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FaultyGourry 06/08/18 4:42:56 PM #51: |
I genuinely wonder if people who are shitting on Kilmer have ever lost someone they care about to suicide. I lost my mom that way, and let me tell you, it wrecks the mental and emotional state of those left behind. Six years later and I still love, miss and am angry at my mom for taking herself away. Ya, I get it. Depression is a horrible disease. I know, I deal with it too. But to act like anger brought about by the anguish the people left behind somehow makes them bad or worse people is fucked up. Stop defending a person who deals with their pain by killing themselves only to turn around and attack a person who deals with their pain by venting their anger with words.
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DKFjalfe 06/08/18 4:55:23 PM #52: |
FaultyGourry posted...
I genuinely wonder if people who are shitting on Kilmer have ever lost someone they care about to suicide. I lost my mom that way, and let me tell you, it wrecks the mental and emotional state of those left behind. Six years later and I still love, miss and am angry at my mom for taking herself away. Ya, I get it. Depression is a horrible disease. I know, I deal with it too. But to act like anger brought about by the anguish the people left behind somehow makes them bad or worse people is fucked up. Stop defending a person who deals with their pain by killing themselves only to turn around and attack a person who deals with their pain by venting their anger with words. Well said ... Copied to Clipboard!
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OctilIery 06/08/18 4:56:23 PM #53: |
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Suicide is extremely selfish. Nope. Anyone saying it's selfish is incredibly insensitive towards the issues that lead to suicide. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Veggeta_MAX 06/08/18 4:57:39 PM #54: |
This is one of those things where it is better left unsaid.
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Nazanir 06/08/18 5:00:59 PM #55: |
Minute posted...
Suicide is extremely selfish. Right, wanting someone to stay in constant pain and anguish just so they don't have to miss them is what, exactly? --- XboX GT/Steam/Wii-U - Nazanir ... Copied to Clipboard!
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OpenlyGator 06/08/18 5:59:15 PM #56: |
Your life, your rules on what to do with it.
Just don't leave a clusterfuck mess behind that the living have to clean up (which includes burdening your kin). THAT is undeniably selfish... --- 1990:You didn't get the memo? 2018:What's a memo...? http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdPuv.png http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png ... Copied to Clipboard!
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ShutTheF---_Up 06/08/18 6:46:24 PM #57: |
FaultyGourry posted...
But to act like anger brought about by the anguish the people left behind somehow makes them bad or worse people is fucked up. Publicly villainizing your friend without making any attempt to empathize with what he was dealing with objectively makes you a bad person. Shut the fuck up and learn to realize that it's not about you. --- Another Conflict alt cause mawds don't like me ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Kimbos_Egg 06/08/18 6:46:47 PM #58: |
LinksLiege posted...
The whole "suicide is selfish" thing is grotesque. How does a corpse feel shame? --- You think you've Got problems? https://imgur.com/vgckRUN ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Fluttershy462 06/08/18 6:54:06 PM #59: |
All suicide is selfish.
I feel so bad for his daughter. Couldnt he have fucking toughed it out for her? --- Now hyped for: Pokemon Pikachu and Eevee Let's Go ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Scotty_Rogers 06/08/18 6:56:10 PM #60: |
When you have a child that you should be taking care of, suicide is unquestionably selfish.
And I am someone who's had a great deal of depression in the past. Never actually considered killing myself, but I have questioned the point of living. --- THE FAM. My waifus Caulifla, Kale and Kefla from Dragon Ball Super and I drawn by da GOAT @MoistenedYouth: https://imgur.com/a/TYhlg ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Vyrulisse 06/08/18 6:56:11 PM #61: |
He's allowed to be angry and hurt. Nothing wrong with what he said, to me it's in the same vein as people deifying him today because he died.
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tamashiini 06/08/18 6:57:32 PM #62: |
ShutTheF---_Up posted...
