Current Events > 50 y/o New York woman spent 34,000 to have a BABY!! Is She SELFISH??

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50 y/o Sharon Kollmar from Long Island welcomed a 7lb baby girl after going through IVF when she was DESPERATE to have another child in the family!!

She was so desperate to extend her family of rabbits that she asked her 60 y/o fiance, Gus to go through it and he accepted.

She already had an 11 y/o Son, Aiden from a previous relationship but wanted more kids and after almost a decade, she was still single and started to look at sperm donors

She explained her hen lifelong friend, Gus who is now her fiance about pairing up to strike a relationship to try for a baby

He agreed and they paid 34,000 on an egg donor and IVF and welcomed their new daughter, Bayleigh Emerson to the family

She said "I so desperately wanted more kids. People thought i was crazy for wanting ot start a family all over again. I've been to see fertility doctors who were dismissive because of my age and told me that although i still had eggs, the chances of me falling pregnant were slim. I was also still single. I was talking to my male friend about everything and out of the blue he said, 'what about me'. I'd never even thought about it before but it seemed like a great idea. He had always been in mine and my son's life. We dated and beause i was 46 and he was 56 we tried to conceive right away. We were trying for years and looked into donor embryos but the cut off age was 45. So we turned to donor eggs and found someone who matched my colourings and finally i got pregnant"

She couldn't believe it after all these years at 49 she got pregnant and now she can start all over again.

People can't understand why they are doing this especially as she is nearing retirement in 15 years and Gus even closer to retirement and how they can afford it.

But they swore they will be there for the baby as Gus has a 39 y/o daughter already with 3 grandkids

Sharon wants to give hope to older women that the dream of a family doesn't have to end in their 40s and she feels much younger now with a new child in her life

Do you think these people are selfish?

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Ha, gross.

Yes.

No. Not selfish.

Edited my post. The only selfish act is using her own genes, she's too ugly.

that baby is fuck ugly

DespondentDeity posted...

that baby is fuck ugly

All babies are fucking ugly

Isn't that about what it costs anyway?

DespondentDeity posted...

that baby is fuck ugly

I mean most babies are to be brutally honest.

Questionmarktarius posted...

Isn't that about what it costs anyway?

That's on top of the usual hospital fees for giving birth, and I have to assume that insurance doesn't help cover paying the egg donor/IVF. Or pays less.

By the time the girl is in middle school her mom will be well into "everyone will assume that's her grandmother" age.

One of my friends had her first baby (and only, I presume) at 40. Baby and Mom are doing just fine.

49 is definitely pushing it but if everyone is healthy who cares? The baby will be well into adulthood and into a career before the Mom starts needing elderly care.

Everyone is having children later in life. I didn't start my family until I was 30 and had my last kid at 37.

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She looks average. Dude, pregnancy pictures are NEVER flattering. She had a goal and achieved it. She's actually lucky there wasn't any complications or genetic abnormalities.

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Weird line on her upper lip in that last one

Selfish? No, just insane. We cant imagine having a baby now. Im 48 and looking forward to having grown kids (mine are 17 & 14) and doing other things.

She could adopted an unwanted child but whatever

Zikten posted...

She could adopted an unwanted child but whatever

That would have probably also been $34K

Zikten posted...

She could adopted an unwanted child but whatever

Yea, like a 10 or 11 y.o. No one wants to adopt teenagers, she could had helped out and it would give her son someone closer to his age to adjust to while not having a kid who'll graduate from high school when she's almost 70.

Zikten posted...

She could adopted an unwanted child but whatever

Why would she do that? It's not the same as passing your own genes and bloodline on.

Vicious_Dios posted...

Why would she do that? It's not the same as passing your own genes and bloodline on.

Because it helps someone in need?

Also she really shouldn't have a kid by that age. So many things can go wrong

Questionmarktarius posted...

That would have probably also been $34K

Keep in mind that 34k doesn't even include any of the costs involving actually giving birth or what have you. It was just what was spent for her to get pregnant.

Having kids is an inherently selfish act.

Lonestar2000 posted...

Having kids is an inherently selfish act.

going through pain you don't have to for something that is very expensive for you (both in terms of having the kid, and longer term) is selfish?

My dad was almost that old when I was born. It'll be very rough for your parent to already be 70 by the time you're 20.

Im glad the baby appears to be healthy

Sure it's gonna suck for the kid having such old parents, but considering the other option is not existing at all I'm not sure I'd describe this as selfish

Not selfish, but they should be smacked for naming the poor child "Bayleigh Emerson".