Current Events > just got a number off tinder. How do i not fuck this up?

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had small talk with a girl, asked her to hang out and for her number and she gave me her number.

How do I not fuck this up?
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If she loses interest she loses interest regardless of what you say imo
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don't lag. call over text. shoot for sex on the first date
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Do nothing.

Literally don't contact ever. That way you'll never have to think about how you fucked it up in the future.

WalkingLobsters posted...

How do I not fuck this up?

You know how people always tell nerdy guys to "be yourself"? Don't do that. Be the opposite of yourself.
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Post her number here.
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inb4Tadamoto
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Howl posted...

WalkingLobsters posted...

How do I not fuck this up?

You know how people always tell nerdy guys to "be yourself"? Don't do that. Be the opposite of yourself.

Then she falls for someone he isn't. It may be cliche, but it's solid advice. Same shit happened with my ex, I acted like someone else but it slowly crawled out who I really am, and we ultimately didn't have enough in common.

I mean if you just want pussy then go ahead and lie. If you want a relationship, be up front.
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Bring a magnum condom to "slip" out of your wallet so she knows you have a monster dong
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1) Text her confirming her number later today
2) Use your text game and make her laugh and just say random shit thru Friday
3) Friday, text her asking to hang out
4) shut up and don't text until she responds.

go from there
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Howl posted...

WalkingLobsters posted...

How do I not fuck this up?

You know how people always tell nerdy guys to "be yourself"? Don't do that. Be the opposite of yourself.

why are u assuming i'm a nerdy guy, man? I play video games, watch hentai, and sit like L when using the computer just like everyone else.
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Etherealfare posted...

1) Text her confirming her number later today
2) Use your text game and make her laugh and just say random shit thru Friday
3) Friday, text her asking to hang out
4) shut up and don't text until she responds.

go from there

this will not work
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Etherealfare posted...

1) Text her confirming her number later today
2) Use your text game and make her laugh and just say random shit thru Friday
3) Friday, text her asking to hang out
4) shut up and don't text until she responds.

go from there

why can't i just ask her to hang out on wednesday or something? I have to wait until friday?!? Should I tell her i ain't got no job and i ain't got shit to do and ask her to get high with me?
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WalkingLobsters posted...

Etherealfare posted...

1) Text her confirming her number later today
2) Use your text game and make her laugh and just say random shit thru Friday
3) Friday, text her asking to hang out
4) shut up and don't text until she responds.

go from there

why can't i just ask her to hang out on wednesday or something? I have to wait until friday?!? Should I tell her i ain't got no job and i ain't got shit to do and ask her to get high with me?

you should. you need to ask her out in the first 2 messages you send.
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badwinkles posted...

don't lag. call over text. shoot for sex on the first date

breh i'm tryna take baby steps here. I'm still a baby when it comes to the evolution of man diagram.

Just tryna get some dating experience
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WalkingLobsters posted...

Howl posted...

WalkingLobsters posted...

How do I not fuck this up?

You know how people always tell nerdy guys to "be yourself"? Don't do that. Be the opposite of yourself.

why are u assuming i'm a nerdy guy, man? I play video games, watch hentai, and sit like L when using the computer just like everyone else.

I didn't know L played video games or watched hentai.
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I mean you can text "you're cute, can I buy you a drink sometime?" but I wouldn't be like "What are you up to tomorrow?" and try to go for a Weekday night date lol.

but that's just me, I dunno. I do all my shit on the weekend
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WalkingLobsters posted...

badwinkles posted...

don't lag. call over text. shoot for sex on the first date

breh i'm tryna take baby steps here. I'm still a baby when it comes to the evolution of man diagram.

Just tryna get some dating experience

Aw. Game over man, Game over
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The problem is multipronged:

If you do what people in here say and ask her out ASAP and every day until she says yes, you can pretty much be inferred as having every Weekday to yourself at home doing nothing. If you call her (lmao) like people in here are saying and ask her out TONIGHT and she says no, then you pretty much cannot ask her out for several days.

Otherwise it's like "okay this dude ain't got shit going on in his life is he just gonna ask me nightly to go out?"



Whereas if you do what I say and build rapport and make her smile and ease her into you not being an axe murderer off Tinder, you can ask her out during a weekend night and probably hve much better success.

But yeah, sure, listen to people on here - you just got her number. Immediately call her and if she picks up, be like WHAT YOU DOING RIGHT NOW TONIGHT?!

so attractive.
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Etherealfare posted...

The problem is multipronged:

If you do what people in here say and ask her out ASAP and every day until she says yes, you can pretty much be inferred as having every Weekday to yourself at home doing nothing. If you call her (lmao) like people in here are saying and ask her out TONIGHT and she says no, then you pretty much cannot ask her out for several days.

Otherwise it's like "okay this dude ain't got shit going on in his life is he just gonna ask me nightly to go out?"



