Psycho_Kenshin posted...
That advice is... interesting, I dunno if being feared is the best advice in all situations. Also your example is just that you would drink, ha did this make people fear you? I'm lost in this advice I gotta admit.
nah they didn't fear me because I drank. They feared me because they assumed they could control all employees through fear tactics and negative reinforcement. I did not respond to fear tactics. While the negative reinforcement got other employees to be submissive and non-confrontational, I would be unpredictable. Maybe I'd just argue and get defensive. Maybe I'd say something highly disturbing. Maybe I'd start punching things. Maybe I'd be silent for hours. They wanted to control people. They learned that I would be controlled by me and me alone. One time a manager started yelling at me and 2 other employees at a time when we were beyond excessively busy (on a scale of 0-10, with 0 being slow, 5 being "non-stop, barely able to keep up" and 10 being so busy that even with everyone working non-stop we could not keep up and even if we had twice the employees on shift, things would not be better because there would not be enough phones to handle the number of calls, enough space for the food to be made or enough ovens to cook it all (it was a pizza place), that night was a 7). She yelled and said we were too far behind. I said something to the effect of "It's that busy, what do you expect?" She had a habit of holding people to ridiculous standards (she had once said that I should be able to work 70-80 hours a week just because I'm in my 20s as opposed to older. I told her I'd be able to do that but would be binge drinking so much that I would die within a month). She yelled that she didn't care how busy it was... I don't remember the second part of the sentence because I immediately stormed out back, punched the door open with both fists and slammed it behind me hard enough to shake the whole building. I broke a few planks on a fence behind the place and when I went back in she basically kicked me out and said I had to go home (there was an hour left) because I was too pissed off to keep working. I had no objections and walked right back out. Drank more on the 2 mile walk home, had the next day off. Showed up for my next shift with her and acted as if nothing happened. Literally did not say a word about the incident (most co-workers thought I had quit), didn't act hostile toward her, joked around like I always did and gave no indications that I even remembered the incident. She too acted like nothing happened. We never ended up discussing it and continued to work together like nothing had happened.
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I never said anything about banging her. Also, I wouldn't bang her. -LusterSoldier (on a fat pageant mom whose daughter chugs Mt. Dew)