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NoxObscuras posted...

Yeah I don't think I could go through with consensual choking either. But I thought choking was closer to bdsm than rape fantasy.

My take on 'rape fantasy' is that it's the world's biggest misnomer, not to mention an inherent oxymoron. It ultimately boils down to the fact that plenty of women do have deep-seated erotic fantasies of being overpowered and dominated, as long as it plays out according to their own whims; most of these fantasies would be at home in a cheesy romance novel or film noir, where the subject is, for instance, captured, knocked out with a rag, tied helpless to a chair, and quickly ends up falling for her dashing bad-boy captor.

So the actual massive-air-quotes 'rape fantasy' that most people have is just bdsm with a hefty dose of roleplaying. Sadly the term isn't doing the concept any favors, and naturally leads to wild (and completely understandable) misinterpretation.