Current Events > Do you think you would date a girl if you had 0 physical attraction towards her

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no
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Does she have a fat butt?
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Turbam posted...

Does she have a fat butt?

would that be a good thing? This doesn't apply to me, it's just a hypothetical
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Turbam posted...

Does she have a fat butt?

Yeah, she has a fat fucking butt, which is why she's not attractive
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maybe

not if i had negative attraction to her.
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No, because 0 physical attraction would either mean:

A. She's a family member. In which case obvious no-no.

B. She's some literal inhuman demon monstrosity of the apocalypse, because merely being a living human girl who's not at an inappropriate age should account for at least a single point or a fraction of a point or whatever. Flat 0? Screw this I'm outta here
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Distant_Rainbow posted...

She's some literal inhuman demon monstrosity of the apocalypse

i came
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Obviously not
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Been in that situation.

It was the only time in my life where I understood what girls go through when they friendzone a guy.
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If she's in good shape, just not the looks I normally go for then sure. If she's ugly/overweight then not so much.
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I don't think that relationship would last. At best it'd be a side thing to occupy myself with while I look for literally any other girl to dump her for.
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Well I would finish inside pretty much anything so yes
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If I had a lot in common with her and she had mutually respect.
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I tried it once, really nice girl so I thought I was just being shallow and I should give it a shot... but yeah, just didnt work.
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Zero physical attraction does not absolutely always mean zero attraction at all.

It's possible to spend time with someone for a bit and suddenly find something appealing enough about them besides looks that keeps you interested. This is one of the reasons millions of people still settle down and mate despite people with 10/10 appearances being the minority. They can wind up still attracted to someone who doesn't look photoshopped.

That being said, you're not an insensitive monster if you've turned down generic looking people you had zero physical attraction to because you felt it wouldn't work. If looks just happen to be a significant piece of your puzzle for attraction, you can't really force that to change. And dodging a bullet you know will leave both people miserable is a sensible reaction. Just don't be afraid to access your standards once in a while by dating someone who's not ideal at first glance. You might surprise yourself when you still have a good time with them. Sometimes periodically readjusting your standards a bit to be more practical might be exactly what you've been needing to solve your partner drought...
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I was gonna post basically the same thing as CH. Attraction is a complex thing. Physical attraction can grow out of an emotional attraction. It isn't the place of other people to make those choices for you.

Just don't say something like "Ew fuck off uggo" when turning them down. That makes you a bad person.
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Sure, used to work with some girls who had major attitude and I could not get along with, always argued, always had to talk to supervisors etc, etc, but if she let me hit that, I would have it with a vengeance and not pulled out and all that stuff.

I done the whole go out with a girl just because she had a big butt thing way back. It wasn't good because I could never tell her I loved her but the sex was great, she put in extra work just to please me.
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I've fallen for plain looking guys before who were just really thoughtful towards me and interested in dating. I mean there's a lot of superficial, self absorbed gay men, which makes the sweet guys stand out more. And most of my priorities in a man are shown more often in the latter. So I've dated plenty of people for reasons besides their looks because they had other traits that made them still appealing to be with.

I've even gotten romantically possessive of some of my plain looking exes. Like I had an ex who was just a regular looking skinny guy with barely any muscle on him, but I was damn proud of saying his ass was my property in the lover's sense. He treated me right and went the extra mile to be romantic. I liked that and casually made it clear he was my man just like when my friends bragged about reeling in some mega hunk. And even as satisfying as it was being with him, my shallow friends couldn't grasp how I could be that content with a regular looking guy who was just really affectionate. They were so wrapped up in hunting down 10/10 guys for one nighters that they didn't see any value in trying to have a relationship with a sweet average Joe.

We ain't together anymore because of different life goals, but that skinny bitch is still one of my top 5 missed guys because of his charm.
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i've tried it. it's no good. you can ignore it for a few months at the most and then it really starts getting to you.
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