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J03can 11/30/19 3:09:56 PM #1:	Weve been married for 1.5 years, together for 11.5 total. Weve been in a rough patch. I can be emotionally abusive but am seeing a therapist to work on it. She came home last night saying shes made up her mind and its officially done. Ive been pouring my heart out to her all day to no avail. I know, blogfaqs, but im having a really hard time and dont know what to do or where to reach out. --- Jerry, it's Frank Costanza!!! Mr Steinbrenner's here George is dead - call me back!!!! <cite>J03can posted [p:930915944] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>Weve been married for 1.5 years, together for 11.5 total. Weve been in a rough patch. I can be emotionally abusive but am seeing a therapist to work on it. She came home last night saying shes made up her mind and its officially done. Ive been pouring my heart out to her all day to no avail. I know, blogfaqs, but im having a really hard time and dont know what to do or where to reach out. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Irony 11/30/19 3:10:09 PM #2:	Well? --- I am Mogar, God of Irony and The Devourer of Topics. <cite>Irony posted [p:930915957] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>Well? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
EverDownward 11/30/19 3:10:54 PM #3:	I'm really sorry, dude. I wish I knew what to say. --- take me somewhere nice "if you don't heal what hurt you, you will bleed on people that didn't cut you" <cite>EverDownward posted [p:930915990] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>I'm really sorry, dude. I wish I knew what to say.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
J03can 11/30/19 3:12:28 PM #4:	EverDownward posted... I'm really sorry, dude. I wish I knew what to say. Honestly saying that is even nice. I feel alone --- Jerry, it's Frank Costanza!!! Mr Steinbrenner's here George is dead - call me back!!!! <cite>J03can posted [p:930916051] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>EverDownward posted... </cite> <quote>I'm really sorry, dude. I wish I knew what to say.</quote>Honestly saying that is even nice. I feel alone </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
konokonohamaru 11/30/19 3:15:46 PM #5:	What did you want that you weren't getting, that triggered emotional abuse? --- A very happy young man looking forward to a bright and wonderful future. <cite>konokonohamaru posted [p:930916176] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>What did you want that you weren't getting, that triggered emotional abuse?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
J03can 11/30/19 3:18:26 PM #6:	I dont know. In therapy we are figuring it goes back to my childhood and family situation growing up. Its always a reaction to something small that builds and then has me saying something horribly and fucked up which i dont even believe. --- Jerry, it's Frank Costanza!!! Mr Steinbrenner's here George is dead - call me back!!!! <cite>J03can posted [p:930916287] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>I dont know. In therapy we are figuring it goes back to my childhood and family situation growing up. Its always a reaction to something small that builds and then has me saying something horribly and fucked up which i dont even believe. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Sada_Pop 11/30/19 3:34:11 PM #7:	That's a long ass time to be together before getting married. --- People would have you believe that the accusation of racism is more offensive than ACTUAL racism. <cite>Sada_Pop posted [p:930916937] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>That's a long ass time to be together before getting married.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
J03can 11/30/19 3:34:41 PM #8:	Wanted to be sure. Then i was. Now this --- Jerry, it's Frank Costanza!!! Mr Steinbrenner's here George is dead - call me back!!!! <cite>J03can posted [p:930916952] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>Wanted to be sure. Then i was. Now this </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Pepys Monster 11/30/19 3:36:44 PM #9:	Damn, sorry to hear this. My fiancee left me, so I can relate. --- GOML <cite>Pepys Monster posted [p:930917024] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>Damn, sorry to hear this. My fiancee left me, so I can relate.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
BlockAddition 11/30/19 3:37:51 PM #10:	She's already getting blasted --- hi <cite>BlockAddition posted [p:930917066] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>She's already getting <cite>blasted</cite></quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Ultima Dragon 11/30/19 3:38:33 PM #11:	At least you understand that you have a problem. It just sucks if she's already at the point where she's had enough and run out of patience before you have a chance to really work through it. You guys have been together 11.5 years, there must be plenty of things you love about one another despite whatever flaws you may have. Don't really know what to say, but I hope you can work through it. --- "We know things can move faster than the speed of light because liberal tears are on the ground before something offensive even happens" - Coffeebeanz <cite>Ultima Dragon posted [p:930917091] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>At least you understand that you have a problem. It just sucks if she's already at the point where she's had enough and run out of patience before you have a chance to really work through it. You guys have been together 11.5 years, there must be plenty of things you love about one another despite whatever flaws you may have. Don't really know what to say, but I hope you can work through it.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
