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Far-Queue posted...

Because wakes and funerals are for the grieving, not the deceased. It's a time to bid farewell to the departed, but moreso it's a showing of support and a sharing of grief. Commiserating with those you love who may be in pain.

Yes, you can say goodbye or say a prayer for the one you've lost, but clearly you don't care to and that's fine. But I assume the aunt you speak of will be there, and while there may be plenty of other family there for her to lean on, you can never tell how much it will mean to someone that you show up and do something as simple as hold their hand in silence.

If you want to harbor a grudge towards your cousin for wasting his life, go for it. You do you. But instead of focusing on "Why should we be making a big deal of of this guy's funeral?", try instead just thinking about the people you actually give a shit about and how you can help them. Might make a bitter pill a little easier to swallow if you just change your perspective a bit and approach it from a point of helping your loved ones instead of seeing your cousin off, you know?

i donno man. thats all fair enough, but at a certain point should i not be able to consider my own wants and needs? i dont want to go view the dead body of and pretend to pay respects to a person i absolutely did not respect. i do not like the idea of letting this fucker continue to inconvenience me in death. i do not like the idea of lying to my family, and pretending as if this actually hurts me when it really REALLY does not.

im just pissing and moaning, and i will probably end up going, but fuck me do i ever not want to.

i do appreciate you trying to talk me down and not being a total dick about it though, so thanks for that homie.

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