Current Events > I dumped a girl for not having her life together. Now she has her life together.

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Dumped her 6 months ago. Kinda want to take her back. Do i have any right to try to get her back? >_> She got fit/lost weight, got her own place, got a promotion and is doing so good with her job, that they transferred her to the busiest location in the city and made her a manager. I mean, I did try to get her to do these things when we were together but she was pretty lazy and made a lot of excuses. I guess the breakup was a wake up call. I'm glad she got her shit together.

Does it make me kind of a dick to want her back now? I DID try to get her to improve while we were together when I noticed she was really lacking focus/direction in life.
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I wouldn't say it makes you a dick.

Just understand that she may not want to get back with you now that her shit's together.

Rekt
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Well she does owe it to you.
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It's a pretty big stretch to think she'll take you back in da first place.
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Doesn't make you a dick to give it a shot and say hi, but if she used getting dumped by you as motivation to get her act together, don't be surprised if she isn't interested.
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Damn, thats why you gotta forget all the bullshit when finding a partner. If you like the person youll make it work. Never hurts to try though, best of luck.
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you might as well try. what have you got to lose
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She most likely will not take you back. If anything, she got her life together to spite you.
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Considering it sounds like removing you from the equation is what got her to be an awesome person...

Maybe you were the problem. Let her be.
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MrDrMan posted...

Maybe you were the problem. Let her be.

Yeah maybe this too. Maybe you were too godamn pushy. Nothin piss me off more than pushy people right? RIGHT!?
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Mr_Biscuit posted...

Doesn't make you a dick to give it a shot and say hi, but if she used getting dumped by you as motivation to get her act together, don't be surprised if she isn't interested.

This.
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We haven't spoken in about 2 months. She was never a clingy ex though so that's good. She sent one attempt/needy text about 2 months after we broke up but that's been it. Quiet on her end since.
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Does not make it you a dick at all. Quite the opposite, you tried to make her a better version of herself. Whether she's willing to take you back now is another matter entirely.
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Most of the time those chicks that are kinda big then lose weight end up having banging bodies once they lose the weight. I understand why you want to pursue.

Go for it if you really think it's a good idea but I'd let it go. I doubt she's down after you dumped her.
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How long were you together?

Also, asking her out makes it so she succeeded 100%. Have the person who dumped you come back to try again is usually the end goal when you get your life together after a breakup.

So if she takes you back, that's cool. But if she rejects you, you just made it all worth it for her.
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If she already had a job and was at least doing some things right when you were together I dont see how youd have much of a chance. Maybe stop looking at her Facebook.
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