I like when idiots who've never had to experience vile and chronic mental pain talk about how "suicide is selfish" QFT. --- PSN: helicene Careful, Icarus. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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ShutTheF---_Up 06/08/18 7:00:40 PM #63: |
OpenlyGator posted...
Your life, your rules on what to do with it. Just don't leave a clusterfuck mess behind that the living have to clean up (which includes burdening your kin). THAT is undeniably selfish... I'm getting massive sociopathic vibes from this post --- Another Conflict alt cause mawds don't like me ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Atralis 06/08/18 7:04:38 PM #64: |
NibeIungsnarf posted...
People who call suicide selfish are the lowest tiers of human existence. Not because they're wrong (depends on your point of view) but because there's literally no reason to make that statement other than being complete human dreg. If there was no stigma more people would commit suicide as evidenced by the massive disparities in suicide rates between different cultures. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Allanon23 06/08/18 7:07:21 PM #65: |
Kilmer isn't wrong. And he's saying it as a friend who is deeply hurt and upset.
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OctilIery 06/08/18 7:07:48 PM #66: |
Fluttershy462 posted...
All suicide is selfish. OctilIery posted... Nope. Anyone saying it's selfish is incredibly insensitive towards the issues that lead to suicide. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Zeeak4444 06/08/18 7:10:51 PM #67: |
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Suicide is extremely selfish. Nah I completely agree with you. I just don't think people who do it care considering the majority of people are extremely selfish in their own right. When you say what about x and y and z and how they felt it's usually also fair to ask where they were? Did he reach out and they ignored them because they were too stressed with their own lives? Maybe they didn't wanna be dragged down by his negativity or depression. Maybe they couldn't comprehend what he was trying to express. Could go either way. In reality though people are selfish creatures. Just ask anyone who prioritizes money over people. That would be those against wellfare or socialized medicine, taxes, illegal immigrants and revamping legal immigration, non-violent criminals. We could go on. So once again while I agree with you completely and never think it's the right choice I also think my opinion means jack shit on the matter considering I'm just being selfish wanting them to stay around. --- Typical gameFAQers are "Complainers that always complain about those who complain about real legitimate complaints."-Joker_X ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Winnsock 06/08/18 7:11:10 PM #68: |
I really only think suicide is selfish if you're the main contributing member of your family and they'll be left helpless without you. Otherwise, you're just expediting your inevitable demise. He was 61, he may not have had a whole lot of time left anyway. 60s are when people start dropping like flies.
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Scotty_Rogers 06/08/18 7:11:38 PM #69: |
@ShutTheF---_Up
@Octillery He had a daughter. How is suicide not selfish? While he shouldn't be demonized for committing suicide, the objectively right thing would have been to toughen up and live for his daughter. --- THE FAM. My waifus Caulifla, Kale and Kefla from Dragon Ball Super and I drawn by da GOAT @MoistenedYouth: https://imgur.com/a/TYhlg ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Zeeak4444 06/08/18 7:12:58 PM #70: |
Scotty_Rogers posted...
@ShutTheF---_Up There is no objectivity here. You're only fooling yourself if you think there is. --- Typical gameFAQers are "Complainers that always complain about those who complain about real legitimate complaints."-Joker_X ... Copied to Clipboard!
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OctilIery 06/08/18 7:16:19 PM #71: |
Scotty_Rogers posted...
@ShutTheF---_Up Because "toughen up" isn't something that works with when it comes to mental illness. I'm not defending the choice, suicide is never the right choice, but faced with the incredible pain that comes with depression and other mental illnesses, it isn't selfish by any means. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Taharqa_ 06/08/18 7:17:35 PM #72: |
Val needs to shut the fuck up, the man isn't even in the ground yet.
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FaultyGourry 06/08/18 7:24:44 PM #73: |
ShutTheF---_Up posted...
