Current Events > Poor friend of mine got ghosted on after 3 months of being in a relationship.

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pinky0926 posted...

Romulox28 posted...

pinky0926 posted...

Actually pretty unbelievable and huge

can i get her #

Would it dissuade you if I'd been there before, eheu

eskimo brothers for life, it's a bond stronger than blood
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Someone should slap this mofo in the face.
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Maybe hes locked up
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That sucks. I can't stand scum like that. Being with someone for a few months means, or should, that you are at least invested a little bit in the relationship. Just dumping on someone with no explanation is terrible.
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Yeah unless she wronged him severely and he just decided to say "fuck it I'm done with this girl", then ghosting her is an ass move.
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Ewwww

I hope your friend is doing okay, dude
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UPDATE:

Most predictable guy ever. Look at this bullshit:


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Lmao typical fuckboy. She needs to block his ass
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pinky0926 posted...

UPDATE:

Most predictable guy ever. Look at this bullshit:

Wooh boy it would have been fine if he stopped halfway through

If he wanted to try something new for a bit and realize it wasn't going to work what's wrong with that? Sounds like he realized he made a mistake and grew from it.

Well, at least he gave her some closure. Still a major fuckhead though. You can't just put someone on pause while you figure out if you have a chance with someone else.
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SpiralDrift posted...

Well, at least he gave her some closure. Still a major fuckhead though. You can't just put someone on pause while you figure out if you have a chance with someone else.

Why not?

iClockwork posted...

SpiralDrift posted...

Well, at least he gave her some closure. Still a major fuckhead though. You can't just put someone on pause while you figure out if you have a chance with someone else.

Why not?

Because it's inconsiderate of their feelings and that's not a good way to treat a potential partner.

If this was just about fuck buddies it might be ok.
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SpiralDrift posted...

Because it's inconsiderate of their feelings and that's not a good way to treat a potential partner.

Why is he required to be considerate of her feelings. 3 months isn't a relationship.

iClockwork posted...

SpiralDrift posted...

Because it's inconsiderate of their feelings and that's not a good way to treat a potential partner.

Why is he required to be considerate of her feelings. 3 months isn't a relationship.

You've just earned yourself a very negative tag, sir.
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SpiralDrift posted...

You've just earned yourself a very negative tag, sir.

Oh no

iClockwork posted...

SpiralDrift posted...

Because it's inconsiderate of their feelings and that's not a good way to treat a potential partner.

Why is he required to be considerate of her feelings. 3 months isn't a relationship.

Yeah, it is.

holedigger posted...

iClockwork posted...

SpiralDrift posted...

Because it's inconsiderate of their feelings and that's not a good way to treat a potential partner.

Why is he required to be considerate of her feelings. 3 months isn't a relationship.

Yeah, it is.

3 months is a booty call.

clockwork being himself as usual

iClockwork posted...

If he wanted to try something new for a bit and realize it wasn't going to work what's wrong with that? Sounds like he realized he made a mistake and grew from it.

His choice isn't wrong. How he handled it is insensitive and immature, though.

Getting bored of a girl and ghosting and then following up with a "sorry I'm just so confused but its not your fault" message is grade A fuckboy behaviour.
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_Lyonidias posted...

V-E-G-Y- posted...

Adapt or die

No, people dont deserve to be treated like shit and fucked up by stupid little fuckboys who werent raised right.

Or bitches with insane amounts of psychological issues?

Goes both ways here. I've had an ex try to kill me before. Another one tried to use bulimia to get attention.

Point is, people are fucked.
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@iClockwork

I don't suppose you subscribe to TRP/game theory?
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_Lyonidias posted...

V-E-G-Y- posted...

Adapt or die

No, people dont deserve to be treated like shit and fucked up by stupid little fuckboys who werent raised right.

Sounds like you made stupid decisions and you're wrongly placing blame on society

Its 2018. If you can't smell someone's bullshit from a mile away you're incompetent
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I've gotten ghosted like that. It sucks even more that you feel like you shouldn't even try to do something about it cause you'll just come off as one of those "pls respond" guys and you want to talk to her so badly

oh nvm he actually responded
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pinky0926 posted...

TRP/game theory?

I'm familiar with game theory in regards to mathematics and economics. Not sure what TRP is

pinky0926 posted...

Just out of the blue he stopped responding to her messages. There was no argument that preceded this, no indication that anything was wrong. His last message was confirming dinner plans with her, then on the day of the dinner he just didn't show up. But he still reads the messages and is still active on social media like nothing is wrong.

I mean I understand (but don't agree) with ghosting on someone after a couple of dates, but if you've been spending 4 days a week together for the past few months you owe them at least a text message -_-

I still think at least a message is in order. Give the other person closure for fuck sakes.

Kensaimage posted...

Give the other person closure for fuck sakes.

3 months, "closure"

pinky0926 posted...

Not gonna share pics but think attractive but not bombshell material. Like you'd fuck her for sure but you wouldn't stay with her if she pissed you off too much.

