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meestermj 12/08/19 4:36:43 PM #51: |
This is literally what HR is for.
She handled it in the most professional and adult way possible. You said something incredibly offensive, only you to blame here. --- Psn: beastlytoast Left-handed fire-slapsies leave me feeling confused about life. - Merydia ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Spiritlittle 12/08/19 4:46:39 PM #52: |
meestermj posted...
This is literally what HR is for.No, she didn't. Lmao. HR is for unresolvable grievances, not petty passive aggressive nonsense. What would have been most appropriate would be for the offended party to be an adult and vocal his/her displeasure and offense at the comment to the person who said it. Then, the matter is up to the offending party: either apologize and explain yourself, or tell him/her to fuck off (not verbatim, of course). Then you go to HR if the offending person does not change his/her behavior. That's how it works in NC anyway. You have to prove you have tried to reasonably resolve the situation before HR will do anything. --- Official Raven of the Injustice 2 boards Official Jill Valentine of the Marvel vs Capcom Infinite boards ... Copied to Clipboard!
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meestermj 12/08/19 4:49:48 PM #53: |
Spiritlittle posted...
No, she didn't. Lmao. HR is for unresolvable grievances, not petty passive aggressive nonsense.Most companies I've worked at encourage you not to try and resolve matters yourself, as it can just cause further issues. OP should know better than to say that shit at work. At the very least he should have been proactive and apologized/approached his coworker first. --- Psn: beastlytoast Left-handed fire-slapsies leave me feeling confused about life. - Merydia ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Spiritlittle 12/08/19 4:53:33 PM #54: |
meestermj posted...
Most companies I've worked at encourage you not to try and resolve matters yourself, as it can just cause further issues.There's also HR laws that vary by state. For example, I can be fired from my teaching position in NC just because parents or staff find out I'm gay and complain about it to the district. In California, you're protected from that kind of discrimination. --- Official Raven of the Injustice 2 boards Official Jill Valentine of the Marvel vs Capcom Infinite boards ... Copied to Clipboard!
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meestermj 12/08/19 4:55:55 PM #55: |
Spiritlittle posted...
There's also HR laws that vary by state. For example, I can be fired from my teaching position in NC just because parents or staff find out I'm gay and complain about it to the district.No matter what, it boils down to OP fucking up. He shouldn't have said it, it's absolutely unacceptable in a professional environment. His boss would have been entirely justified in firing him, he's lucky it was just a warning. OP needs to use this as a learning experience and grow as a person. --- Psn: beastlytoast Left-handed fire-slapsies leave me feeling confused about life. - Merydia ... Copied to Clipboard!
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ColdOne666 12/08/19 5:33:48 PM #56: |
Shes a backstabber and a snitch
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spikethedevil 12/08/19 5:35:52 PM #57: |
ColdOne666 posted...
Shes a backstabber and a snitch Lol no he said a word thats deemed very offensive in a professional setting and got in trouble for it. --- A garbage pod!? It's a smegging garbage pod! ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Spiritlittle 12/08/19 5:44:00 PM #58: |
spikethedevil posted...
Lol no he said a word thats deemed very offensive in a professional setting and got in trouble for it.Like you've never said anything you shouldn't have at work... --- Official Raven of the Injustice 2 boards Official Jill Valentine of the Marvel vs Capcom Infinite boards ... Copied to Clipboard!
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spikethedevil 12/08/19 5:48:03 PM #59: |
Its called being careful who you say things around.
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meestermj 12/08/19 5:48:44 PM #60: |
Spiritlittle posted...
Like you've never said anything you shouldn't have at work...So what if he does? If he does, any punishment he gets is justified. --- Psn: beastlytoast Left-handed fire-slapsies leave me feeling confused about life. - Merydia ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Trigg3rH4ppy 12/08/19 5:56:17 PM #61: |
If you make things awkward shes gonna talk shit behind your back and try to turn other people against her. Kill her with kindness.
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Cookie Bag 12/08/19 5:57:19 PM #62: |
metallica846 posted...
Ghost her ass. Fuck she thinks this is?Lol seriously this, fuck her don't talk to her shitty ass again even if you were wrong and you apologized who the fuck does this. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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gloBal enemy 12/08/19 8:30:23 PM #64: |
I sense quite a few people here have no idea what it's like to work in a professional office environment especially if it's one of the more progressive office cultures around tolerance and no bullying/hate-type speech.
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Wewillrocku 12/08/19 8:40:15 PM #65: |
ultimately this word is Ableist, that's what the problem is.
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SiO4 12/08/19 8:49:56 PM #66: |
metallica846 posted...
LOL Right? gloBal enemy posted... I sense quite a few people here have no idea what it's like to work in a professional office environment especially if it's one of the more progressive office cultures around tolerance and no bullying/hate-type speech. See my post#24 --- "Whatever the reason you're on Mars, I'm glad you're there, and I wish I was with you." ~Carl Sagan. Currently playing: Flight Simulator X.~PC ... Copied to Clipboard!