FaultyGourry posted...But to act like anger brought about by the anguish the people left behind somehow makes them bad or worse people is fucked up. "Voicing your anger and frustration at a friends actions after they caused you pain makes you a bad person." What a fucking load. And it IS about him. It's about how he fucking feels! Kilmer lost someone he cared about. You talk this load of shit while about one of Bourdain's friends without even knowing the guy, so have your own logic right back at you. His feelings and pain are not about you! They are about him and his friend. So why don't you shut the fuck up and learn to realize you don't get to tell people how they should grieve. --- You can tell a lot about a man by how he strangles you. "Hypocrisy does not invalidate a point." - S. Rose. https://imgur.com/ZA4vp0y ... Copied to Clipboard!
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kingdrake2 06/08/18 7:28:06 PM #74: |
Fluttershy462 posted...
All suicide is selfish. maybe it wasn't enough :(. unfortunately everyone around him has to suffer the consequences for remainder of life FML. --- I'm pretty much Stu from Rugrats making pudding at 4 in morning because I've lost control of my life - Polycosm ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Zeeak4444 06/08/18 7:28:56 PM #75: |
FaultyGourry posted...
ShutTheF---_Up posted...FaultyGourry posted...But to act like anger brought about by the anguish the people left behind somehow makes them bad or worse people is fucked up. As I've discussed in previous points he shouldn't be told how to grieve. Just as people shouldn't try and tell people what to do with their life. Both are being selfish and there's nothing wrong with that. --- Typical gameFAQers are "Complainers that always complain about those who complain about real legitimate complaints."-Joker_X ... Copied to Clipboard!
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FaultyGourry 06/08/18 7:33:40 PM #76: |
Zeeak4444 posted...
FaultyGourry posted...ShutTheF---_Up posted...FaultyGourry posted...But to act like anger brought about by the anguish the people left behind somehow makes them bad or worse people is fucked up. Exactly. One has to deal with things and do what they feel is right for them at the end of the day. Ya, that's selfish. That's what being human is all about. --- You can tell a lot about a man by how he strangles you. "Hypocrisy does not invalidate a point." - S. Rose. https://imgur.com/ZA4vp0y ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Unite 06/08/18 7:33:52 PM #77: |
No worries after his carreer ends he will be drinking himself to death.
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chill02 06/08/18 7:34:56 PM #78: |
Val Kilmer can go eat a hundred thousand dicks
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thronedfire2 06/08/18 7:42:10 PM #79: |
I can see why people would say suicide is selfish, but I think it's more selfish to think that temporary grief outweighs the torture a suicidal person is going through all the time. and if you say his family and friends grief isn't just temporary, they should be able to get over it a lot easier than he could get past what he was going through
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Solid Snake07 06/08/18 7:52:11 PM #80: |
thronedfire2 posted...
I can see why people would say suicide is selfish, but I think it's more selfish to think that temporary grief outweighs the torture a suicidal person is going through all the time. and if you say his family and friends grief isn't just temporary, they should be able to get over it a lot easier than he could get past what he was going through It's not temporary for your kid man. They have to live with that the rest of their life, and maybe they will be okay. But maybe they won't. Maybe they'll feel like they weren't enough to make you want to stick around and have issues for the rest of their life. You can't just say it's temporary mourning. A little girl lost her father today, a mother lost her son. And in a very hard way to swallow. Those are things you carry with you for life. --- "People incapable of guilt usually do have a good time" -Detective Rust Cohle ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Scotty_Rogers 06/08/18 7:57:46 PM #81: |
OctilIery posted...
Scotty_Rogers posted...@ShutTheF---_Up When you have a daughter who needs you around, it is selfish. Bourdain could have certainly gotten enough professional help to improve his state of mind. --- THE FAM. My waifus Caulifla, Kale and Kefla from Dragon Ball Super and I drawn by da GOAT @MoistenedYouth: https://imgur.com/a/TYhlg ... Copied to Clipboard!
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OctilIery 06/08/18 8:04:08 PM #83: |
Scotty_Rogers posted...
When you have a daughter who needs you around, it is selfish. B Nope. It's never selfish. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Scotty_Rogers 06/08/18 8:10:22 PM #84: |
@OctilIery posted...