Whereas if you do what I say and build rapport and make her smile and ease her into you not being an axe murderer off Tinder, you can ask her out during a weekend night and probably hve much better success.

But yeah, sure, listen to people on here - you just got her number. Immediately call her and if she picks up, be like WHAT YOU DOING RIGHT NOW TONIGHT?!

so attractive.

but dude, the thing is, i already have plans for saturday and sunday nights, man which is why I want to do a weekday.

I could maybe do friday night if i cancel on my friends.

like wouldn't she find that nice anyways? Like the dude asking her out actually does stuff with his life over the weekends??
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Then do what you want

In essence, I agree with this guy:

assassinCrash posted...

If she loses interest she loses interest regardless of what you say imo

I don't think asking her out within 2 texts is going to be some magic bullet that is going to get you into her pants.
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@Etherealfare

I didn't say to persist, if says no the first time I'd be done with it there

Immediately call her and if she picks up, be like WHAT YOU DOING RIGHT NOW TONIGHT?

If you ask like that, then yea that's pretty unnattractive. if you can manage to invite her in a smoother, more confident way she might listen to you and accept

She already knows you want to do something. And she's obviously Ok with that because she gave you her number. If you wait and she looses interest that's way worse than a rejection
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Not really. Girls give numbers all the time just to be nice and avoid assumed confrontation. They use it as a way to get out of being face-to-face for easier rejection over text later.

I agree with you about 1-and-done though. I think we have common ground there.
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I dunno. I feel like girls would much rather just ignore you period if they didn't have some kind of interest. I'm not sure how tinder works but wouldn't she be flooded with requests from dudes? no way she dolls out her number to them out of cowardice just to reject you later more comfortably
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Etherealfare posted...

1) Text her confirming her number later today
2) Use your text game and make her laugh and just say random shit thru Friday
3) Friday, text her asking to hang out
4) shut up and don't text until she responds.

go from there

breh i'm doing what ur saying right now. U want me to ask her on the day of to hang out on Friday? Can I just ask her now? We already exchanged a few msgs through text.
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say good morning or something to her tomorrow and initiate. If she responds, then go for it.

If it takes her hours or even all morning to respond, I'd say keep chatting her up the rest of the day then ask her on Thursday.
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Essentially what I'm saying is, if you get a good vibe and response from her to your text tomorrow, go for it.
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If you do ask a girl out on the same-day, that is a circumstance where I would CALL and ask.
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WalkingLobsters posted...

Etherealfare posted...

1) Text her confirming her number later today
2) Use your text game and make her laugh and just say random shit thru Friday
3) Friday, text her asking to hang out
4) shut up and don't text until she responds.

go from there

breh i'm doing what ur saying right now. U want me to ask her on the day of to hang out on Friday? Can I just ask her now? We already exchanged a few msgs through text.

lol if you actually did #1 I wouldn't be surprised if she blew you off.

"i hav no confidence, jus wanna make sur dis ur real numbr"
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What - no you idiot. You just say "Hey it's Anthony (my name) how are you?"

Not "Hey I have no confidence just making sure dis ur real number"
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You should know where the conversation is headed by now. Ask her what she's doing this weekend and if she says "I don't have any plans" then make some.
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Etherealfare posted...

say good morning or something to her tomorrow and initiate. If she responds, then go for it.

If it takes her hours or even all morning to respond, I'd say keep chatting her up the rest of the day then ask her on Thursday.

aight man. I'll try it. Thanks.

Fossil posted...

WalkingLobsters posted...

Etherealfare posted...

1) Text her confirming her number later today
2) Use your text game and make her laugh and just say random shit thru Friday
3) Friday, text her asking to hang out
4) shut up and don't text until she responds.

go from there

breh i'm doing what ur saying right now. U want me to ask her on the day of to hang out on Friday? Can I just ask her now? We already exchanged a few msgs through text.

lol if you actually did #1 I wouldn't be surprised if she blew you off.

"i hav no confidence, jus wanna make sur dis ur real numbr"

lol. You do know that you can do these things without being direct right? Like carrying the conversation over from Tinder will verify it's the correct number.
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WalkingLobsters posted...

lol. You do know that you can do these things without being direct right? Like carrying the conversation over from Tinder will verify it's the correct number.

Just call her on friday and set something up. Texting is lame.
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texting is not lame. It's fucking 2017. not 2003.
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Etherealfare posted...

texting is not lame. It's fucking 2017. not 2003.

tl;dr im a shy guy. music is that you
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You have to hit her with emojis, just sprinkle some in your convos here and there. Chicks fucking love emojis, no joke. Wife gets mad at me, I hit her with emojis, she calms the fuck down.
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voldothegr8 posted...

You have to hit her with emojis, just sprinkle some in your convos here and there. Chicks fucking love emojis, no joke. Wife gets mad at me, I hit her with emojis, she calms the fuck down.

bitches love smiley faces.

yeah i'm already doing that.
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lmao
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