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Topic	Can people truly "choose" to NOT be offended by something?
SKARDAVNELNATE 11/09/18 5:09:11 PM #24:	GreenKnight127 posted... They say offense is taken, not given. Oh wait. Or is it the other way around? The phrase is to 'take offense at' something. The inverse scenario would be if someone intends for other people to 'take offense at', but they just brush it off. The offender really has no control over what someone else will or will not find offensive. GreenKnight127 posted... Are they allowing themselves be offended? Or don't they have a choice? Or are they not actually "offended" at all, and just see a window of opportunity to complain about something in a futile attempt to bring awareness to it so maybe it gets fixed? As a child, after standing up to a bully I was told I had a choice in how I responded. The adult then went on to explain that defending myself wasn't one of the choices I was allowed to make. One is not harmed if they 'take offense at' something. But often they do harm to the offender in response. I think what was poorly conveyed to me as a child was to be careful not to escalate the amount of harm done. GreenKnight127 posted... Some people would say YOU are 100% responsible for your emotional reaction to something. Others would say the person who wronged you is responsible for your emotional state because their actions are what put you there. Society of late seems to have an issue with taking personal responsibility. --- No locked doors, no windows barred. No more things to make my brain seem SKARD. Look at Mr. Technical over here >.> -BTB <cite>SKARDAVNELNATE posted [p:912122989] in Can people... [t:77185317]...</cite> <quote><cite>GreenKnight127 posted...</cite> <quote>They say offense is taken, not given. Oh wait. Or is it the other way around?</quote> The phrase is to 'take offense at' something. The inverse scenario would be if someone intends for other people to 'take offense at', but they just brush it off. The offender really has no control over what someone else will or will not find offensive. <cite>GreenKnight127 posted...</cite> <quote>Are they allowing themselves be offended? Or don't they have a choice? Or are they not actually "offended" at all, and just see a window of opportunity to complain about something in a futile attempt to bring awareness to it so maybe it gets fixed?</quote> As a child, after standing up to a bully I was told I had a choice in how I responded. The adult then went on to explain that defending myself wasn't one of the choices I was allowed to make. One is not harmed if they 'take offense at' something. But often they do harm to the offender in response. I think what was poorly conveyed to me as a child was to be careful not to escalate the amount of harm done. <cite>GreenKnight127 posted...</cite> <quote>Some people would say YOU are 100% responsible for your emotional reaction to something. Others would say the person who wronged you is responsible for your emotional state because their actions are what put you there.</quote> Society of late seems to have an issue with taking personal responsibility. --- No locked doors, no windows barred. No more things to make my brain seem SKARD. Look at Mr. Technical over here >.> -BTB</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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