Current Events > A soon-to-be-former coworker of mine gave me her number.

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Considering we weren't exactly the closest when she worked with me (friendly, but that's it), is it weird I feel really bad that I'm not interested in her at all? Maybe it's just because I've never needed to turn someone down before.

In case someone asks: she actually gave it to another coworker of mine and, when that girl gave it to me, she made it very clear it was being offered with something other than conversation in mind. That's why I know what the intent was. I'm not repulsed by the idea...but there's exactly zero intrigue either for me.

(NOTE: I know my posting history largely suggests I'm gay as hell, but I still am into women too. So it isn't like she's barking up the completely wrong tree here. There's a really obvious "wood" joke there.)
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Been there done that. Don't ring her, ignore any FB messages. She'll get the hint, girls aren't as desperate as us they don't want to bother guys that aren't into them
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Um. Is she attractive as, let's say, Pam on the Office? Or more like- how to put this nicely- Miley Cyrus?
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Problem is I don't want that to be the note she leaves on. We were sort of buddies at best, so it isn't like I'd be ruining a good friendship. I can't imagine any scenario going well, but I'd prefer acknowledging it over hiding. She had the balls (in a sense) to take a shot, I should be able to say something back.

It's just...man. She gave me exactly zero hints that she was into me before this. And I sure as hell didn't hint at an attraction to her. Because it isn't there.
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... or maybe she actually has balls... did you ever think of that?
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LinksLiege posted...

Problem is I don't want that to be the note she leaves on. We were sort of buddies at best, so it isn't like I'd be ruining a good friendship. I can't imagine any scenario going well, but I'd prefer acknowledging it over hiding. She had the balls (in a sense) to take a shot, I should be able to say something back.

It's just...man. She gave me exactly zero hints that she was into me before this. And I sure as hell didn't hint at an attraction to her. Because it isn't there.

then say you're seeing someone. hell you can say you met someone a week ago if you're worried they won't believe it. the universally acceptable rejection that spares feelings and keeps things civil
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She knows I'm single. I didn't tell her directly but it got made pretty clear yesterday when we were talking.

...something tells me that's a factor in this happening today.
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Texted her a while ago...and I haven't gotten anything back. So...iunno.

Think I should explain more about why I feel obligated to say something to her. A couple days ago I was helping a customer who apparently was heavily flirting with me, and this girl who gave me her number told me as much. I didn't realize it whatsoever, and I told her that. It turned into a conversation about how I've almost never been able to recognize flirting when it's happening, and stuff like that. I left it at that, but the truth is that my issues with relationships go a lot further. It's a lot more to do with other emotional problems I have. The kind of problems that will require extensive therapy to work through.

What I'm guessing is that my coworker took what I said to mean that I want a relationship but can't see it when it's being presented, when reality it's, A. I don't see them, and B. I don't care anyway. If that's the case, then turning her down without explaining that will be a real slap to the face for her. "I really want a relationship with someone...not you though."
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