Current Events > A Chad was hitting on me at the bar

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DrizztLink posted...

I'd say the same thing about a dude, but I know you're desperate for a victory. I won't push.

Thing is, I wasnt trying to explain her years-long relationship to her.

I was simply reminding her that shes human and may not be 100% right about everything 100% of the time no matter what.

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Shablagoo posted...

DrizztLink posted...

I'd say the same thing about a dude, but I know you're desperate for a victory. I won't push.

Thing is, I wasnt trying to explain her years-long relationship to her.

I was simply reminding her that shes human and may not be 100% right about everything 100% of the time no matter what.

Likewise you are also not right about everything 100% of the time, having good communication in a relationship does not mean "you are leveraging" something against one another. Unless you have an unhealthy relationship to begin with.

Also, Cleo, your husband sounds like kind of an ass....

I am not nearly as romantic as my wife wants me to be, but I do take her out to dinner occasionally and buy her chocolates and things once awhile...

It kinda sounds like he doesn't really try anything at all anymore, remind me how long you have been together with him?
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Dustin1280 posted...

You clearly don't understand open communication in a relationship and are instantly jumping to a negative connotation when that was not the intention at all.

I'm going to agree with others in this topic who say you sound very inexperienced with serious communicative relationships.

No one was saying I sound like anything. I just started posting ITT. Damn, you got big mad quick lol.

Im in a very open and communicative relationship right now. My gf tells me about all the dudes who come after her.

However, she doesnt leverage flirtations against me to make me straighten up. Instead, she directly tells me if Im not acting right. Its nice, and I appreciate it.

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Dustin1280 posted...

Likewise you are also not right about everything 100% of the time, having good communication in a relationship does not mean "you are leveraging" something against one another. Unless you have an unhealthy relationship to begin with.

Agreed!

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Shablagoo posted...

Dustin1280 posted...

You clearly don't understand open communication in a relationship and are instantly jumping to a negative connotation when that was not the intention at all.

I'm going to agree with others in this topic who say you sound very inexperienced with serious communicative relationships.

No one was saying I sound like anything. I just started posting ITT. Damn, you got big mad quick lol.

Im in a very open and communicative relationship right now. My gf tells me about all the dudes who come after her.

However, she doesnt leverage flirtations against me to make me straighten up. Instead, she directly tells me if Im not acting right. Its nice, and I appreciate it.

Okay but why do you assume her telling her husband was strictly used as a leverage tool? Perhaps she was just telling him, like your g/f tells you "all the time..."
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I never said all the time so Im not sure who youre quoting.

Maybe Im misinterpreting Cleo but it sure sounds like thats what shes doing. Maybe shes just CEventing though.

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teepan95 posted...

So he hit on you despite your wedding ring?

gross

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My bad I misquoted you, I apologize for that.

I just don't think Cleo was using the information as a leverage tool.

She just happened to be frustrated at the time and told her husband about the event (like she normally would to begin with). It's possible I am also misinterpreting something here, but it didn't seem like it was used in the manner you think.
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lol @ the triggered incels itt

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Dustin1280 posted...

My bad I misquoted you, I apologize for that.

I just don't think Cleo was using the information as a leverage tool.

She just happened to be frustrated at the time and told her husband about the event (like she normally would to begin with). It's possible I am also misinterpreting something here, but it didn't seem like it was used in the manner you think.

Im probably just reading too much into it. Im pretty jealous by nature so I got upset on her husbands behalf for some of her posts ITT. I mean even just saying Im tired instead of Im MARRIED for example made me kind of furrow my eyebrows but Im sure that wasnt Cleos intention when she said that to the Chad.

Also talking about how sexy he was, but again that was probably more for CEs sake than anything else lol.

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Time for Cleo to take marriage counseling to the next step and show her husband this topic on CE. It's a bold power move, but I can't foresee what could possibly go wrong.
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Shablagoo posted...

Im probably just reading too much into it. Im pretty jealous by nature so I got upset on her husbands behalf for some of her posts ITT. I mean even just saying Im tired instead of Im MARRIED for example made me kind of furrow my eyebrows but Im sure that wasnt Cleos intention when she said that to the Chad.

Also talking about how sexy he was, but again that was probably more for CEs sake than anything else lol.

As I thought, youre projecting.

Ive already explained that I never shared what happened to make my husband jealous. In our 9 years together, Ive never seen him jealous.

