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STEROLIZER posted...

That would be nice, but thats not how modern dating works.

Ghosting is just a part of it its actually the recommended (by mainstream magazines and their relationship therapists) technique to severing ties with someone you arent interested in.

So, thats just how dating works these days. There is no point complaining or fighting it. Just accept thats how it is, adapt, and move on.

That sounds more like you have incredibly low standards for yourself. To the forever alone or forever singles out there, I do think some need to lower their standards to find someone as often those standards are too high. But I don't recommend lowering it so far of accepting someone not even at least giving you a simple, "sorry, I was busy the last X days."

What you are describing is not just ghosting. What you suggested was going out on a date, you messaging said date, that date ignoring and ghosting you for days, to them randomly popping up after ignoring you for days as if they didnt ignore you. Then you accepting such low respect for you. This person couldn't apologize or even acknowledge they disappeared and ignored you for days, since they don't respect you enough to even care.

Only advice I can give you is to have more respect for yourself. It's one thing to ghost someone after the first date and never speak to them again. Rude, but the other person moved on. It's another for that person to ghost you for weeks or days, to randomly pop back up and don't even acknowledge they ghosted you. Shows that person isn't all that interested in you, until they got bored.

But, you do you. Not saying this to put you down or bash you. Just saying have more respect for yourself.