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Damn, I didn't think some parents could freak out like that...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P8Aq00yJSxo

Now Jesus won't be bringing him any presents for christmas

lol man this is great

This is horrible and would be equally horrible if he wanted to convert to any other religion. Despite me being atheist i think everyone should follow what they feel is right.
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I lol'd
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Give. me. a. FUCKING. break. MICHAEL.
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Seriously, I dont find this funny. I know plenty of parents that acted similarly to their children coming out as gay. Its damaging to the children.
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Damn she threatened to take away Christmas!
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That'll make him come back to Christianity for sure.
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i'm so glad my parents aren't religious
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This video happens about 50,000 times per day in America.
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Tag
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I'd be pissed if my kid told me he wanted to be a loser too.
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I've thought about it before, but whats the point of coming out as anything? You can do whatever you want, no need to tell people who can only react neutrally or negatively. Even a positive reaction is pretty neutral and worthless, I mean who cares? I just don't see the point in endangering yourself when there's no reward for the risk, when you can just as freely not and then do whatever.
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lol
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ShotOJameson posted...

I'd be pissed if my kid told me he wanted to be a loser too.

I mean that's the fate of any kid unfortunate enough to have you as a father, they won't have the potential to change that until they're old enough to move out and get away from you.
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I was pretty much disowned by my mom (and ultimately much of the rest of my family because they would never pick me over her) because I'm an atheist. She is a generally very abusive and manipulative person and had known about it for over ten years but she went through an emotionally turbulent time and decided to take it out on me.

The breaking point was when she tried to humiliate and demonize me to my little nieces and nephews on Christmas morning a few years back. She didn't just tell them that I wasn't going to get presents, though, she said I wouldn't get good things in my life.

Joke's on her, though, because forcing us out of each other's lives has been the best thing she's ever done for me. I only wish it happened sooner.
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RockRapDubstep posted...

ShotOJameson posted...

I'd be pissed if my kid told me he wanted to be a loser too.

I mean that's the fate of any kid unfortunate enough to have you as a father, they won't have the potential to change that until they're old enough to move out and get away from you.

yeah ok you don't know me bish

I just don't want my kid to grow up to be a CEman >__>
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DoomSwell posted...

I've thought about it before, but whats the point of coming out as anything? You can do whatever you want, no need to tell people who can only react neutrally or negatively. Even a positive reaction is pretty neutral and worthless, I mean who cares? I just don't see the point in endangering yourself when there's no reward for the risk, when you can just as freely not and then do whatever.

Yes, obviously the parents in TC's video wouldn't have questioned it at all if the son just decided not to go to church or celebrate Christmas. I forgot we live in a world where parents allow their children to do whatever they want without question. If only he hadn't said he's an atheist...
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I wasn't gonna laugh, until she brought up Christmas
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TroutPaste posted...

This video happens about 50,000 times per day in America.

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LinksLiege posted...

Yes, obviously the parents in TC's video wouldn't have questioned it at all if the son just decided not to go to church or celebrate Christmas. I forgot we live in a world where parents allow their children to do whatever they want without question. If only he hadn't said he's an atheist...

You think you're a smartass but the kid is literately turning down free presents, and for what, ego?
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DoomSwell posted...

LinksLiege posted...

Yes, obviously the parents in TC's video wouldn't have questioned it at all if the son just decided not to go to church or celebrate Christmas. I forgot we live in a world where parents allow their children to do whatever they want without question. If only he hadn't said he's an atheist...

You think you're a smartass but the kid is literately turning down free presents, and for what, ego?

It's better for him to lie and say he believes in God when he doesn't just to get presents?
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DoomSwell posted...

You think you're a smartass but the kid is literately turning down free presents, and for what, ego?

My Poe's Law sense is tingling right now.
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LinksLiege posted...

DoomSwell posted...

You think you're a smartass but the kid is literately turning down free presents, and for what, ego?

My Poe's Law sense is tingling right now.

Mine too.
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DuffBeer posted...

I was pretty much disowned by my mom (and ultimately much of the rest of my family because they would never pick me over her) because I'm an atheist. She is a generally very abusive and manipulative person and had known about it for over ten years but she went through an emotionally turbulent time and decided to take it out on me.

