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Kombucha posted...

I think people have this idea where the grass is so green in that scenario but from what I've gathered people in that situation often talk about how they wish they would have waited a little longer but at the exact same time there's people who are content with it. Why are these people different? In my mind neither situation is ideal but instead the mindset of the person is either favorable or not. In short, if it's always much greener somewhere else you're always going to hate yourself for whatever situation you're in or journey you're on in life.

And really is it greener? I've had both men and women pour their misery out to me in that exact situation, showing some level of envy for the amount of agency I have being single, childless and moving easily. At the same time I've had moments where I wonder what life would have brought me if I'd taken that route and encountered people perfectly happy with having married and had children in their 20s. Are my goals worth adjusting my priorities away from that path? I've decided my priorities and they come with compromises, as do all priorities. Just set your priority and make it happen with a path. People fall in love with real fervor at any age, write that path down and begin the journey to make it real if it's what you want.

I'm nearing 40, have never had a date or anything close to a relationship. At this point it's less about the grass being greener, and more about me being such a loser that no one would ever want me.

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