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When did I say late bloomers can never learn? I literally said several times I know it is possible. And sorry I did paraphrase. I didn't feel like typing out everything. But saying just go on tinder, talk to girls, and then get laid really boils down to just get laid. It is completely obvious the normal steps people take to getting laid, so I assumed no one was dumb enough to not understand that.

Just telling someone having trouble with something to just practice isn't even slightly helpful. Literally everyone knows that already. It is in fact like telling a depressed person to stop being sad. Depressed people already know the steps they SHOULD take to change their situation. People with eating disorders already know what they SHOULD do to fix it. Knowing what the solution is doesn't make it less hard to enact it.

People dealing with these problems for long periods of time already have thought about it so long it is painful. Just re stating the very first idea anyone has when they think about the problem is extremely tedious and patronizing. I know I need to work on socializing more. Every second of every day I know about it, and am constantly thinking about it. So when some random person comes and just acts like they are giving some special gift with the revelation that the way to deal with a problem is to work on, it feels very bad. I know. I understand. I try. I have been dealing with my problems for a long time and I try to get better with them. But it is still hard. It is still painful.

If you want to help with a problem you don't have, sympathy is the best way to do it. If you don't deal with depression yourself, telling a depressed person what to do really sounds like a well off person telling poor people to just stop buying Starbucks if you want to have more money.