J03can 11/30/19 3:41:22 PM #12:	Yes you are right on all of that but she is steadfast that she has made up her mind. She says she still loves me but doesnt believe me when i say i am going to fix myself, even though i have been. The past couple of months where this has come out have been better and there hasn't been an incident but she says its too little too late --- Jerry, it's Frank Costanza!!! Mr Steinbrenner's here George is dead - call me back!!!! <cite>J03can posted [p:930917215] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>Yes you are right on all of that but she is steadfast that she has made up her mind. She says she still loves me but doesnt believe me when i say i am going to fix myself, even though i have been. The past couple of months where this has come out have been better and there hasn't been an incident but she says its too little too late </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
apocalyptic_4 11/30/19 3:42:09 PM #13:	https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/boards/295-advice I'll try here also for some thoughts --- XBL: Mrpicardbottoms <cite>apocalyptic_4 posted [p:930917243] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/boards/295-advice I'll try here also for some thoughts </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
smoke_break 11/30/19 3:44:52 PM #14:	J03can posted... Yes you are right on all of that but she is steadfast that she has made up her mind. She says she still loves me but doesnt believe me when i say i am going to fix myself, even though i have been. The past couple of months where this has come out have been better and there hasn't been an incident but she says its too little too late Damn, why does she have such a short leash if what you say is true. Oh well, if she wants out she wants out. Best of luck, gonna be tough but you can make it through this. --- https://imgur.com/WTmIPt8 <cite>smoke_break posted [p:930917344] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>J03can posted... </cite> <quote>Yes you are right on all of that but she is steadfast that she has made up her mind. She says she still loves me but doesnt believe me when i say i am going to fix myself, even though i have been. The past couple of months where this has come out have been better and there hasn't been an incident but she says its too little too late</quote>Damn, why does she have such a short leash if what you say is true. Oh well, if she wants out she wants out. Best of luck, gonna be tough but you can make it through this. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
cardoor123 11/30/19 3:45:29 PM #15:	That's what you fucking get for being abusive. Why should anyone stay just to be abused? Fuck off. Don't want shit? Then don't fucking start shit _ <cite>cardoor123 posted [p:930917367] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>That's what you fucking get for being abusive. Why should anyone stay just to be abused? Fuck off. Don't want shit? Then don't fucking start shit _</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
BewmHedshot 11/30/19 3:46:52 PM #16:	Humble brag by TC --- Cavaliers: ONCE <cite>BewmHedshot posted [p:930917418] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>Humble brag by TC</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Hanky_Bannister 11/30/19 3:48:25 PM #17:	She could only take one year? Damn son --- "3rd Best Whiskey in Northern Burma" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hvjOu4EzjYg <cite>Hanky_Bannister posted [p:930917491] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>She could only take one year? Damn son</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Cornmuffins 11/30/19 3:48:47 PM #18:	Do you have kids? Any major assets? Hopefully you don't have to spend too much on a lawyer. --- Getting C's and D's, saying thanks and please. You broke the golden rule, you're staying after school. <cite>Cornmuffins posted [p:930917504] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>Do you have kids? Any major assets? Hopefully you don't have to spend too much on a lawyer.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ScionTC_07 11/30/19 3:48:57 PM #19:	Damn im sorry to hear TC Never been married so I cant relate but I hope everything ends up ok for ya --- Reppin Daly City 650 breeeeh! Not changing this sig till I get a ghetto Asian gf (5-25-13) <cite>ScionTC_07 posted [p:930917510] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>Damn im sorry to hear TC Never been married so I cant relate but I hope everything ends up ok for ya</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Mc Poottie 11/30/19 3:49:27 PM #20:	J03can posted... Yes you are right on all of that but she is steadfast that she has made up her mind. She says she still loves me but doesnt believe me when i say i am going to fix myself, even though i have been. The past couple of months where this has come out have been better and there hasn't been an incident but she says its too little too late Don't lose hope, continue to go to therapy and work on yourself. You'll find someone new down the road and hopefully it will be a more fulfilling relationship for everyone. --- Go Pack! <cite>Mc Poottie posted [p:930917529] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>J03can posted...</cite> <quote>Yes you are right on all of that but she is steadfast that she has made up her mind. She says she still loves me but doesnt believe me when i say i am going to fix myself, even though i have been. The past couple of months where this has come out have been better and there hasn't been an incident but she says its too little too late </quote> Don't lose hope, continue to go to therapy and work on yourself. You'll find someone new down the road and hopefully it will be a more fulfilling relationship for everyone.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
