting him halfway already and it didnt work. At this point he seems to have decided hes in the right and that trolling in the way to go.

So.. yeah probably too optimistic. But I was also optimistic earlier in the topic before I was proven incorrect, so.

Oh, when i meant that "you" that was directed at the TC. Trying to say deflection isn't the way to go cause i'd hope the thread wasn't for people to just kiss your ass.

Nintendo_Porn posted...

Oh, when i meant that "you" that was directed at the TC. Trying to say deflection isn't the way to go cause i'd hope the thread wasn't for people to just kiss your ass.

Ah I see. Yeah no as far as I can tell it was for exactly that and when that didnt happen they got defensive, and then eventually pretended they didnt care and it was all a troll. Such is life.

Zonbei posted...

Ah I see. Yeah no as far as I can tell it was for exactly that and when that didnt happen they got defensive, and then eventually pretended they didnt care and it was all a troll. Such is life.

Dont lie.