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Raka_Putra posted...

Yo, happy pride!

I lately come into a realization that I might be bi or pan (previously I considered myself gay) so hey, let's see where it takes me.

Is it weird that I've never really questioned my sexuality before this point in my life? I have always just assumed I'm hetero, but that's only because I've only had an attraction to two dudes before. The initial attraction to both of the aforementioned dudes was due almost entirely to the fact that a) I was friends with both of them beforehand for some time before b) I realized they both had a romantic attraction to me first, and even then I was oblivious to the reality that anything beyond platonic friendliness was what either of them were going for until they made it pretty blatant.

There have been other people of both genders that had an attraction to me, but I didn't feel the same way about them because I didn't get to know them very well before they revealed their feelings to me. Looking back on it I wonder if that made me uncomfortable. I always just assumed it was because I was shy and sexually inexperienced, but what if I'm actually demisexual or elsewhere on the asexuality spectrum? I'm married to someone I love dearly now and who loves me back perhaps even moreso so I can't exactly go experimenting at this point in time, but I guess I'm in the same mindset as you.