deoxxys posted... It's not so much defeatist as it is realist.
Believe me I know the reality of using dating apps, I used them for a decade on and off. You can't just "Plus Ultra" your way through a dating app. I did stuff like weekly workouts, dieting, updating my wardrobe, accessorizing, improving my image by dying my hair/ getting it cut and watching videos on social/dating etiquette. I did everything to become a better bachelor.
I had a handful of success, but the amount I had to lower my standards to was astounding where I would still end up going out with girls who were 25-80lbs heavier than me, and even those were hard to come by, kind of like winning the lottery.
So then I see guys who are trying to vent about their difficulty using dating apps and then come the inevitable comments that always seem to blame them even if there isn't a lot of information presented.
If he's discouraged from using dating apps that's not all that bad he'll probably have better success at a bar or a social event.
But even if dating apps suck for men, you're right self-improvement should always be strove for no matter what the walk of life is.
Ill readily admit that my own experience of them is very limited. But surely you can understand why I find hard to believe that theyre as inhospitable as you claim? Its not like I got lucky and had one desirable girl agree to a date. I was literally turning them away, and Im not ripped these days or anything like that and in terms of my face I would say Im about average looking.