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foolm0r0n posted...

Another thing that is interesting about that is that by the time you have your first meeting, your first date, there's already so much weight put on it due to the effort you have invested before that point. Sure it's just a few messages online etc, but it's compounded.

For example, let's say you spend 2 weeks swiping and messaging and each failed at various points. Then you finally get a decent situation and go on a first date. It's not just the 10 messages back and forth that are weighing on that date, it's the whole 2 weeks you spent failing too. This is due to the depersonalized/mechanical/online design of the apps. I'm thinking of someone I matched with who I hung out with WAY more than I should've, just because it felt like a waste if I didn't, since I spent all that time and effort. I was soooo tired of her so quickly, and it wasn't her fault at all.

My personal rule is that you have 7 days from the time you matched to meet in person. If you havent met them in 7 days, its not going to work out. Its simply unsustainable to talk for longer than that and not meet them in person.