Current Events > Is there anything I can do to improve my relationship?

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I feel like everything is completely outside my control. She controls everything. I'm just here to hope everything lines up enough so I get an hour or so of alone time. I hate my life.

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Communication. You need to communicate that you feel like you have no control. Things that are bothersome and go unsaid are basically seeds that grow into problems.

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But.. you guys don't even live together

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Wii_Shaker posted...

Communication. You need to communicate that you feel like you have no control. Things that are bothersome and go unsaid are basically seeds that grow into problems.

All I want is to be held and feel loved. I want physical intimacy, not even just sex, cuddling in the car on the way to our destination is enough. She doesnt understand that.

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Akagami_Shanks posted...

But.. you guys don't even live together

That's the point. Between our two complicated schedules I never see her anymore. If I cant get a ride Tuesday I wont see her until Friday, a whole week from now.

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Duncanwii posted...

All I want is to be held and feel loved. I want physical intimacy, not even just sex, cuddling in the car on the way to our destination is enough. She doesnt understand that.

If you can open up to a bunch of strangers on a message board. You should be able to say the same thing to your significant other. Sometimes it's hard to articulate exactly how you are feeling to another person and word it in a way that is not offensive to them. I get that.

But if you can't tell another what you want in a relationship, how are you ever going to get it?

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Step 1: Get a car.

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Agnostic420 posted...

Step 1: Get a car.

My doctor has strongly advised me against that.

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Step 2 sell the car

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She is bullheaded and will not change her mind no matter how many times you beg. I've just stopped asking for things after the first no. If she says shes too hot to snuggle that's it too bad. She also thinks public displays of affection aside from hand holding is not appropriate and will only kiss and cuddle in the car or in her apartment. It is incredibly warm feeling those rare moments I get to lay down with her and nap but those are far and few between and sex has only been attempted one time.

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do literally anything other than ask the people of gamefaqs for fucking assistance

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Have you tried masturbating in front of her... with her consent of course

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Don't beg, talk like a human being. Respect her boundaries and accept "no" for an answer.
If she's more comfortable in her apartment, maybe suggest an at-home date night. Make some food and pick a good movie.


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Doesn't sound like she's all that into you, but from what i know about you, the feeling seems to be mutual. Why stay together?

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Akagami_Shanks posted...

Doesn't sound like she's all that into you, but from what i know about you, the feeling seems to be mutual. Why stay together?

I'm small and unattractive, I have a myriad of physical and mental problems, I have no sexual experience, I have no car and no money, and despite all that she accepts me. Not only that she says she loves me. I'm not likely to get the same result from 95% of the rest of the dating pool.

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