Usually I tell him what happened and he makes a joke that I should have let them buy me drinks. When were out on vacations he makes comments that I should hang out at the bar to get us free drinks. We point out attractive people to each other all the time. Ive taken him to strip clubs and bought him lap dances and he jokes that I should find girlfriends who will take me to thunder down under lol. I never expected him to react this way but I think it was the timing.

Dustin1280 posted...

Likewise you are also not right about everything 100% of the time, having good communication in a relationship does not mean "you are leveraging" something against one another. Unless you have an unhealthy relationship to begin with.

Also, Cleo, your husband sounds like kind of an ass....

I am not nearly as romantic as my wife wants me to be, but I do take her out to dinner occasionally and buy her chocolates and things once awhile...

It kinda sounds like he doesn't really try anything at all anymore, remind me how long you have been together with him?

He did stop trying but hes sorta trying now. He sucked at my birthday but our anniversary was a month before and he went all out. Flowers, card, gift, dinner, etc. Hes trying but hes not going to be perfect at it.

Have you guys done marriage counseling?
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Cleo_II posted...

Shablagoo posted...

Im probably just reading too much into it. Im pretty jealous by nature so I got upset on her husbands behalf for some of her posts ITT. I mean even just saying Im tired instead of Im MARRIED for example made me kind of furrow my eyebrows but Im sure that wasnt Cleos intention when she said that to the Chad.

Also talking about how sexy he was, but again that was probably more for CEs sake than anything else lol.

As I thought, youre projecting.

Ive already explained that I never shared what happened to make my husband jealous. In our 9 years together, Ive never seen him jealous.

Usually I tell him what happened and he makes a joke that I should have let them buy me drinks. When were out on vacations he makes comments that I should hang out at the bar to get us free drinks. We point out attractive people to each other all the time. Ive taken him to strip clubs and bought him lap dances and he jokes that I should find girlfriends who will take me to thunder down under lol. I never expected him to react this way but I think it was the timing.

Clearly, this is what's creating the divide between you two. The only solution is to act upon it. Make sure to include massage oil. Take pics and post them on instagram so VEGY will eventually find them, make a topic, and post them in an imgur link.

Unless that's his way of telling you that you need to listen to more AC/DC. In which case, you should. Angus has saved many a marriage.

Seriously though, Cleo knows her hubby better than anyone here. If they've spent so many years together, you get a feel of how someone acts and will respond to just about everything. She was correct in assuming his reaction---which wasn't the point of the topic. It's about taking a CE meme and having fun with it as it actually popped up in her actual day to day life. So.....meh.
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I'm sure she does but I'm seeing a couple of parallels from my own previous LTR so that's why I had suggested counseling.
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So_Hajile posted...

Clearly, this is what's creating the divide between you two. The only solution is to act upon it. Make sure to include massage oil. Take pics and post them on instagram so VEGY will eventually find them, make a topic, and post them in an imgur link.

Unless that's his way of telling you that you need to listen to more AC/DC. In which case, you should. Angus has saved many a marriage.

lmfao


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Cleo_II posted...

As I thought, youre projecting.

Ive already explained that I never shared what happened to make my husband jealous. In our 9 years together, Ive never seen him jealous.

Usually I tell him what happened and he makes a joke that I should have let them buy me drinks. When were out on vacations he makes comments that I should hang out at the bar to get us free drinks. We point out attractive people to each other all the time. Ive taken him to strip clubs and bought him lap dances and he jokes that I should find girlfriends who will take me to thunder down under lol. I never expected him to react this way but I think it was the timing.

Same, my gf makes money off other dudes as well. And she gets taken to thunder by other women also. Guess I misread da situation, mah bad.

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Evening_Dragon posted...

You know, I always thought the whole basement dwelling, kissless virgin thing was an exaggeration of this board overall, but no.

It's real. It's really real. So many of you haven't the slightest comprehension of having a partner.

This.

Lol what Cleo did happens quite often in relationships. Happened in all mine. Some of these dudes would probably flip pretty hard if and when their girls did the same thing. I feel sorry for them.
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Shablagoo posted...

Cleo_II posted...

Its kind of hilarious tbh. Just highlights their inexperience.

Or, you know, you could be wrong.

I mean, you could be.

But of course theres always that classic and irrefutable argument, teehee, Im a girl on CE THUS I can never be wrong about relationships. Never. Not in a million years.

