Current Events > Why is breaking up with someone so fucking hard?

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I need to break up with my girlfriend so bad. I'm 80% of the way there I've blocked her on literally everything but I can't change that relationship status...
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The illusion of being with someone.
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Well when she doesn't exist... :/

kewldude475 posted...

What did she do?

Our relationship just makes me unhappy. I fucked up a while ago and she was already a jealous person before. To the point I doubt it'll ever be any other way.

Besides that we're just at different stages in life. I'm 23 on the back end of college she is 23 and has a 7 year old kid. The things we want and have time for are just completely different. Feel like I skipped straight from party days to being a 40 year old dad.
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TheDarkCircle posted...

Well when she doesn't exist... :/

I'm not gonna lie I don't want to let her go because she's genuinely a good person. However, our relationship infuriates me to no end.

I shit you not I blocked her like 20 minutes ago and my mood instantly was better. She was blowing my phone up in any possible way when I told her all I was trying to do was go to bed.
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MrDrMan posted...

I need to break up with my girlfriend so bad. I'm 80% of the way there I've blocked her on literally everything but I can't change that relationship status...

Did you tell her you're breaking up or are you just ghosting her
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kewldude475 posted...

I don't know man, If she's genuinely a good person I wouldn't wanna break up with her. But if she doesn't trust you then thats not good. I say talk with her in the morning when she can down. You gotta decide if you really love this girl or not

It's hard man. I do but I've spent too many nights like this. Like she doesn't understand how/when to stop.

Like there's just a point every normal person would stop arguing. She goes way past that.
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_Schwarzlicht_ posted...

MrDrMan posted...

I need to break up with my girlfriend so bad. I'm 80% of the way there I've blocked her on literally everything but I can't change that relationship status...

Did you tell her you're breaking up or are you just ghosting her

I told her I honestly thought it'd be for the best but I was tired so I was going to sleep. I told her I'd talk to her about it tomorrow. She literally texted me over 20 times. I put my phone on do not disturb then she snapchatted me, then twitter, Facebook, etc.

Like I said man she just doesn't know when to stop. I
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MrDrMan posted...

Besides that we're just at different stages in life. I'm 23 on the back end of college she is 23 and has a 7 year old kid. The things we want and have time for are just completely different. Feel like I skipped straight from party days to being a 40 year old dad.

Well I can't blame you, there's no way I could have dealt with that coming back home from college. She needs to find someone who can be a real father for the kid. So maybe by thinking that you did the right thing it will help.
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No it aint.

Call her up and be like, bye Felicia, thanks for the fuck.
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Awakened_Link posted...

The illusion of being with someone.

Honestly not that at all. I've been with this girl 2 years and only made it like social media official a few months ago. It was never about that.

The thing is I don't plan on going back and forth publicly like that. I don't mind it as much if it's just between us. If it's on Facebook where literally thousands of people will see then I don't want to flip flop. When/if I change that it will be for good.
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Sativa_Rose posted...

MrDrMan posted...

Besides that we're just at different stages in life. I'm 23 on the back end of college she is 23 and has a 7 year old kid. The things we want and have time for are just completely different. Feel like I skipped straight from party days to being a 40 year old dad.

Well I can't blame you, there's no way I could have dealt with that coming back home from college. She needs to find someone who can be a real father for the kid. So maybe by thinking that you did the right thing it will help.

The most fucked up part about is that the kids dad is around he's just a piece of shit. Dude is a junkie and deadbeat from what I know.
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MrDrMan posted...

The thing is I don't plan on going back and forth publicly like that. I don't mind it as much if it's just between us. If it's on Facebook where literally thousands of people will see then I don't want to flip flop. When/if I change that it will be for good.

All the social pressure facebook puts on you is part of the reason I deleted mine, lol

also that sucks about the kid's dad, there are too many deadbeat losers like that out there.
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You ever been like "bitch, why you not a hobbit again?"
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Sativa_Rose posted...

MrDrMan posted...

The thing is I don't plan on going back and forth publicly like that. I don't mind it as much if it's just between us. If it's on Facebook where literally thousands of people will see then I don't want to flip flop. When/if I change that it will be for good.

All the social pressure facebook puts on you is part of the reason I deleted mine, lol

also that sucks about the kid's dad, there are too many deadbeat losers like that out there.

I use Facebook to keep tabs on birthdays and some family I never talk to. My job uses Facebook to trade and swap shifts. We could just GroupMe or something but I don't wanna bother asking everyone to change.
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kewldude475 posted...

Seems like she really wants to work things out. I'd tell her in person you need your sleep and will have to turn off your phone if it's constantly ringing. But since she doesn't trust you I don't think the relationship is comfortable for either of you. Sad situation. Must be hard for her too since she has a kid.

She is and she always has. The doubts are mostly mine and I don't feel they'll go away. To be honest I just don't find myself being interested in her son/family. I hate to say it but I don't. I can't force that and that is something that kid needs in his life badly.

On the flip side that sucks. No matter what the reason if I dump her I'm an asshole because she's a woman and has a kid.

She knows all of my friends and coworkers I just feel like I can't win. Besides my few very close friends and family everyone will think I'm an asshole. Deservedly so though probably.
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Well...are you doing shit to give her cause to not trust you or get suspicious? If so, you better believe anything that seems even slightly suspicious will make you look bad in the eyes of any mutual friends you know aren't on your side already.
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sylverlolol posted...

Well...are you doing shit to give her cause to not trust you or get suspicious? If so, you better believe anything that seems even slightly suspicious will make you look bad in the eyes of any mutual friends you know aren't on your side already.

Depends what you mean. I haven't hooked up with anyone or anything like that. However I do have a couple female friends that occasionally Snapchat me. It honestly means nothing. Tried to tell her that but she doesn't listen. I even deleted all of the girls and they in turn called me whipped and I look like a bitch.

I won't lie before maybe I did which is why I said I fucked up. I legitimately now do not do anything like that at all. I might do the usual flirt at work but everyone does that.
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