Current Events > Did your parents believe in spankings?

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Stepdad beat on me for no reason.

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I got my ass BEAT. I didn't get it as bad as my parents or grandparents though. The the older generations did much worse.

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Snowflakes.

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Such a strange concept, striking a child to help them remember a lesson. It works though... Only if the parent does it out of love to begin with.

dolomedes posted...

it's unfortunate to see how many of you had violent parents. i can't even imagine being able to hit somebody with a belt.

also why were y'all such bad kids?

My dad just took his frustrations out on me and my mom. Blamed both of us for him being unhappy. I was "bad" by virtue of being there. Sure, I wasn't perfect, and sometimes I deserved what I got. Most of the time though he was just a violent, angry, psychopath who liked hurting us. So if he thought he had any reason at all, that's what we got.

One time in particular stands out. I had a pretty severe back injury from a car wreck when I was 9. Had to go through physical therapy to be able to walk without issues. He was cussing at us like he always did, and I said something back. He hit me in the back as hard as he could. My legs immediately went numb and I couldn't stand. He purposefully aimed for my injury hoping to hurt me, and I seriously thought I was paralyzed for a few moments until I managed to get back up.

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I wasn't a bad kid. My mom just had too much on her plate and made too many poor choices. She pretty much never had a chance at being normal though. Her childhood was infinitely worse than mine, so I didn't even realize that she was abusive (and still is tbh) until I was an adult because the standard of abuse and dysfunction in our family was seriously fucked up.


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Yes.. Got a few whoopins, eventually I found a way to block it out so it became futile.

I think the worst was when a switch was involved, particularly the thin whippy ones that left good ole welts and laceration type marks. I couldn't really block those out, but hand/belt was nullified.

good times

^ That one above post reminds me of my dad. He didn't get physically violent usually, but due to my siblings running amok caused them to shelter the hell out of me and my simple existance I was being rebellous/bad. There were so many random small things and basically being forbidden to make any friends or socialize because I'd wind up running off and getting pregnant or something. Might as well be the reason, but I'm male so you can work the logic there. It even stemmed down to small things, like taking my shoes off at the end of the day and before can even finish the process get pulled into an arguement about how my shoes don't belong in the middle of the floor. I literally just took them off and was in the process of putting them where they belong... but no. You know the type, where you're in the process of doing something, but they gotta feel the need to order you to do the obvious and then feel it was required.

Trinstin posted...

Such a strange concept, striking a child to help them remember a lesson. It works though... Only if the parent does it out of love to begin with.

Not strange at all. People tend to learn shit by experiencing shit. A toddler doesn't really understand that the stove will burn him just because mom told him that it would. Gotta feel that himself.

I'm not interested in spanking my kids but I understand the reasoning. Was spanked, beat with belts too, btw.

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Yeah but I got spanked the least out of all my siblings
He must have mellowed out by the time they had me or something

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Yup and when they did spank me I 100% deserved it. It was never anything but the hand either.

dolomedes posted...

idk man, can any of the people in this topic remember the specific reasons for an individual 'spanking' session?

Oh for sure. I remember I kept going in my grandma's room to watch her TV when I was told not to. Got a whooping for not listening.

I fucked up several times by not having the chores done when I was home all day. Whooping.

Wasn't really a talker but I would talk back to other adults if I didn't like them. If word got back to my mom. Got a whooping.

All these were preceded by several warnings mind you . I was just a stubborn kid.

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dolomedes posted...

so you have to experience that your parents are violent people to learn that... your parents are violent people?

idk man, can any of the people in this topic remember the specific reasons for an individual 'spanking' session?

The only one I can specifically remember is when I got hurt and cried during a martial arts lesson, so my dad spanked me for embarrassing him.

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Mine did but i can count on my hand how many times it happened

Funny how all the super anti spanking posters are some of the most dramatic, self richeous
, non forgiving people ive ever seen.

Is spanking necessarily right?? No. But does doing it make you an abusive monster?? No

Settle the eff down with the knee jerk nonsense.

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Yes, and I turned out fine

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Nope, my mother never laid a hand on me as far as I can recall.

My dad was more a fan of assault/abuse.

Belts, metal spatulas, broomsticks, or anything that was within reach.

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Oh yeah was reminded of one thing I got choked. There was this trend where I literally get in trouble because of other kids and I was just present. Such as detention for throwing rocks at a dumptruck or running around in church, etc.
This one time I'm watching kids try to ride a rocking horse down the stairs onto concrete below at the church and trying to prevent injury from happening. They don't get punished/stopped, instead I get told to stop and sit down. So I sit, watch the potential disaster unfold. Time to go, apparently I've been rebellous and get hand choked/strangled at the front door and then a second time at the car cuz I'm such as trouble maker.

I guess what I should have done is shoved those kids off the second floor straight into the concrete below.

Ohhhhhhhh yes they did

They sure did

got hit with hands, belts, spoons, etc. my dad also threw a shovel at me once

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I got spanked a couple times. If its out of love, and I can see they genuinely care for me, then it is effective.

There is a thin line however. But I will certainly spank my kids. Discipline is a necessity in this world, despite what most people may say. Ill raise my kids how I was raised, because I came out pretty good.

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dolomedes posted...

so you have to experience that your parents are violent people to learn that... your parents are violent people?

idk man, can any of the people in this topic remember the specific reasons for an individual 'spanking' session?

Yes, and it did no good for me but I think it depends on the kid. I think my dad was smart because he knew that type of discipline would only do the opposite to me. Then again, I barely caused any head ache for my parrents at all. That was reserved for my sisters and the fact that they died too young for me to really go through that 'standard' childhood (that is no longer standard today with all the divorce).

You could get the paddle in the elementary school i went to in the 80s.

When you saw that one bully walking out crying and holding his ass you thought twice about acting up. A lot less out of control kids too.

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