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ughhhh

i wanna give gsis a sincere warning to please not put up with emotional abuse from a partner just for the sake of gluing together a family but I know that's obviously not a conversation anyone's gonna be receptive to

it's truthfully a sentiment I've wanted to touch on for a while with the behaviour I've been witnessing during my stay this year but yeah I know not to bother because not only it isn't something people wanna hear, but she also gets it a lot from our parents as it is who have absolutely no place to talk with their actions so I don't want to just pile on as the only family member that's actually there for her, plus when gmom & gdad do it she tells her partner which just sours all their relationships and isolates her further

but fuck, honestly speaking he has an incredibly short fuse and his outbursts are very frequent, unbelievably childish, not okay, and I know they are emotionally devastating on gsis who already puts up with so much

it's real frustrating, I understand that she strongly wishes to provide a happy family for her daughter, especially growing up from our broken family and all the trauma it dumped on me & my siblings. but I also know that that hope for a family fantasy can very easily be taken for granted, and that my sister in particularly has an incredibly high tolerance for abuse, tanking the most of it out of our very messed up family, and in a very long prior relationship.

Like I don't even mean to be demanding her to break off her family or anything like that, it's absolutely her life and if she thinks it's worth, believes she can make things work, I absolutely can't argue that. But I truly hope that she can just honestly reflect on her situation and acknowledge that there is a line that you can't force yourself past. She's complained to me before about some times he lashes out but in those talks she also rationalizes it with "that's what a relationship is, to be there for each other through the good times and the bad"

ughhhhhhhh

ranting into dillos because I know I can't voice my concerns elsewhere

really am hitting the full gfamily drama this page