From what I've seen the right is in a position where most of them have suffered immensely while the political elites and coastal democrats have mocked and belittled them. In other words, for a lot of them they're struggling with the fact that their jobs are vanishing, income is disappearing, and everything else while wealthy coastal democrats tell them to 'learn to code' from their vacation houses or lockdown everything before attending lavish parties and salons to get their hair done. There is effectively no way to get them to calm down so long as this sort of thing is ongoing.
Meanwhile, the left sees the world as descending into a bout of fascism and racism with discrimination and oppression effectively everywhere. To them the right has become a bunch of fanatical nazi's willing to oppress and destroy the minority groups for their own betterment. In other words they are the heroes and their opponents are evil incarnate.
The problem is that this means that there's effectively no way to de-escalate. The right won't be happy until they see the people who keep kicking them about and treating them like garbage are punished and depowered while the left won't be happy until the right is destroyed because they seem them as inherently evil. Take a look at this poll. As of this posting ~40% of people think 'Trumps head on a stick' will de-escalate things. This simply isn't the case. Something like that would only convince the right that they have no choice BUT to fight back because, otherwise, certain death (or depowerment) awaits. Meanwhile only ~9% see Biden's head on a stick as something that would de-escalate and I'm 100% willing to wager it's because most of the right doesn't believe Biden is the problem; it's the system that got him elected in the first place. I.E. that a bunch of political elites and coastal city dems voted for someone they see as unfit simply to get Trump out, are going to use their power to further crush the right, and there's nothing that can be done about it because it's the system that's corrupt.
The sad truth is that there really is no evident path to unification at this point. Maybe something will present itself; but it needs to happen soon or else things will get much worse.
Look at this guy talking about unity while seemingly placing all blame on the left. Are people on the left not also suffering, losing jobs, and being ridiculed and mocked? Does the right not see the world as descending into a bout of socialism and communism? Is the right willing to hear the left out on issues such as institutional racism, police brutality, trans rights, etc? You see, blame goes both ways.
I for one believe that getting rid of one of the most divisive presidents in US history would be a good start for unity. We need to look at why people are protesting and rioting and address those issues instead of exchanging middle fingers, but that is utterly impossible with a president like Trump who only cares about himself and the base he has cultivated. This guy who spent the last four years constantly demonizing the left.
I do think people are a little too quick to slap others with the label of "racist", so I'll give you that.
I just think we need public schools to start placing WAY more emphasis on teaching how to think critically and value objective truth. In my experience only right-wing extremists oppose this and would prefer to teach the Bible instead. They literally view the idea of teaching critical thinking as brainwashing. That is the kind of unreasonable, ass-backwards opinion that I will always be vocal against. It just so happens that this kind of stupid opinion permeates the right.