LogFAQs > #924558178

Another thing that is interesting about that is that by the time you have your first meeting, your first date, there's already so much weight put on it due to the effort you have invested before that point. Sure it's just a few messages online etc, but it's compounded.

For example, let's say you spend 2 weeks swiping and messaging and each failed at various points. Then you finally get a decent situation and go on a first date. It's not just the 10 messages back and forth that are weighing on that date, it's the whole 2 weeks you spent failing too. This is due to the depersonalized/mechanical/online design of the apps. I'm thinking of someone I matched with who I hung out with WAY more than I should've, just because it felt like a waste if I didn't, since I spent all that time and effort. I was soooo tired of her so quickly, and it wasn't her fault at all.

So what could've been just a light drink or two at a bar with a possibly interesting person, turns into a culmination of 2 weeks of intense "online shopping", and the expectations are all wrecked. The #1 advice for dating is to make the first date comfortable and light, and the apps prevent that.

Now if you're at a bar and meet someone randomly and just have a drink right there, there's literally no expectation. You can leave after 5 minutes or 3 hours depending on how you feel. It's way more natural because it's always about connecting with people, not evaluating/comparing them.

That said, this is only if you were going to the bar/club already and just happen to randomly meet people (which is what introverts should do FYI). If you go there to "hunt" then it quickly becomes like tinder, but offline. Like a job or something. But if that's the only way you know how to go out anyways... I guess the apps are a solid upgrade.
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