Current Events > can you self-deprecate?

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like, some people's egos are so big that they legit cannot
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80% of my humor is self-deprecation.

The cool thing is when you do this people around you start feeling comfortable enough to do it themselves. As is with my openness about anxiety. I have a friend that is way more hard headed than me and he's 5 years younger than me. And he started self diagnosing his anxiety and talking to me about it cause I had always explained to him what gives me anxiety and what my theories were on why.

Both these things build strong relationships. I can't do relationships that are only skin deep anymore. Im too grown to be around people too scared to tell me how they feel.
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If you can't laugh at yourself and your own faults, can you really say you deserve to laugh at others?
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80% is too high. That's a sign of poor self-esteem.

Can you self-defenestrate?
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easily
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I'm perfectly capable of shitting on my own
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Also when you are always talking about how much of a dumbass you are, it gives people less anxiety around you cause they don't feel like they have to try around you. You just really gotta make sure it's funny and insightful, not just annoying.
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I'm too stupid to know how to self-deprecate. :(
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SaithSayer posted...

80% is too high. That's a sign of poor self-esteem.

Neh. Cause people just think Im smart for being so self aware. Ive been told this. It's not just what I personally think. And I constantly reenforce how I feel like most of it is human conditions that most people just don't realize. So really most of it is dissing society as a whole
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I hate explaining myself cause I feel like Im sucking my own dick hard...and that's the opposite of what I like doing
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Lost_All_Senses posted...

80% of my humor is self-deprecation.

The cool thing is when you do this people around you start feeling comfortable enough to do it themselves. As is with my openness about anxiety. I have a friend that is way more hard headed than me and he's 5 years younger than me. And he started self diagnosing his anxiety and talking to me about it cause I had always explained to him what gives me anxiety and what my theories were on why.

Both these things build strong relationships. I can't do relationships that are only skin deep anymore. Im too grown to be around people too scared to tell me how they feel.

Lost_All_Senses posted...

Also when you are always talking about how much of a dumbass you are, it gives people less anxiety around you cause they don't feel like they have to try around you. You just really gotta make sure it's funny and insightful, not just annoying.

for real

i'm a very open and candid guy too, and people definitely respond to it by feeling at ease and opening up themselves
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*self defecates*
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cavalierking posted...

Lost_All_Senses posted...

80% of my humor is self-deprecation.

The cool thing is when you do this people around you start feeling comfortable enough to do it themselves. As is with my openness about anxiety. I have a friend that is way more hard headed than me and he's 5 years younger than me. And he started self diagnosing his anxiety and talking to me about it cause I had always explained to him what gives me anxiety and what my theories were on why.

Both these things build strong relationships. I can't do relationships that are only skin deep anymore. Im too grown to be around people too scared to tell me how they feel.

Lost_All_Senses posted...

Also when you are always talking about how much of a dumbass you are, it gives people less anxiety around you cause they don't feel like they have to try around you. You just really gotta make sure it's funny and insightful, not just annoying.

for real

i'm a very open and candid guy too, and people definitely respond to it by feeling at ease and opening up themselves

Glad someone else is going this route. It's the thing that keeps me loving myself :3.
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There's a limit, though. If you treat yourself like you're meh then others will too.

i have no self esteem
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SaithSayer posted...

There's a limit, though. If you treat yourself like you're meh then others will too.

See that's my side business. I self deprecate like crazy but when someone else tries to put me in a box I immediately check them. I hate being disrespected. Ill be in the middle of a convo and if the person stops paying attention I just switch to "and you're not listening so fuck you" and stop talking lol. If Im just bullshitting and the convo wasn't intetesting from the beginning I just stop talking tho cause you gotta pick your battles
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Lost_All_Senses posted...

SaithSayer posted...

There's a limit, though. If you treat yourself like you're meh then others will too.

See that's my side business. I self deprecate like crazy but when someone else tries to put me in a box I immediately check them. I hate being disrespected. Ill be in the middle of a convo and if the person stops paying attention I just switch to "and you're not listening so fuck you" and stop talking lol. If Im just bullshitting and the convo wasn't intetesting from the beginning I just stop talking tho cause you gotta pick your battles

If people frequently drop on you mid conversation, I'd say the excess self-deprecation has already done the harm.

DoomsSD posted...

I'd rather have a laugh at my own expense than at someone else's.

I can be way more brutal on myself than I can with anyone else and I don't have to pull my punches either.

Making fun of other people sucks because you have to put up with them getting butthurt over it.

Yeah. You kind of have to build a system where you hold punches based on the person if you know it's just gonna lead to them being annoying. I love studying human nature tho so I like doing stuff like this and seeing how good I can maneuver around people. Then I have close people where anything can fly
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While I enjoy shitting on myself, doing *too* much of it isn't a good thing either
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SaithSayer posted...

Lost_All_Senses posted...

SaithSayer posted...

There's a limit, though. If you treat yourself like you're meh then others will too.

See that's my side business. I self deprecate like crazy but when someone else tries to put me in a box I immediately check them. I hate being disrespected. Ill be in the middle of a convo and if the person stops paying attention I just switch to "and you're not listening so fuck you" and stop talking lol. If Im just bullshitting and the convo wasn't intetesting from the beginning I just stop talking tho cause you gotta pick your battles

If people frequently drop on you mid conversation, I'd say the excess self-deprecation has already done the harm.

Nope. You're assuming people aren't always doing disrespectful shit like going on their phone in the middle of convos. Like it's not 2018. Im not so low self esteemed tjat Im gonna blame myself everytime someone looks at their phone.

Edit: You also decided to assume it was frequent for whatever reason. It's not. Especially since I call it out. Obviously people want to conversate with me if they bring themselves to my standards. I show them the respect I ask for. If someone starts a convo I instant put my phone down.
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"Dude come over and hang out."

Ten minutes later there are 6 people sitting silently in a room as they fuck with their phones. We sat as kids imagining what the future was gonna be....and this is what we got.

SaithSayer posted...

"Dude come over and hang out."

Ten minutes later there are 6 people sitting silently in a room as they fuck with their phones. We sat as kids imagining what the future was gonna be....and this is what we got.

That's what Im saying. I call that shit out. If it's people Im not comfortable calling out then I walk away and do something else.
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