That really shouldn't work. I'm glad it did, but you are clearly the exception.
My whole Tinder example was kind of my way of demonstrating the vast difference between men & women when it comes to relationship advice. Because men would just love girls to come up to them and ask them for sex....in theory. In reality if that were to happen it would be kind of weird.
It's the same with women. They say they want a man who isn't afraid to cry, and is in tune with his emmotions. Then when it happens it's like...ugh this is really weird... friendzone you go.
We both think we know how'd we'd like the opposite sex to react, yet desirable females still act the way they do, and desirable men still act the way they do...and they still getting dates.
You know. Like all men complain about needy, insecure, high maintenance women - yet this is still what we choose to date. This is attractive somehow. In contrast, all women complain about selfish, insincere, asshole men - yet this is still what women choose to date. This is attractive somehow.
For the most part get your advice from someone of your own sex who has been in your same situation, dealth with the same hurdles, and conquered them.
I don't like needy, insecure people, nor people who are emotionless and apathetic ...
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In the end, we all end up alone. And no one is coming to save you.