Lmfao if thats how you and your friend look at people, it doesnt surprise me at all the type of love life issues that arise.
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iClockwork posted...

Kensaimage posted...

Give the other person closure for fuck sakes.

3 months, "closure"

We get it man, you are an emotional husk and we're all very impressed

Also I didn't say they met 3 months ago. I said they started officially dating 3 months ago.

zinezinzadan posted...

pinky0926 posted...

Not gonna share pics but think attractive but not bombshell material. Like you'd fuck her for sure but you wouldn't stay with her if she pissed you off too much.

Lmfao if thats how you and your friend look at people, it doesnt surprise me at all the type of love life issues that arise.

It was a facetious response to a facetious question, no need to read into it overmuch.
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theres no good way to say hey I am leaving you for an ex I still feel strongly about but ghosting is a bad way to go around not wanting to be honest
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pinky0926 posted...

Also I didn't say they met 3 months ago. I said they started officially dating 3 months ago.

That makes no difference. They hooked up for 3 months there is no need for "closure."

iClockwork posted...

pinky0926 posted...

Also I didn't say they met 3 months ago. I said they started officially dating 3 months ago.

That makes no difference. They hooked up for 3 months there is no need for "closure."

No, they dated for three months, but that's totally irrelevant anyway. If I had never even met you before and we had made plans together it would be the height of rudeness for me to just not show up without a word. It shows a complete lack of respect for someone else's time.

Leaving someone hanging when a simple text message would alleviate considerable anxiety is just a shit thing to do.

You're literally the only person in this topic who feels this way btw, maybe time for some self-reflection.
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Spoiler your friend killed him
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pinky0926 posted...

You're literally the only person in this topic who feels this way btw, maybe time for some self-reflection.

I've reflected over these topics more than the average person. You can't argue the facts and have to resort to ad hominem.

iClockwork posted...

pinky0926 posted...

You're literally the only person in this topic who feels this way btw, maybe time for some self-reflection.

I've reflected over these topics more than the average person. You can't argue the facts and have to resort to ad hominem.

Rolling my eyes to degrees of rotation I didn't even think possible rn
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prettyprincess posted...

theres no good way to say hey I am leaving you for an ex I still feel strongly about but ghosting is a bad way to go around not wanting to be honest

Or otherwise leaving her "on hold" until he's ready to talk and has safely made headway with the ex. Like, did he think he might still have a chance with Pinky's friend if the ex thing had turned out to be nothing?

"Oh, sorry. I was stuck in my own head. My ex re-entered my life and I tried to get with her, but that didn't work out. So now I'm going to be trying with you again. Drinks soon? xoxo"
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philsov posted...

"Oh, sorry. I was stuck in my own head. My ex re-entered my life and I tried to get with her, but that didn't work out. So now I'm going to be trying with you again? Drinks soon? xoxo"

Ive had this work twice.

How do you avoid being ghosted?
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I ghosted a girl after she thought I ghosted her. She sent me a text and I didn't reply because I was distracted and took a nap. When i woke up completely forgot. The next day I'm bombarded with a whole fleet of text messages accusing me of being an asshole and immature. The whole thing was rediculous to me and it felt like a chore comunnicating with her. So I didn't respond and I ignored her. And our relationship went downhill from there. The clingyness and excessive need for attention gets old fast. Ill admit its not right way to handle the situation. But getting angry for something petty is a huge red flag for me and I dont have to put up with that nonsense.

Unfinished business. Almost ended my relationship over it too.
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Id like to mention, my manager and close friend of the girl Ive been involved with is currently in a serious relationship with the coolest dude ever after putting him on hold to pursue an ex that had re-entered her life because she felt the need to explore it. Now, it wasnt three months of dating and more akin to hanging out and talking, and Im not sure if Id have put up with it in the same scenario, but she learned to leave her ex that way and this guy showed he was a quality person by giving her the space to do what she needed to do. Now theyre in a committed loving relationship.
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GameboyTroy posted...

How do you avoid being ghosted?

You don't. There's nothing you did to cause it and no way to change it. You can, however, chose how to deal with it. You just move on. It's hard to do so and not be bitter but that's where we are in the world. People avoid conflict and responsibilities moreso than dealing with actual problems so basically you need to learn to be ok with dealing with interpersonal situations that end without closure. It's messed up but that's how it is nowadays.
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Pretty sure she's only telling you a fraction of the story
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CreekCo posted...

GameboyTroy posted...

How do you avoid being ghosted?

You don't. There's nothing you did to cause it and no way to change it. You can, however, chose how to deal with it. You just move on. It's hard to do so and not be bitter but that's where we are in the world. People avoid conflict and responsibilities moreso than dealing with actual problems so basically you need to learn to be ok with dealing with interpersonal situations that end without closure. It's messed up but that's how it is nowadays.

All you can do is move on because you're forced to. The only thing I can think of to avoid being ghosted is to try not to have someone ghost you BEFORE they ghost you.
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