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Looking at your OP I think the big difference between us is that being put in a sexual position (quite literally or otherwise) never gave me anxiety at all. That's despite the fact I was extremely anti social. The important part was I only needed to give myself one real chance for things to happen. It's the going out part that gave me anxiety. It was a huge roadblock not the actual sex part.

I was at a big disadvantage in terms of not liking drink though, which is a huge thing here. Caribbean people drink a lot. Talking pre covid but all our parties etc are built on alcohol. So it was a double turn off having to be around people and then being expected to drink on top of it. And I only like men so that's a big deal when you live in a pretty homophobic country/region and it's a small place too. So the pool of potential sex partners is very small compared to straight men and women. I got around that later by looking outside to international guys coming here.

Anyways I finally did it by not thinking too much. I was on apps for like 2 years and got a lot of offers, but I could never bring myself to go meet anyone! One day some guy messaged that lived pretty close so without thinking I agreed to meet and rushed over by him. It was like I was watching someone else do it. I didn't waste time talking before we had sex either and we got to the action. This strategy obviously won't work for everyone but if you get anxiety, giving yourself too much time to focus is a bad idea. After that first time things got better.

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