LogFAQs > #952543751

I feel like a lot of you are purposely misinterpreting OhJa. Sure, his views on things are generally very questionable, if not outright fucked up (and that period meme was dumb), but in the case of having boundaries in a relationship... That's normal and healthy. As we've said, boundaries are different for each person.

I think in general we can all agree that a controlling partner is not healthy, but you also have to accept that some people DO want these power dynamics and roles in their relationships. I know this woman, who I would personally label as a crazy technofascist but that's mostly aside the point, who is really into the concept of Taken in Hand. If you don't know what that is, it's where one WANTS to be controlled by their partner. If that boundary is consensual and desired by both partners, then wherein lies the problem? I'm not saying that these relationships are the norm, and they fall far outside the bell curve of "normal" relationships, but they exist.

Maybe a completely boundless relationship works for a lot of people, but establishing and respecting boundaries and expectations is very commonplace and not an unhealthy practice.