Current Events > pick up artist pro tip: have girls meet you at your place before a date

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if you're planning on sleeping with a girl on a date (and you should be, even on a first date), ideally you should have your logistics all planned out right. Take her to a few places around your place and then bounce her home for sex. I live downtown of a major metropolitan city, so there's tons of bars/restaurants within a couple blocks of me. Know these places well.

So I just tell girls to meet me outside my building and then we'll take it from there and give them my address. There are many reasons for this. This way, if the girl is late, you're just at home doing whatever (working, watching a movie, etc) instead of waiting on her somewhere. I've had girls show up as much as 3 hours late (these supermodel types are always like this...) and it doesn't matter to me because I don't lose much. If she flakes or just flat out doesn't show up...you didn't really waste that much effort.

Now, once a girl shows up I tell her to let's start with a drink here while we discuss where we want to go. Most girls will come along inside for a drink. Then sometimes (emphasis on sometimes), one drink turns into 2 and so on and we end up sleeping together without ever leaving the apartment. Or we have one drink and then head out to get food or drink more. At least then she's already been inside my apartment and feels semi-comfortable there so when we go back for sex later she's not freaking out

If the girl doesn't want to come in (usually because they feel uncomfortable), I say that's fine but I left my wallet inside, come with me to grab it and then we'll head out. No biggie, again then at least she's seen the inside of my apartment and her comfort with it has marginally increased so that we can head back there for sex later with less objections.

Caveat: Never use the phrase "my place", this triggers quite the defense mechanism in girls. Just work around it, say "my spot", "the headquarters", "the loft", etc.

Even if you don't live in the downtown area, I would suggest doing this, just take her to some place in your area.

Even if you don't live downtown but plan on taking her there, I suggest doing this. Unless you live really far out of the way, in which I suggest moving closer. That way you can drive her and it's less clunky moving place to place and, if anything, she has to go back to your place to get her car...and possibly have sex. Or once she gets there, the two of you can take an uber into the city together if you plan on drinking.

If you don't have a car, just ask her to pick you up as long as it's semi on the way. I've done this when dating locals while I was traveling, it's not a big deal. Or again, have her show up and then uber somewhere together.
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No_U_L7 posted...

Caveat: Never use the phrase "my place", this triggers quite the defense mechanism in girls. Just work around it, say "my spot", "the headquarters", "the loft", etc.

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*takes a giant shit in the middle of topic*
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But I'm not pretty enough.

I miss your alt topics about hooking up with women.

Or bitching about not hooking up with women.

I can't remember which one you were, but they were equally pathetic.
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EmeralDragon23 posted...

I miss your alt topics about hooking up with women.

Or bitching about not hooking up with women.

I can't remember which one you were, but they were equally pathetic.

i do both, i give a full unfiltered picture of my life, no bragging no bitching, just the truth, that way the highs (ie sleeping with porn stars) are worth the pain (ie girls leaving me to go home with other guys).
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Unfiltered bullshit maybe
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DarthAragorn posted...

Unfiltered bullshit maybe

i give great advice based off years of studying and personal experience. if you don't want to listen to it, don't...but you'll get laid more if you did listen.
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What do I tell her when she asks why my telescope is pointed downward out my window facing into my college neighbors bathroom window?
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I truly feel saddened that youve kept up this embarrassing gimmick for this many years. Holy fucking hell.
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If TC actually had a date, he'd probably have his mom drive them around.
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No_U_L7 posted...

DarthAragorn posted...

Unfiltered bullshit maybe

i give great advice based off years of studying and personal experience. if you don't want to listen to it, don't...but you'll get laid more if you did listen.

I own a copy of The Game from my angsty teenage years. Youre not giving anyone an ounce of goddamn information.
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Deadpool_18 posted...

No_U_L7 posted...

DarthAragorn posted...

Unfiltered bullshit maybe

i give great advice based off years of studying and personal experience. if you don't want to listen to it, don't...but you'll get laid more if you did listen.

I own a copy of The Game from my angsty teenage years. Youre not giving anyone an ounce of goddamn information.

Hate to break it to you, but "The Game" is not real pickup. Real understanding of seduction happens over years of studying and practicing a multitude of different methods and figuring things out for yourself. That's like saying you read an entry level cookbook and are now an expert chef or really understand cooking.

Please do explain to me how this advice is not helpful? For starters, this bit of advice would have been extremely helpful to this dude: https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/boards/400-current-events/76329748
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@Deadpool_18 still waiting on an answer
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Should I dust off my video games beforehand?
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No_U_L7 posted...

@Deadpool_18 still waiting on an answer

I'M still waiting on an answer.
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Cosmic_Diabetic posted...

