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So i'd wanna know what their friendship was like before this. Without implying anything one way or the other...
Can you think of any reason at all as to why she would go as far as wanting him to be labelled a rapist, ruining the friendship, damaging the group, potentially ruining his life? That's pretty severe.
From your perspective, was there any sense of interest between them? I mean, she invited him over on his own. She obviously must like him at least to the degree that she felt comfortable enough to be alone with her.
Why did she wait 2 full days to bring this up?
Is he somebody she might feel embarrassed to have slept with?
Is she just the type to cause drama all the time? Does she over react a lot?
When she says "forced" what exactly does that mean. Those details are of key importance. I mean, for all we know he tried to make a move and wasn't interested. Like, did he just grab her and try to kiss her and got it all wrong? If it was just something like that I would think that would be forgivable between friends, but then again sometimes people obsess over things that make them feel uncomfortable until they arrive at a story that makes them feel better about it somehow...
How does your friend usually handle his alcohol?
What's he like with girls in general? Any idea what they thought about him before?
How would you describe him personality wise?

I feel like there's a lot missing out from the story, but i guess that wasn't your initial reason for posting,,,
I'd say that you gotta stand by him as your longtime friend and stand up for yourself in this situation. You should call these other friends out for being so called "friends" if they are just going to label you and try and ruin your life when you had nothing to do with it. That's manipulative as fuck. Those are not friends - but i suppose in the emotional storm of things they probably aren't thinking straight either.
How come you get to be the "rape supporter" but they don't have to take on the "false rape accusers" then? Also despicable (sorry, i know they're your friends, but this stuff frustrates me to hear) is the fact they are trying to get your girlfriend to break up with you over this. Unbelievable. I hope you have both talked it out and have some solid ground to stand on together.
Anyway, to some degree, the only thing that can fix things is a little bit of time. When people's emotions have simmered a bit, things will be alright. If you say what you know and truly believe is right about your position and point out the undeniably childish behaviour (in a nicer way than i am) then they'll come around eventually... i feel your pain, but always stay true to what you believe in and just have patience.
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