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Shablagoo posted...

Cleo_II posted...

As I thought, youre projecting.

Ive already explained that I never shared what happened to make my husband jealous. In our 9 years together, Ive never seen him jealous.

Usually I tell him what happened and he makes a joke that I should have let them buy me drinks. When were out on vacations he makes comments that I should hang out at the bar to get us free drinks. We point out attractive people to each other all the time. Ive taken him to strip clubs and bought him lap dances and he jokes that I should find girlfriends who will take me to thunder down under lol. I never expected him to react this way but I think it was the timing.

Same, my gf makes money off other dudes as well. And she gets taken to thunder by other women also. Guess I misread da situation, mah bad.

I think when a girl gives another girl an orgasm (taken to thunder) we should call it "taking a trip to thunder town." Think of the possibilities there are to connect it to funky town and flavor town! I feel like I need a road map.
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emblem boy posted...

Have you guys done marriage counseling?

We have. Did it for almost a year. It definitely helped us get back on track and its why I would say things had been better between us. We might go back though, weve been talking about it.

Man, I swear this is some crazy deja vu because I just got back from a work trip too! I traveled to the main office this week and was out with coworkers at a bar the other night when one of the other sales guys on a different team noticed me. He kept hovering around me and checking me out. He was tall, hot with an athletic build and very confident. He started chatting me up and being super smooth with compliments, saying my husband is a lucky guy. He asked me to dinner but I said I was tired lol.

But the fun part is I told my husband all this and hes being extra nice to me bwahahaha. He had been a turd to me these last few weeks. Snapping at me for no reason, coming home super late then not talking to me, giving me the third degree on buying little things for my mom, etc. We had a fight a week ago about it and he blamed it on being tired, and I told him he cant take that shit out on me. Well he finally apologized for it last night and said he should treat me better. Hes taking me out to an expensive dinner tomorrow. He wants to take me shopping (he rarely buys me anything). Hes even coming home early today. I guess hes a little scared now lol. I normally dont get hit on very much but I also dont go out a lot. I guess I should go out drinking more often or something.

Moral of the story - Chads can help marriages CE
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Cleo_II posted...

Yeah he used to put in a lot more effort. But then he started working at companies he really hated and would take it out on me when he got home. He likes this latest company but now hes working really hard to prove himself so hes tired all the time.

At least he ended up realizing he was acting like he usually does last night and came up and apologized.

Cleo_II posted...

Yup I tell him its not a good excuse. I told him that the day before I flew out, when we had our discussion about it. He cant use me as a punching bag. But Im patient with him. Im not perfect either and I have a lot of medical issues he puts up with.

Cleo_II posted...

Im not unhappy. Its normal to have ups and downs in long term relationships. We were doing pretty good for a while now until the last few weeks when he started reverting to old habits. Basically him taking his stress out on me.

the hell? Sounds to me like he's working hard. Not sure why TC is entirely dismissing this as if the extra effort at this job is meaningless to a relationship.

Cleo_II posted...

Yeah he used to put in a lot more effort. But then he started working at companies he really hated and would take it out on me when he got home. He likes this latest company but now hes working really hard to prove himself so hes tired all the time.

At least he ended up realizing he was acting like he usually does last night and came up and apologized.

Cleo_II posted...

Yup I tell him its not a good excuse. I told him that the day before I flew out, when we had our discussion about it. He cant use me as a punching bag. But Im patient with him. Im not perfect either and I have a lot of medical issues he puts up with.

Cleo_II posted...

Im not unhappy. Its normal to have ups and downs in long term relationships. We were doing pretty good for a while now until the last few weeks when he started reverting to old habits. Basically him taking his stress out on me.

the hell? Sounds to me like he's working hard. Not sure why TC is entirely dismissing this as if the extra effort at this job is meaningless to a relationship.

inTaCtfuL posted...

Pics

Edit: I guess this is TC? First pic I get from googling her username lol

hold the fucking phone THIS is TC?! Bahawhaw no wonder her happiness is wavering!

TC you're a stacy.

The monogamous path of a stacy is a treacherous one. At a point they must come to realize one man cannot give what the world has given them. It is important to find balance. High maintenance will crush the back of any mortal in bittersweet agony. At the same time this mortal MUST come to understand how blessed they are lest he realizes too late.

Absolute gold entertainment throughout this whole topic

Bless you CE. this girl did nothing wrong. lol
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