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Topic	12 Signs You're Dating a Man Child
LinkPizza 11/21/21 5:35:53 PM #149:	Punished_Blinx posted... lol again you're not talking about things anyone is saying. A man excessively playing video games isn't one first bad sign or little flaw. It's constant behavior that strains the relationship. That's if it is straining the relationship at all in the first place... The article says, "he uses them to zone out for many hours at a time. They are also used to avoid intimacy emotionally and sexually." But that's not always the case. I play many hours at a time because I bored with nothing to do, and the video games are fun. But it doesn't stop my intimacy with my BF. One time, I was playing and he came up behind me and started kissing. And when I went to move my switch, he pulled it back and told me to keep playing... It just depends... Punished_Blinx posted... Now I know you're going to focus again on maybe it's not excessive. Maybe it's not. If he's playing 1 hour a day or 8 hours a day and neither of them will compromise what makes you think this is a relationship worth sticking around in? Either the guy barely gets to do anything and he's still being nagged at or he's prioritizing video games over his partner. Either they talk about it and figure it out or it's not going to work. This is minor stuff to figure out long term. If they can't find common ground on something like video games how is it gonna be when they start talking about mortgages or raise a child? And the reason I focus on whether it's excessive or not is because that is a main problem. This article isn't just for the person who wrote in, but everyone. And many of those people probably won't know what excessive means. That will say a couple hours is excessive, when it's may not be for their SO... Compromising is a way of finding a solution. So, if they actually tried that and it doesn't work, then leave. But at least they tried in that scenario. Which is what I said earlier. At least try to find a solution... That said, playing a lot doesn't mean that he's prioritizing games over her. It just means he's playing a lot. I play a ton, but don't prioritize games over my BF. I have played games nearly all day before without it being a problem... And stuff like mortgages and child-rearing is a whole different ballpark, anyway. Even if they agree on most things, they may totally disagree with how to raise a child. Or they may disagree on most thing, but agree on how to raise a child... That, of course, depends on the parents... Punished_Blinx posted... A relationship isn't a problem to solve. It's two people gradually combining their lives together. Compromises need to be made and both sides need to accommodate. If this doesn't happen it's not a good relationship. The signs in this article show a man who wants someone to take care of him and doesn't want any responsibility so he's a bad partner to have. If the woman who wrote the letter finds that her partner fits most of the signs chances are she's not in for a good time. I don't need to speculate on what their relationship is actually like or make excuses for him. That's up to her to figure out. A relationship isn't a problem to solve, but will usually have some problems to solve. Living together is not something that's easily done by most people. You're changing you whole life around... And I agree that compromises need to be made. But that is a form of problem solving, which I said was needed earlier... And again, just because he fits the signs doesn't mean he's not a goof fit for her. It depends on more than they fit those signs. Why they fit those signs are important. Like the stuff I described in my first post in this topic... Punished_Blinx posted... Sometimes people just aren't compatible regardless anyway. A lot of relationships aren't worth saving or 'solving' Sometimes people aren't compatible. But trying to make it work or trying to find solutions is better than running at the first sign of trouble... --- Official King of Kings Switch FC: 7216-4417-4511 Add Me because I'll probably add you. I'm probably the LinkPizza you'll see around. <cite>LinkPizza posted [p:960217990] in 12 Signs Y... [t:79771060]...</cite> <quote>Punished_Blinx posted...</cite> <quote>lol again you're not talking about things anyone is saying. A man excessively playing video games isn't one first bad sign or little flaw. It's constant behavior that strains the relationship. </quote> That's if it is straining the relationship at all in the first place... The article says, "he uses them to zone out for many hours at a time. They are also used to avoid intimacy emotionally and sexually." But that's not always the case. I play many hours at a time because I bored with nothing to do, and the video games are fun. But it doesn't stop my intimacy with my BF. One time, I was playing and he came up behind me and started kissing. And when I went to move my switch, he pulled it back and told me to keep playing... It just depends... Punished_Blinx posted...</cite> <quote>Now I know you're going to focus again on maybe it's not excessive. Maybe it's not. If he's playing 1 hour a day or 8 hours a day and neither of them will compromise what makes you think this is a relationship worth sticking around in? Either the guy barely gets to do anything and he's still being nagged at or he's prioritizing video games over his partner. Either they talk about it and figure it out or it's not going to work. This is minor stuff to figure out long term. If they can't find common ground on something like video games how is it gonna be when they start talking about mortgages or raise a child?</quote> And the reason I focus on whether it's excessive or not is because that is a main problem. This article isn't just for the person who wrote in, but everyone. And many of those people probably won't know what excessive means. That will say a couple hours is excessive, when it's may not be for their SO... Compromising is a way of finding a solution. So, if they actually tried that and it doesn't work, then leave. But at least they tried in that scenario. Which is what I said earlier. At least try to find a solution... That said, playing a lot doesn't mean that he's prioritizing games over her. It just means he's playing a lot. I play a ton, but don't prioritize games over my BF. I have played games nearly all day before without it being a problem... And stuff like mortgages and child-rearing is a whole different ballpark, anyway. Even if they agree on most things, they may totally disagree with how to raise a child. Or they may disagree on most thing, but agree on how to raise a child... That, of course, depends on the parents... Punished_Blinx posted...</cite> <quote>A relationship isn't a problem to solve. It's two people gradually combining their lives together. Compromises need to be made and both sides need to accommodate. If this doesn't happen it's not a good relationship. The signs in this article show a man who wants someone to take care of him and doesn't want any responsibility so he's a bad partner to have. If the woman who wrote the letter finds that her partner fits most of the signs chances are she's not in for a good time. I don't need to speculate on what their relationship is actually like or make excuses for him. That's up to her to figure out.</quote> A relationship isn't a problem to solve, but will usually have some problems to solve. Living together is not something that's easily done by most people. You're changing you whole life around... And I agree that compromises need to be made. But that is a form of problem solving, which I said was needed earlier... And again, just because he fits the signs doesn't mean he's not a goof fit for her. It depends on more than they fit those signs. Why they fit those signs are important. Like the stuff I described in my first post in this topic... Punished_Blinx posted...</cite> <quote>Sometimes people just aren't compatible regardless anyway. A lot of relationships aren't worth saving or 'solving'</quote> Sometimes people aren't compatible. But trying to make it work or trying to find solutions is better than running at the first sign of trouble... --- Official King of Kings Switch FC: 7216-4417-4511 Add Me because I'll probably add you. I'm probably the LinkPizza you'll see around.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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