J03can 11/30/19 3:49:45 PM #21:	apocalyptic_4 posted... https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/boards/295-advice I'll try here also for some thoughts Thanks smoke_break posted... Damn, why does she have such a short leash if what you say is true. Oh well, if she wants out she wants out. Best of luck, gonna be tough but you can make it through this. Shes got a long leash to be honest. Weve had 2 pretty rough patches along the way, she doesnt want to go through it again. cardoor123 posted... That's what you fucking get for being abusive. Why should anyone stay just to be abused? Fuck off. Don't want shit? Then don't fucking start shit _ Youre right but its not really that simple --- Jerry, it's Frank Costanza!!! Mr Steinbrenner's here George is dead - call me back!!!! <cite>J03can posted [p:930917542] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>apocalyptic_4 posted... </cite> <quote>https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/boards/295-advice I'll try here also for some thoughts</quote>Thanks smoke_break posted... </cite> <quote>Damn, why does she have such a short leash if what you say is true. Oh well, if she wants out she wants out. Best of luck, gonna be tough but you can make it through this.</quote>Shes got a long leash to be honest. Weve had 2 pretty rough patches along the way, she doesnt want to go through it again. cardoor123 posted... </cite> <quote>That's what you fucking get for being abusive. Why should anyone stay just to be abused? Fuck off. Don't want shit? Then don't fucking start shit _</quote>Youre right but its not really that simple </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Ruvan22 11/30/19 3:49:59 PM #22:	Really sorry to hear that TC, especially after 11 years.. how old are the two of you? I know she seems steadfast, have you two talked about couple's counseling? So she can feel she is "heard"? <cite>Ruvan22 posted [p:930917550] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>Really sorry to hear that TC, especially after 11 years.. how old are the two of you? I know she seems steadfast, have you two talked about couple's counseling? So she can feel she is "heard"?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LinkPizza 11/30/19 3:50:04 PM #23:	Mc Poottie posted... J03can posted... Yes you are right on all of that but she is steadfast that she has made up her mind. She says she still loves me but doesnt believe me when i say i am going to fix myself, even though i have been. The past couple of months where this has come out have been better and there hasn't been an incident but she says its too little too late Don't lose hope, continue to go to therapy and work on yourself. You'll find someone new down the road and hopefully it will be a more fulfilling relationship for everyone. I agree with this... --- Official King of Kings Switch FC: 7216-4417-4511 Add Me because I'll probably add you. I'm probably the LinkPizza you'll see around. <cite>LinkPizza posted [p:930917556] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>Mc Poottie posted...</cite> <quote>J03can posted...</cite> <quote>Yes you are right on all of that but she is steadfast that she has made up her mind. She says she still loves me but doesnt believe me when i say i am going to fix myself, even though i have been. The past couple of months where this has come out have been better and there hasn't been an incident but she says its too little too late </quote> Don't lose hope, continue to go to therapy and work on yourself. You'll find someone new down the road and hopefully it will be a more fulfilling relationship for everyone.</quote> I agree with this...</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
J03can 11/30/19 3:52:12 PM #24:	Cornmuffins posted... Do you have kids? Any major assets? Hopefully you don't have to spend too much on a lawyer. No kids, we own a house. I hope not either, but whatever... ScionTC_07 posted... Damn im sorry to hear TC Never been married so I cant relate but I hope everything ends up ok for ya Thanks bro Mc Poottie posted... Don't lose hope, continue to go to therapy and work on yourself. You'll find someone new down the road and hopefully it will be a more fulfilling relationship for everyone. Thats the plan. I really hope / wish i could make it work with this one... we are a great match for the most part. We dont hate each other - she says she "doesnt want it to come to that" --- Jerry, it's Frank Costanza!!! Mr Steinbrenner's here George is dead - call me back!!!! <cite>J03can posted [p:930917637] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>Cornmuffins posted... </cite> <quote>Do you have kids? Any major assets? Hopefully you don't have to spend too much on a lawyer.</quote>No kids, we own a house. I hope not either, but whatever... ScionTC_07 posted... </cite> <quote>Damn im sorry to hear TC Never been married so I cant relate but I hope everything ends up ok for ya</quote>Thanks bro Mc Poottie posted... </cite> <quote>Don't lose hope, continue to go to therapy and work on yourself. You'll find someone new down the road and hopefully it will be a more fulfilling relationship for everyone.</quote>Thats the plan. I really hope / wish i could make it work with this one... we are a great match for the most part. We dont hate each other - she says she "doesnt want it to come to that" </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