Scotty_Rogers posted...When you have a daughter who needs you around, it is selfish. B Yes, it is. You're only considering yourself when you do it. Do it, and you fuck up your daughter's life. --- THE FAM. My waifus Caulifla, Kale and Kefla from Dragon Ball Super and I drawn by da GOAT @MoistenedYouth: https://imgur.com/a/TYhlg ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Solid Snake07 06/08/18 8:35:42 PM #85: |
Scotty_Rogers posted...
@OctilIery posted...Scotty_Rogers posted...When you have a daughter who needs you around, it is selfish. B That's a bit assumptive. He could have been in a mental state where he convinced himself that she'd be better off without him in her life or some shit. I'm not really defending it, think it's pretty obvious from my posts that I'm kind of disappointed. But the guy obviously wasn't in a clear state of mind, who knows what he was thinking and what kind of rationale he had for what he did. I wonder if he relapsed or something. I've heard rumors that his girlfriend was seen with another man but.......come on. he was a 60 year old man, I'm sure he's been through rougher relationship bumps than that. --- "People incapable of guilt usually do have a good time" -Detective Rust Cohle ... Copied to Clipboard!
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xBloodBrotherx 06/08/18 8:40:54 PM #86: |
Scotty_Rogers posted...
@OctilIery posted...Scotty_Rogers posted... You don't understand how mental health issues like that can affect you. He very easily could've had himself convinced that he was fundamentally bad for the child and that him not being around would've been better for her. --- The above post is literally and objectively right. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Scotty_Rogers 06/08/18 8:48:38 PM #87: |
xBloodBrotherx posted...
You don't understand how mental health issues like that can affect you. Yes, I do. Being mentally ill can make you do wrong things. No brainer. Still not a justification. xBloodBrotherx posted... He very easily could've had himself convinced that he was fundamentally bad for the child and that him not being around would've been better for her. That's stupid for him to think. Offing himself obviously is not a solution for that. --- THE FAM. My waifus Caulifla, Kale and Kefla from Dragon Ball Super and I drawn by da GOAT @MoistenedYouth: https://imgur.com/a/TYhlg ... Copied to Clipboard!
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OctilIery 06/08/18 9:12:19 PM #88: |
Scotty_Rogers posted...
@OctilIery posted...Scotty_Rogers posted...When you have a daughter who needs you around, it is selfish. B Doesn't make it selfish. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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CanuckCowboy 06/08/18 9:21:43 PM #89: |
He's a total asshole for saying it but he not wrong.
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ShutTheF---_Up 06/08/18 9:25:43 PM #90: |
FaultyGourry posted...
"Voicing your anger and frustration at a friends actions after they caused you pain makes you a bad person." What a fucking load Did you even read what I posted? Or did you conveniently ignore me pointing out him publicly villainizing him (which is different from "voicing frustration") and demonizing the dude/writing him off as weak because you know it makes your point look stupid FaultyGourry posted... And it IS about him. No, it's not. You know who you sound like rn? You remind me of this one guy who was aggravated with Cornell's death because he could no longer produce music for him with how absurdly disconnected you are from the concept of mental illness. It's not about you. People aren't obligated to stay alive because of you. Scotty_Rogers posted... That's stupid for him to think. Offing himself obviously is not a solution for that. Wow it's almost as if people aren't in a rational state of mind when they're thinking about suicide! --- Another Conflict alt cause mawds don't like me ... Copied to Clipboard!
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xBloodBrotherx 06/08/18 9:26:52 PM #91: |
Scotty_Rogers posted...
xBloodBrotherx posted...You don't understand how mental health issues like that can affect you. Wait, why am I trying to have a rational discussion about this with someone who faked their own suicide for attention? --- The above post is literally and objectively right. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Scotty_Rogers 06/08/18 9:35:49 PM #92: |
@ShutTheF---_Up posted...
