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DocDelicious posted...

While I did read the whole thing, and can understand why you're upset, I just wanted to say that I personally expect that sort of behavior when someone enters a relationship. Time that was spent on friendships is now spent on the relationship, and opposite sex friendships have to fall by the wayside.

And honestly, for me, your reaction to her dropping you for her boyfriend just confirms that you had feelings for her above and beyond the friendship. The only acceptable reaction is being happy they've found someone they want to be with. If they're not right for eachother you're free to voice your opinion, but that's where your responsibility/entitlement ends, just like with my roommate.

Feelings for her above and beyond friendship.. I mean, I guess? Like what is above and beyond friendship that isnt family or romance? We werent family and there was no romance. We each were the person that the other would come to for comfort, advice, humor, or just basic company. I know it went both ways. The things we had experienced together, or helped eachother through, were things that I thought bonded people together forever.

I am always thrilled when people are happy. I believe in doing whatever you want that makes you happy. And if dropping your friends is what makes you happy, then by all means you do you. That doesnt negate the feelings of the people that have been dropped though.

when their relationship started, I was thrilled! I thought he was great for her, and I fully supported everything.

and it all flipped so quickly. Communication went from daily to every three days, to no talking for a week. And I was fine with that, focus on what makes you happy. Im there if you need me.

but when I needed her, as I had been there for her every time when she needed me, I was met with I cant help you and we cant be friends anymore. I expressed how much I needed her to help me get through what I was going through, just mentally be there for me, and she wasnt willing to offer that because of this brand new relationship. What I had been going through had lasted longer than she even knew the guy, and it was at the very peak of pain for me, and when I reached out for help it was rebuffed so.. coldly. So matter of fact. So unemotional. After all the emotions we had been through together.

I wasnt trying to fuck his girl, I just wanted my friend.

and two months later when their relationship ends, I could have forgiven and forgotten I guess, but I could tell it was too late. It felt worse than a partner cheating on me. It felt like.. I meant nothing unless I was useful.