J03can 11/30/19 3:53:30 PM #25:	Ruvan22 posted... Really sorry to hear that TC, especially after 11 years.. how old are the two of you? I know she seems steadfast, have you two talked about couple's counseling? So she can feel she is "heard"? I am 37, she is 31. She doesnt want to go to couples counseling. She is also seeing a therapist but she says she needs to work on her alone. --- Jerry, it's Frank Costanza!!! Mr Steinbrenner's here George is dead - call me back!!!! <cite>J03can posted [p:930917692] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>Ruvan22 posted... </cite> <quote>Really sorry to hear that TC, especially after 11 years.. how old are the two of you? I know she seems steadfast, have you two talked about couple's counseling? So she can feel she is "heard"?</quote>I am 37, she is 31. She doesnt want to go to couples counseling. She is also seeing a therapist but she says she needs to work on her alone. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Cleo_II 11/30/19 3:54:50 PM #26:	She may have realized that even though you are working on yourself and getting better, the damage is just done and the love is gone. If you care for her, accept it. Continue working on yourself so you can be your best version in future relationships. <cite>Cleo_II posted [p:930917744] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>She may have realized that even though you are working on yourself and getting better, the damage is just done and the love is gone. If you care for her, accept it. Continue working on yourself so you can be your best version in future relationships. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
J03can 11/30/19 3:55:46 PM #27:	Cleo_II posted... She may have realized that even though you are working on yourself and getting better, the damage is just done and the love is gone. If you care for her, accept it. Continue working on yourself so you can be your best version in future relationships. You are correct, but, i cant let it go and stop trying. I know that i could get this relationship back, she just needs to trust me --- Jerry, it's Frank Costanza!!! Mr Steinbrenner's here George is dead - call me back!!!! <cite>J03can posted [p:930917786] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>Cleo_II posted... </cite> <quote>She may have realized that even though you are working on yourself and getting better, the damage is just done and the love is gone. If you care for her, accept it. Continue working on yourself so you can be your best version in future relationships.</quote>You are correct, but, i cant let it go and stop trying. I know that i could get this relationship back, she just needs to trust me </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LinkPizza 11/30/19 3:56:41 PM #28:	Cleo_II posted... She may have realized that even though you are working on yourself and getting better, the damage is just done and the love is gone. If you care for her, accept it. Continue working on yourself so you can be your best version in future relationships. I dont think the love is gone, but different. Even she says she still loves him. But its just too much... --- Official King of Kings Switch FC: 7216-4417-4511 Add Me because I'll probably add you. I'm probably the LinkPizza you'll see around. <cite>LinkPizza posted [p:930917820] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>Cleo_II posted...</cite> <quote>She may have realized that even though you are working on yourself and getting better, the damage is just done and the love is gone. If you care for her, accept it. Continue working on yourself so you can be your best version in future relationships. </quote> I dont think the love is gone, but different. Even she says she still loves him. But its just too much...</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Dark_SilverX 11/30/19 3:56:47 PM #29:	Some guy at her job tore it up. She's got a new boo. Sorry, champ --- I support Sony, Microsoft and Nintendo. don't compare games to feces -- if you've an opinion worth mentioning, do so civilly <cite>Dark_SilverX posted [p:930917823] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>Some guy at her job tore it up. She's got a new boo. Sorry, champ </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
EvenSpoonier 11/30/19 3:58:31 PM #30:	I'm really sorry to hear it. It's a pity that the efforts to fix yourself may have come too late to save your marriage. But please continue with those efforts even so, for your own sake. --- "Playing a game for its graphics is like watching pornography for the story." - Kadiroth <cite>EvenSpoonier posted [p:930917889] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>I'm really sorry to hear it. It's a pity that the efforts to fix yourself may have come too late to save your marriage. But please continue with those efforts even so, for your own sake. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
