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red13n posted...

I have plenty of 3, having stuff to do to kill time isn't a problem. But 1 has dwindled and 2 has become almost nonexistent.

yeah, so you're mostly looking for solid individual friendships and are feeling antsy going through your old routines because of it. it's your body's natural way of reminding you to change how you socialize

that's pretty normal- i think we've all been there. i know married couples who feel that way and blame each other for it. in my opinion it's just part of the human condition- just like getting tired, hungry or thirsty

i recommend re-evaluating how you perceive your coworkers and various real-life acquaintances. they might be better friend material than you initially thought. see if you can waste some time with them without real objectives or neediness. do whatever they seem to like, assuming there's any venn diagram overlap whatsoever. i started fostering more friendships when i slowed down and listened more

our brains get tickled by new experiences. i do recommend trying to just waste some time with people and doing some new things outside the house, even if they seem like a waste of time or money

observe what puts you into your patterns. do you find yourself getting bored or anxious hanging out with people, like you want to go home and do something else? what is that thing, and is it actually important? armed with that thought, it makes "wasting" time with people not feel so wasteful

online is all right. i buoyed my psyche in 2021 with a discord group (friends of a friend) and that was only ok. i didn't think i was missing anything, but i didn't start feeling better until i reached out to a real life acquaintance. they liked attending dj performances, and even though i normally preferred listening to music by myself at home i decided to start going with them. it opened up my social life and i mysteriously started feeling better, realizing what other actions could make me feel better, and so on

i've heard our personalities are molded a combination of the top 10 people we spend time with- try and find some that are both kind and interesting