The breaking point was when she tried to humiliate and demonize me to my little nieces and nephews on Christmas morning a few years back. She didn't just tell them that I wasn't going to get presents, though, she said I wouldn't get good things in my life.

Joke's on her, though, because forcing us out of each other's lives has been the best thing she's ever done for me. I only wish it happened sooner.

Sucks, dude. If nothing else this will demonstrate who actually cares about you.
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ChaoticKnuckles posted...

It's better for him to lie and say he believes in God when he doesn't just to get presents?

Uh, yeah; it's a pretty harmless lie. It's not like he's lying by confessing he's a pedonecrophiliac. It's just letting his parents believe whatever they want, not causing a scene, and getting rewarded. The easiest thing you can do in life is; absolutely nothing. Not-ing is the laziest, most efficient way to avoid drama, ostracization, punishment... He doesn't even have to lie, he just has to not tell the truth.

It even works for quitting smoking.
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I also like how she threatens to take him to church more often. Going to church and being forced to think about that shit is what pushed me away from my church at a young age.

fuck no that's not real blood, I'm not stupid.
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She must be literally shaking
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ShotOJameson posted...

RockRapDubstep posted...

ShotOJameson posted...

I'd be pissed if my kid told me he wanted to be a loser too.

I mean that's the fate of any kid unfortunate enough to have you as a father, they won't have the potential to change that until they're old enough to move out and get away from you.

yeah ok you don't know me bish

I just don't want my kid to grow up to be a CEman >__>

that's not what you said.

you said you'd be pissed if your kid told you they don't have the same religious views as you do.

that's fucking awful. either change, or own up to being a terrible person.
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Unfortunately, this is a common reaction from Christian families (and I imagine most other monotheistic religions as well). For anything else, regardless of what you are or do, you can at least be saved by the fact that "you're still a Christian." But if your an atheist? All that goes away, and you're now running contrary to the fundamental core beliefs the family clings to. The more deep into the religion the family is, the harder that pill becomes to swallow.
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vintage, nice
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Ugh, bible thumpers are so angry and unhinged.
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Yikes.
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LinksLiege posted...

That'll make him come back to Christianity for sure.

Lmao for real

This is why Christianity is on its way out. Christians just don't understand how to sway people when violence is off the table
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Choco posted...

i'm so glad my parents aren't religious

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It's a fun phase. Everyone gets older and eventually more conservative and religious.
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JSancton posted...

It's a fun phase. Everyone gets older and eventually more conservative and religious.

Lmao no
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JSancton posted...

It's a fun phase. Everyone gets older and eventually more conservative and religious.

Lol at thinking if I dont believe in your god it must be a phase.

DoomSwell posted...

I've thought about it before, but whats the point of coming out as anything? You can do whatever you want, no need to tell people who can only react neutrally or negatively. Even a positive reaction is pretty neutral and worthless, I mean who cares? I just don't see the point in endangering yourself when there's no reward for the risk, when you can just as freely not and then do whatever.

So when your family asks you to pray or go to church with them but you don't want to because you don't believe in go anymore, how would you explain why you didn't want to do it? Your only options are to lie and go along with it or admit that you're not religious anymore
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Feline_Heart posted...

So when your family asks you to pray or go to church with them but you don't want to because you don't believe in go anymore, how would you explain why you didn't want to do it? Your only options are to lie and go along with it or admit that you're not religious anymore

Can't answer for the other guy but just personally, in regards to prayer, I'm never asked to lead anything so it doesn't come up. If they want to pray before a meal and I happen to be there, well that's fine, why would I make a big deal about that?

In regards to going to church, I've been honest with my mom about not liking to go to church. I told her that I've honestly never liked going to church much, so she doesn't ask me to go anymore. No lies but I've still never told her fully that I'm an atheist.
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Giblet_Enjoyer posted...

LinksLiege posted...

That'll make him come back to Christianity for sure.

Lmao for real

This is why Christianity is on its way out. Christians just don't understand how to sway people when violence is off the table

Christianity lost its best argument when it couldn't burn people at the stake anymore.
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DoomSwell posted...

ChaoticKnuckles posted...

It's better for him to lie and say he believes in God when he doesn't just to get presents?

Uh, yeah; it's a pretty harmless lie. It's not like he's lying by confessing he's a pedonecrophiliac. It's just letting his parents believe whatever they want, not causing a scene, and getting rewarded. The easiest thing you can do in life is; absolutely nothing. Not-ing is the laziest, most efficient way to avoid drama, ostracization, punishment... He doesn't even have to lie, he just has to not tell the truth.