What do I tell her when she asks why my telescope is pointed downward out my window facing into my college neighbors bathroom window?

point it up at the stars before she gets there -__-
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No_U_L7 posted...

If the girl doesn't want to come in, I say that's fine but I left my wallet inside, come with me to grab it and then we'll head out.

Girl: "I don't want to come in"
TC: "Okay come in"
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C
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Muffinz0rz posted...

No_U_L7 posted...

If the girl doesn't want to come in, I say that's fine but I left my wallet inside, come with me to grab it and then we'll head out.

Girl: "I don't want to come in"
TC: "Okay come in"

more like:

Me: let's start with a drink here
Girl: no thanks, i'd rather just get going
Me: ok, no problem but i planned on starting here so i gotta go back in and grab my wallet and lock up, come with me
Girl: ok

All I'm doing is changing what i'm asking for to be less of an ask. Only one girl ever has ever objected to the second option.
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JustMyOpinion posted...

Muffinz0rz posted...

No_U_L7 posted...

If the girl doesn't want to come in, I say that's fine but I left my wallet inside, come with me to grab it and then we'll head out.

Girl: "I don't want to come in"
TC: "Okay come in"

Lol. Why would she have to head inside for him to get his wallet? Does the search require two people?

so she doesn't have to stand alone outside and i'm good company?
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JustMyOpinion posted...

No_U_L7 posted...

JustMyOpinion posted...

Muffinz0rz posted...

No_U_L7 posted...

If the girl doesn't want to come in, I say that's fine but I left my wallet inside, come with me to grab it and then we'll head out.

Girl: "I don't want to come in"
TC: "Okay come in"

Lol. Why would she have to head inside for him to get his wallet? Does the search require two people?

so she doesn't have to stand alone outside and i'm good company?

Hmmm. Nah. I think for a decent chunk of the female population they'd prefer waiting outside rather than rolling the dice on if the guy they just met is a serial killer. Trying to not so subtly force them inside doesn't assauge those fears.

you're thinking logically like a guy...women think much more emotionally. same reason why girls always go to the bathroom together...they prefer to stick together. Like I always say, try it for yourself and report back. Don't take my word as gospel, but in my experience, girls will come in with me 99.9% of the time. If a girl really doesn't want to come in that badly, she doesn't have to...i'll always have another chance to get her in after a few more hours together.
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Notnreading that shit, but Im in a very healthy relationship regardless of the PUA culture.
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No_U_L7 posted...

I've had girls show up as much as 3 hours late (these supermodel types are always like this...)

lmao I'm so dead
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Deadpool_18 posted...

Notnreading that shit, but Im in a very healthy relationship regardless of the PUA culture.

What "PUA" culture are you referring to...?

So you're saying you didn't read the topic at all and came into the topic to doing nothing but be negative...
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No_U_L7 posted...

Deadpool_18 posted...

Notnreading that shit, but Im in a very healthy relationship regardless of the PUA culture.

What "PUA" culture are you referring to...?

So you're saying you didn't read the topic at all and came into the topic to doing nothing but be negative...

i'm pretty sure incels started as PUA' and then eventually morphed into the incels that we know today
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JustMyOpinion posted...

No_U_L7 posted...

JustMyOpinion posted...

Muffinz0rz posted...

No_U_L7 posted...

If the girl doesn't want to come in, I say that's fine but I left my wallet inside, come with me to grab it and then we'll head out.

Girl: "I don't want to come in"
TC: "Okay come in"

Lol. Why would she have to head inside for him to get his wallet? Does the search require two people?

so she doesn't have to stand alone outside and i'm good company?

Hmmm. Nah. I think for a decent chunk of the female population they'd prefer waiting outside rather than rolling the dice on if the guy they just met is a serial killer. Trying to not so subtly force them inside doesn't assauge those fears.

This

You've just met the woman, and the first thing you do is openly pressure her into doing the thing she explicitly said she didn't want to do.

Automatic red flag.
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anth0ny posted...

No_U_L7 posted...

Deadpool_18 posted...

Notnreading that shit, but Im in a very healthy relationship regardless of the PUA culture.

What "PUA" culture are you referring to...?

So you're saying you didn't read the topic at all and came into the topic to doing nothing but be negative...

i'm pretty sure incels started as PUA' and then eventually morphed into the incels that we know today

maybe if they have unhealthy thinking patterns in relation to sex, girls, love, relationships etc
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TC forgot to mention the roofies.
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Even though I know this is a joke topic, thats about the worst advice possible. Only thing worse is demanding to come to their place.
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Scaramanga posted...

TC forgot to mention the roofies.

and the implication
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Muffinz0rz posted...

JustMyOpinion posted...

No_U_L7 posted...

JustMyOpinion posted...

