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Master_Kazuya posted...

Idk man, maybe if you see what it feels like, you'll accelerate that time since the sex hangup isn't in the way

I consider sex to be a natural part of dating, and relationships. Those are what I want, despite complaining about being a virgin. In my mind, they're all wrapped up as the same thing. It's just simpler to say I'm a virgin, because you get the whole picture in just a word.

Master_Kazuya posted...

It's like having your first beer or first vacation or something. There's novelty in it being your first but it's really just an experience that blends in with your life

I can't think of anything I've done multiple times where the first time was like legitimately the best time.

Sex is a complicated subject. It means different things for different people. For some people it's meaningless, for others it's an expression of love and means a lot. Some people cheat because they don't view it as anything but entertainment, but that also ends marriages and relationships. It's an emotional and powerful thing, and I simply want my first time to be with someone who wants to be with me. Not someone who just wants money and lets me use their body.

Master_Kazuya posted...

Not getting laid isn't helping your confidence, why not try it? You're literally jealous of a 50 year old that fucks hookers.

Because paying for it would give me another hangup in exchange for practically nothing. I could what, brag about paying for it? Knowing it was the only way I could manage at all? How would that help my confidence?

Master_Kazuya posted...

If you really just desires someone to want you, you would have no reason to be jealous of that guy.

Like I said, I think it was the way it was phrased. The part about him being laid 100x came before the part about the prostitutes. I initially thought he was talking about an incel that was infinitely more successful than I could ever hope to be. That hit me before I realized he was discussing prostitutes, but by that point it has already triggered my insecurities.

Master_Kazuya posted...

And most single people are also waiting for someone to truly desire them, regardless of how much sex they have/had. You waiting for sex while it bleeding through every interaction you have is not helping you.

Those people have options. If they can get a date, then they can also eventually have sex. If they can have sex, they can eventually find a relationship. Finding those things means they're desirable. It means people look at them and see someone they want to be with. Seeing others have all that, when I'm failing hurts.

Paying for sex would just hurt me more, and it would be something I could never take back. It would always be my first time. I'd be ashamed of myself, and afraid to ever mention it if asked about it. Between the two choices, yeah, I'd rather stay a virgin than pay for it.