Wow it's almost as if people aren't in a rational state of mind when they're thinking about suicide! Being irrational doesn't make what you do unselfish. --- THE FAM. My waifus Caulifla, Kale and Kefla from Dragon Ball Super and I drawn by da GOAT @MoistenedYouth: https://imgur.com/a/TYhlg ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Lorenzo_2003 06/08/18 9:36:36 PM #93: |
Allanon23 posted...
Kilmer isn't wrong. And he's saying it as a friend who is deeply hurt and upset. Kilmer also had throat cancer, which ravaged him for a while. His perspective on Bourdain's death is bound to be different from a lot of other people's opinions. --- ... ... Copied to Clipboard!
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OctilIery 06/08/18 9:37:16 PM #94: |
CanuckCowboy posted...
He's a total asshole for saying it but he not wrong. He is, though. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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MarshallStack 06/08/18 9:41:02 PM #95: |
ShutTheF---_Up posted...
I like when idiots who've never had to experience vile and chronic mental pain talk about how "suicide is selfish" I don't think it's selfish but it does make you a fucking pussy --- "it's a flaming wonder, telepath" ... Copied to Clipboard!
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FaultyGourry 06/08/18 10:00:19 PM #97: |
ShutTheF---_Up posted...
Did you even read what I posted? Or did you conveniently ignore me pointing out him publicly villainizing him (which is different from "voicing frustration") and demonizing the dude/writing him off as weak because you know it makes your point look stupid Saying someone is selfish when their actions caused you pain is not vilifying somebody. Kilmer is going through a hard time right now, and I would expect someone who's attempting to defend someone who killed themselves because of their pain to maybe, possibly, think about the pain of those he left behind. Have you ever lost someone to suicide? Have you lost anybody at all in any fucking way? Your emotions and mental state are not in the best of places when shit like this happens. Don't talk about Kilmer demonizing someone when he's talking open and honestly about someone he cared about and then turn around and demonize him for a situation and relationship you had no fucking part in. ShutTheF---_Up posted... No, it's not. You know who you sound like rn? You remind me of this one guy who was aggravated with Cornell's death because he could no longer produce music for him with how absurdly disconnected you are from the concept of mental illness. It's not about you. People aren't obligated to stay alive because of you. You're the one trying to dictate how Kilmer should grieve because you don't like how he's doing so! Not once have I spoken ill of Bourdain or his actions. You keep talking up about the concept of mental illness without any regard for how much of a toll an action such as suicide can take on those left behind, including those with mental illness. I speak from experience when I say it fucks you up when someone you love and care about kills themself. So don't you dare talk down to me when you have no clue of what you're talking about. --- You can tell a lot about a man by how he strangles you. "Hypocrisy does not invalidate a point." - S. Rose. https://imgur.com/ZA4vp0y ... Copied to Clipboard!
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OctilIery 06/08/18 10:03:15 PM #98: |
MarshallStack posted...
ShutTheF---_Up posted...I like when idiots who've never had to experience vile and chronic mental pain talk about how "suicide is selfish" Nope. But good job showing you're an awful person. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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ShutTheF---_Up 06/08/18 10:04:14 PM #99: |
MarshallStack posted...
ShutTheF---_Up posted...I like when idiots who've never had to experience vile and chronic mental pain talk about how "suicide is selfish" Nobody gives a shit what you think FaultyGourry posted...
Okay, so you aren't reading what I said + you're stupidly understating what dude's doing because you agree with him. Gotcha --- Another Conflict alt cause mawds don't like me ... Copied to Clipboard!
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AngryGrandpa 06/08/18 10:05:39 PM #100: |
MacadamianNut3 posted...
ShutTheF---_Up posted...I like when idiots who've never had to experience vile and chronic mental pain talk about how "suicide is selfish" I've been through vile and chronic mental pain and more. I think suicide is selfish if you have family and friends that care about you. If you have nothing like myself then it's not selfish. Idk it all depends. --- god damn ... Copied to Clipboard!
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