Are you like... a more pathetic strahax alt?
Seriously. Talk to her. Find any excuse that you can to do so. If she is committed to someone else, you will know within just a few minutes. If she is legitimately sending you signs, then go for it.
I know it should be that easy, but it probably isn't. But that's still probably the best advice you'll get. We can't help you in this situation because we're not in it. You are. Do something about it.
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~Halo You're not the brightest.
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