It even works for quitting smoking.

Some people aren't wired that way. To some people, not saying what you believe in or who you are out of fear or wanting to avoid the reactions of others is living a lie. And they don't want to do that. And honestly they shouldn't have to. There's a big difference between just telling any and everyone that you're an atheist for no real reason versus telling someone in the appropriate context (like a parent when they want to know why you don't want to go to church or pray, etc.)

You'd rather avoid the conflict, which is cool but some people would rather not feel like they're hiding who they are. Neither approach is incorrect, and both are pretty easy to understand.
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ChaoticKnuckles posted...

DoomSwell posted...

ChaoticKnuckles posted...

It's better for him to lie and say he believes in God when he doesn't just to get presents?

Uh, yeah; it's a pretty harmless lie. It's not like he's lying by confessing he's a pedonecrophiliac. It's just letting his parents believe whatever they want, not causing a scene, and getting rewarded. The easiest thing you can do in life is; absolutely nothing. Not-ing is the laziest, most efficient way to avoid drama, ostracization, punishment... He doesn't even have to lie, he just has to not tell the truth.

It even works for quitting smoking.

Some people aren't wired that way. To some people, not saying what you believe in or who you are out of fear or wanting to avoid the reactions of others is living a lie. And they don't want to do that. And honestly they shouldn't have to. There's a big difference between just telling any and everyone that you're an atheist for no real reason versus telling someone in the appropriate context (like a parent when they want to know why you don't want to go to church or pray, etc.)

You'd rather avoid the conflict, which is cool but some people would rather not feel like they're hiding who they are. Neither approach is incorrect, and both are pretty easy to understand.

On some level I understand this but on another level, I don't agree personally.

IMO,my atheism isn't really a defining feature or thing about me and also IMO it's 100% my business and not anyone else's. There's all sorts of little things that my mom doesn't know about me and doesn't need to know about me and I kinda put it into that same category.
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Twin3Turbo posted...

ChaoticKnuckles posted...

DoomSwell posted...

ChaoticKnuckles posted...

It's better for him to lie and say he believes in God when he doesn't just to get presents?

Uh, yeah; it's a pretty harmless lie. It's not like he's lying by confessing he's a pedonecrophiliac. It's just letting his parents believe whatever they want, not causing a scene, and getting rewarded. The easiest thing you can do in life is; absolutely nothing. Not-ing is the laziest, most efficient way to avoid drama, ostracization, punishment... He doesn't even have to lie, he just has to not tell the truth.

It even works for quitting smoking.

Some people aren't wired that way. To some people, not saying what you believe in or who you are out of fear or wanting to avoid the reactions of others is living a lie. And they don't want to do that. And honestly they shouldn't have to. There's a big difference between just telling any and everyone that you're an atheist for no real reason versus telling someone in the appropriate context (like a parent when they want to know why you don't want to go to church or pray, etc.)

You'd rather avoid the conflict, which is cool but some people would rather not feel like they're hiding who they are. Neither approach is incorrect, and both are pretty easy to understand.

On some level I understand this but on another level, I don't agree personally.

IMO,my atheism isn't really a defining feature or thing about me and also IMO it's 100% my business and not anyone else's. There's all sorts of little things that my mom doesn't know about me and doesn't need to know about me and I kinda put it into that same category.

Well that's why I said context is important. Do I think it makes sense to just randomly walk around telling people you're an athiest if it doesn't come up naturally in a conversation? No, not really. But in a child and parent situation I imagine it's very easy to have that come up. All the kid has to say is that they don't want to go to church anymore. At that point the parent can either say "You're going, I don't care" (like my dad did) or ask "Why don't you want to go anymore?" And at that point the kid has a choice to make. They can either make something up or they can tell the truth. I understand both responses to that situation and it completely depends on the individual what they would do in that scenario.
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Asherlee10 posted...

I don't understand the mentality of the mother.

"I should shame and scream at my child for not believing in something I believe in. That will surely make him believe."

it's not like she's taking time to think critically about the situation. she just hears her son admit to "doing" something that she thinks is super awful and wants to stop him from doing it

dumb ppl gonna dumb
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