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PalmerSensei 12/08/19 8:59:44 PM #67: |
ryudo500 posted...
@PalmerSensei Fwiw, I don't think she was wrong for establishing a boundary on that word, but, like others have already said, she easily could've just talked to you about it first. I'm guesssing her trying to talk to you afterwards was her way of attempting to clear the air between you two, but I think only a heart-to-heart between you two would really do that, though. It might not even be worth it if you guys aren't close friends (and it sounds like you aren't, based on previous posts). It's good to know that things mostly worked out alright, though. --- You have the castle, but not the king. You have Rome, but not its emperor. I am the conqueror of your kingdom, and you know it's true. - Mr.GGFan ... Copied to Clipboard!
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fusespliff 12/08/19 9:01:57 PM #68: |
gloBal enemy posted...
I sense quite a few people here have no idea what it's like to work in a professional office environment especially if it's one of the more progressive office cultures around tolerance and no bullying/hate-type speech. I honestly don't and judging by some responses wouldn't like to. I think it's absolutely insane someone could get fired over a bad word that wasn't directed at anyone nor were there any (potential) clients in the vicinity. Yes, people should be able to carry themselves in a professional manner and TC screwed up. But I'd consider not going "b-b-but they used a no-no" to a superior to be carrying yourself in a professional manner as well. I mostly work with "manly" men who think calling each other gay is hilarious and it got annoying fast. Seems like this is just the other extreme to that. --- ... ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Gamerguymass 12/08/19 9:06:34 PM #69: |
Generally when people get offended over that word to the point of wanting to get you in trouble it's because they know someone who is mentally handicapped. There are plenty of people that don't say it or think it's wrong to say, but usually if they don't know someone personally they won't take it to a higher authority but may or may not just tell you not to use it.
Because of the type of climate we live in these days where people tend to be a bit overly we sensitive, you will not win. There is no argument at all that you can use to justify what you said being ok. Not that it would be ok in a less sensitive environment, but basically you need to admit fault and say it won't happen again so you don't get demoted or worse yet lose your job. --- Now Playing: "The Hunt for the Two Missing Nintendo 64 Games" An expansion came out, but I'm still a third of the way through! ... Copied to Clipboard!
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malenz 12/08/19 9:10:40 PM #70: |
I agree with the sentiment that you did fuck up and wisely apoligized, you don't owe her to be buddy buddy after something like this.
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Middle hope 12/08/19 11:51:23 PM #71: |
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toyota 12/09/19 1:45:56 AM #72: |
ryudo500 posted...
my co-woker who as in office cubicle, said she will go to HR for me saying that. tbh if she is comfortably enough to outright say she is going to HR for something you said then she should have been comfortable enough to just warn you it wasnt a cool word to use before actually going ... Copied to Clipboard!
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spikethedevil 12/09/19 5:06:55 AM #73: |
Gamerguymass posted...
Generally when people get offended over that word to the point of wanting to get you in trouble it's because they know someone who is mentally handicapped. There are plenty of people that don't say it or think it's wrong to say, but usually if they don't know someone personally they won't take it to a higher authority but may or may not just tell you not to use it. What I said earlier but better put. --- A garbage pod!? It's a smegging garbage pod! ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Akagami_Shanks 12/09/19 5:49:38 AM #74: |
lmao i would never talk to her again unless i absolutely needed to for my job. I would even make it a point to talk to people around her but not her specifically
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gloBal enemy 12/09/19 6:42:03 AM #75: |
fusespliff posted...
I honestly don't and judging by some responses wouldn't like to. Fair enough. My best friend recently joined my company and used the G word... and was shocked when I let him know that whilst socially I'm fine with it, given the prominence of our company in LGBT communities it would be unwise to use such language around the office loosely. I think I'm just used to being careful with words and behaviours nowadays but being PC all the time isn't natural and definitely isn't for everyone. --- If you can understand this, I'm 2/cosC for you. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Akagami_Shanks 12/09/19 7:12:02 AM #76: |
gloBal enemy posted...
Fair enough. My best friend recently joined my company and used the G word... and was shocked when I let him know that whilst socially I'm fine with it, given the prominence of our company in LGBT communities it would be unwise to use such language around the office loosely.PC people are my enemy as long as nothing is done maliciously, I have no issues with it. I sincerely hope this new outrage era dies down fast --- PSN: TYruler50 XBL: TYruler50, Switch: 4538-0715-0699, Battle.net: TYmaster50#1751, Steam: TYmaster50, 3DS FC: 4614-3266-5802, Wii U: Tymaster7601 ... Copied to Clipboard!
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ryudo500 12/09/19 8:38:41 PM #77: |
will post back later tongiht and reply to soem of you
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ryudo500 12/09/19 9:17:32 PM #78: |
spikethedevil posted...