Muffinz0rz posted...

No_U_L7 posted...

If the girl doesn't want to come in, I say that's fine but I left my wallet inside, come with me to grab it and then we'll head out.

Girl: "I don't want to come in"
TC: "Okay come in"

Lol. Why would she have to head inside for him to get his wallet? Does the search require two people?

so she doesn't have to stand alone outside and i'm good company?

Hmmm. Nah. I think for a decent chunk of the female population they'd prefer waiting outside rather than rolling the dice on if the guy they just met is a serial killer. Trying to not so subtly force them inside doesn't assauge those fears.

This

You've just met the woman, and the first thing you do is openly pressure her into doing the thing she explicitly said she didn't want to do.

Automatic red flag.

Um....no. I just said, I'm asking for something else. You are projecting and assuming. If she doesn't want to do that (or if she just wants to pay for both of us because i don't have my wallet), that's fine. I have no problem leaving her there while I go grab my wallet and coming back out. It's actually much more rude to NOT invite her in and leave her outside alone. It's saying I don't trust her enough in my place. If she doesn't want to come in, fine. I'll have several more hours to talk and seduce her...and I'm more than confident she'll want to come in after a bit more time with me.
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masticatingman posted...

Even though I know this is a joke topic, thats about the worst advice possible. Only thing worse is demanding to come to their place.

Explain to me why, please. I'm listening.
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No_U_L7 posted...

masticatingman posted...

Even though I know this is a joke topic, thats about the worst advice possible. Only thing worse is demanding to come to their place.

Explain to me why, please. I'm listening.

On a first date its best to meet up in public, somewhere you can both feel comfortable.
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There's a major flaw with this plan. If she cray cray she now knows where you live.
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masticatingman posted...

No_U_L7 posted...

masticatingman posted...

Even though I know this is a joke topic, thats about the worst advice possible. Only thing worse is demanding to come to their place.

Explain to me why, please. I'm listening.

On a first date its best to meet up in public, somewhere you can both feel comfortable.

I've already explained, the girl never has to do anything she doesn't feel comfortable with. Worst case we'll meet up outside my place and walk 2 blocks to a bar/restaurant. But why not give the option to start with a drink at my place? The vast majority of girls are perfectly comfortable with that, so why not at least offer?
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But no, keep on telling dudes to insist on her coming to your apartment to start off. Oh shit, I mean the headquarters.
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voldothegr8 posted...

There's a major flaw with this plan. If she cray cray she now knows where you live.

I have this policy...always stick your dick in crazy.

Yeah, joking aside try to avoid crazy girls. I can usually handle them no problem though. And if there is a problem...my place has a gate.
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so i was thinking, and here's some of my best pua advice to give someone:

just ask yourself: "what would Spike Spiegel do"
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im Spike Spiegel irl btw
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No_U_L7 posted...

masticatingman posted...

No_U_L7 posted...

masticatingman posted...

Even though I know this is a joke topic, thats about the worst advice possible. Only thing worse is demanding to come to their place.

Explain to me why, please. I'm listening.

On a first date its best to meet up in public, somewhere you can both feel comfortable.

I've already explained, the girl never has to do anything she doesn't feel comfortable with. Worst case we'll meet up outside my place and walk 2 blocks to a bar/restaurant. But why not give the option to start with a drink at my place? The vast majority of girls are perfectly comfortable with that, so why not at least offer?

Because even more girls are comfortable with meeting up in public.
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masticatingman posted...

But no, keep on telling dudes to insist on her coming to your apartment to start off. Oh shit, I mean the headquarters.

It's a starting spot. If we are going to go somewhere 2 blocks away, it's as good a place to meet as any. No girl has ever freaked out because I told them to meet me outside my building. So...what's the issue?
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masticatingman posted...

No_U_L7 posted...

masticatingman posted...

No_U_L7 posted...

masticatingman posted...

Even though I know this is a joke topic, thats about the worst advice possible. Only thing worse is demanding to come to their place.

Explain to me why, please. I'm listening.

On a first date its best to meet up in public, somewhere you can both feel comfortable.

I've already explained, the girl never has to do anything she doesn't feel comfortable with. Worst case we'll meet up outside my place and walk 2 blocks to a bar/restaurant. But why not give the option to start with a drink at my place? The vast majority of girls are perfectly comfortable with that, so why not at least offer?

Because even more girls are comfortable with meeting up in public.

So if she's not comfortable meeting me outside my building, which is 2 blocks from the place we are going...she doesn't have to show up at all. I'm ok with that. So again...what's the issue?
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would you two stop bickering about the way tc plots his dates the way a serial murderer would
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it's annoying
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Thanks TC, this is good advice. Ignore the haters.
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