J03can 11/30/19 3:58:49 PM #31:	EvenSpoonier posted... I'm really sorry to hear it. It's a pity that the efforts to fix yourself may have come too late to save your marriage. But please continue with those efforts even so, for your own sake. Thanks. I will. --- Jerry, it's Frank Costanza!!! Mr Steinbrenner's here George is dead - call me back!!!! <cite>J03can posted [p:930917898] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>EvenSpoonier posted... </cite> <quote>I'm really sorry to hear it. It's a pity that the efforts to fix yourself may have come too late to save your marriage. But please continue with those efforts even so, for your own sake.</quote>Thanks. I will. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
divot1338 11/30/19 4:01:29 PM #32:	It seems like you all were together for awhile before getting married. Was there a reason for that that didnt get resolved? Or rather was there a reason you two got married that maybe shes focused on? You dont have to answer just something to consider. She may have a different perspective that you need to consider before youll get anywhere. --- Moustache twirling villian https://i.imgur.com/U3lt3H4.jpg- Kerbey <cite>divot1338 posted [p:930917986] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>It seems like you all were together for awhile before getting married. Was there a reason for that that didnt get resolved? Or rather was there a reason you two got married that maybe shes focused on? You dont have to answer just something to consider. She may have a different perspective that you need to consider before youll get anywhere.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Kaiganeer 11/30/19 4:01:44 PM #33:	that sucks, but at least you'll have your life back now, minus 50% of your material wealth every cloud, silver lining <cite>Kaiganeer posted [p:930918000] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>that sucks, but at least you'll have your life back now, minus 50% of your material wealth every cloud, silver lining </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Superlinkbro 11/30/19 4:03:42 PM #34:	I think the fact you're getting help and trying to make things right means she should at least try too. Either way this really sucks, and I'm sure whatever happens TC, you'll be ok even if it doesn't seem like it right now. --- PSN: Super_Link_Bro/Switch FC: SW-0496-6694-1794 Please let me know if you want to friend me beforehand. <cite>Superlinkbro posted [p:930918066] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>I think the fact you're getting help and trying to make things right means she should at least try too. Either way this really sucks, and I'm sure whatever happens TC, you'll be ok even if it doesn't seem like it right now. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
J03can 11/30/19 4:10:20 PM #35:	divot1338 posted... It seems like you all were together for awhile before getting married. Was there a reason for that that didnt get resolved? Or rather was there a reason you two got married that maybe shes focused on? You dont have to answer just something to consider. She may have a different perspective that you need to consider before youll get anywhere. This has popped up and gone a couple times over the years. Its back now and she wants to end it so it doesn't happen again. Kaiganeer posted... that sucks, but at least you'll have your life back now, minus 50% of your material wealth every cloud, silver lining We have very similar salaries, i shouldnt be in a position to lose my things. Weve always had our own stuff. Superlinkbro posted... I think the fact you're getting help and trying to make things right means she should at least try too. Either way this really sucks, and I'm sure whatever happens TC, you'll be ok even if it doesn't seem like it right now. I appreciate it and youre right, i just dont want to lose this --- Jerry, it's Frank Costanza!!! Mr Steinbrenner's here George is dead - call me back!!!! <cite>J03can posted [p:930918290] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>divot1338 posted... </cite> <quote>It seems like you all were together for awhile before getting married. Was there a reason for that that didnt get resolved? Or rather was there a reason you two got married that maybe shes focused on? You dont have to answer just something to consider. She may have a different perspective that you need to consider before youll get anywhere.</quote>This has popped up and gone a couple times over the years. Its back now and she wants to end it so it doesn't happen again. Kaiganeer posted... </cite> <quote>that sucks, but at least you'll have your life back now, minus 50% of your material wealth every cloud, silver lining</quote>We have very similar salaries, i shouldnt be in a position to lose my things. Weve always had our own stuff. Superlinkbro posted... </cite> <quote>I think the fact you're getting help and trying to make things right means she should at least try too. Either way this really sucks, and I'm sure whatever happens TC, you'll be ok even if it doesn't seem like it right now.</quote>I appreciate it and youre right, i just dont want to lose this </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
roos1046 Reborn 11/30/19 5:34:58 PM #36:	J03can posted... I can be emotionally abusive she is making the right move --- When did I realize I was God? Well, I was praying and I suddenly realized I was talking to myself. https://imgur.com/FoV5u <cite>roos1046 Reborn posted [p:930921632] in My wife wa... [t:78214036]...</cite> <quote>J03can posted...</cite> <quote>I can be emotionally abusive </quote> she is making the right move</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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