Lol no he said a word thats deemed very offensive in a professional setting and got in trouble for it.@spikethedevil yes i was wrong to say it but the handling was what I was irritated with --- squaresoft NEVER FORGET LAKERS & SPURS ... Copied to Clipboard!
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ryudo500 12/09/19 9:17:53 PM #79: |
Akagami_Shanks posted...
lmao i would never talk to her again unless i absolutely needed to for my job. I would even make it a point to talk to people around her but not her specifically@Akagami_Shanks yea I agree --- squaresoft NEVER FORGET LAKERS & SPURS ... Copied to Clipboard!
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SiO4 12/09/19 11:48:35 PM #80: |
Akagami_Shanks posted...
For real. And just for starters here, saying a word is one thing. Losing a job over it is another. The outrage crew have no problem with punishments that far outstrip the alleged offense. The PC crew has an almost fetish-like willingness to punish, which imo, is just as bad if not worse. They don't even care, they just like getting people in trouble. My mom passed in the 80's. I've spent a lifetime rolling with momma jokes, because not everyone is going to know everything about your life. And that's life. Shit happens, it's the one thing we all have in common. Fucking people need to learn to live. --- "Whatever the reason you're on Mars, I'm glad you're there, and I wish I was with you." ~Carl Sagan. Currently playing: Flight Simulator X.~PC ... Copied to Clipboard!
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ryudo500 12/10/19 1:02:35 AM #81: |
damn
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gamer167 12/10/19 1:04:54 AM #82: |
Fuck man I am in for a rude awakening when I get out of the military if saying something as simple as that gets you in trouble.
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SiO4 12/10/19 1:21:04 AM #83: |
ryudo500 posted...
damn ? --- "Whatever the reason you're on Mars, I'm glad you're there, and I wish I was with you." ~Carl Sagan. Currently playing: Flight Simulator X.~PC ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Mr_Karate_II 12/10/19 3:01:35 AM #84: |
That's why you shouldn't say stupid shit like that at work or ever, hell i would have reported you because i have relatives that are mentally handicapped.
Granted she should have probably talked to you first instead of going straight to HR but maybe she has a family member or knows someone who's handicapped. If you work in a professional environment then you should act like it. --- Currently Playing: Resident Evil 4 Mercenaries Mode,Resident Evil 6 Mercenaries Mode & Call of Duty Ghosts ... Copied to Clipboard!
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ryudo500 12/10/19 2:26:36 PM #85: |
Mr_Karate_II posted...
That's why you shouldn't say stupid shit like that at work or ever, hell i would have reported you because i have relatives that are mentally handicapped.@Mr_Karate_II First of al not that this matters but I never said that word with negative real connotation behind it. if I were in your shoes I prolly WOULD be offended too BUTI WOULD NOT , fora first time offense, go above that person not because i think its sneaky but becuaeI would think putting them in their place right then adn there and telling me why it was wrong and hwo wrong I was saying it would be just as good maybe better. plus m not scared of confrontation. I do not want people liek you also calling out snowflake or PC culture as well, I thnk its highly hypocritical. You woudl bein the right if I kept saying it or DIRECTED it towards you maybe --- squaresoft NEVER FORGET LAKERS & SPURS ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Mr_Karate_II 12/10/19 4:52:09 PM #86: |
ryudo500 posted...
@Mr_Karate_III'm gonna be that guy and say it's hard to read your posts. Like do you even have spell check on your phone or computer? --- Currently Playing: Resident Evil 4 Mercenaries Mode,Resident Evil 6 Mercenaries Mode & Call of Duty Ghosts ... Copied to Clipboard!
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krazychao5 12/10/19 4:57:32 PM #87: |
Mr_Karate_II posted...
I'm gonna be that guy and say it's hard to read your posts. Like do you even have spell check on your phone or computer?he might be afflicted of the condition he made fun of. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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berlyman101 12/10/19 5:05:53 PM #88: |
I can't believe I'm defending corporate culture but this is an acceptable outcome. He got bitched out, chose to apologize and didn't lose his job. Personally, I wouldn't have said anything the first time unless we worked with someone who has a developmental disability. Second time, I'm warning you and third time I go over your head, while documenting each incident. I don't want that shit while I'm trying to work no matter what environment it is. If you don't like it, quit.
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ryudo500 12/10/19 9:26:32 PM #89: |
@berlyman101 that fine. Like I said I knwo I shouldnt have said it but it was handled pretty poorly, some by me but mostly on her end
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Akagami_Shanks 12/12/19 8:51:07 PM #90: |
you are ignoring her now, right TC?
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ryudo500 12/14/19 12:18:26 AM #91: |
Akagami_Shanks posted...
you are ignoring her now, right TC?yes --- squaresoft NEVER FORGET LAKERS & SPURS ... Copied to Clipboard!
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