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CaptainOfCrush posted...

Everyone always says "give her time," but is it so unreasonable to think many women in her situation would be craving new male attention after a separation?

A newly divorced man immediately tries to hit the dating scene and connect on social media with women his wife would have never put up with. No one thinks anything of it. But vulnerable women are to be protected from the gaze of men - much better for them to spend their time in isolation feeling even more miserable, makes perfect sense.

I don't buy it. Rock, take her on a couple of really fun dates and see how things go. I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

Your approach, while well intentioned, is wrongly placed here I think

Not that there isn't a chance that she is up for that, Rock can feel that out on his own with social cues I think, but saying it under the guise of "craving male attention" and a sort of bastardized quasi-feminist angle is a bit ehhhhh.

Also I don't think anyone here would really be 100% ok with a divorced man going for a rebound right away either. There's a reason it's called a rebound and has a negative connotation, regardless of gender.

In the end, it really depends on how she feels. In general it's better to take time after something like a divorce, but that's of course not a 100% thing. But usually.....yea it's not great to be planning your move right in the mid of a divorce.
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