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Nemu posted...

Same thing. Im just saying there is a difference between saying all rejection (for lack of a better word) of trans people is inherently transphobic and the idea of analyzing a specific rejection and putting forth the argument that the specific instance in question involves transphobia.

Ah okay sorry. Was a little confused there.

The thing I take issue with, myself, is if we were to present two women that looked exactly the same except one was post-op trans, I come across people in these topics who will tell me "I won't date the trans woman" and "I'm not attracted to trans women" and what that says to me is the mere knowledge of them being trans is itself a dealbreaker and that comes across as prejudiced to me.

I mean, the only plausible difference between these two hypothetical women at that point is "fertility", and even then it comes across weak if they then admit that they won't, y'know, ask every woman how fertile they are if that's such a dealbreaker.

And then there's the fact that they're so comfortable sharing with the rest of us. Like, would you feel comfortable saying "I don't date black women" to the rest of CE? Maybe some people would, but I feel being exclusory this openly just doesn't sit right with me. Like sure, everyone has things they like and don't like, but usually the "don't like" falls under negative personality traits and not something that the person in question doesn't have control over.

And questioning some of these people further sometimes leads to "Oh I can tell if they're trans" and "if they don't tell me they're trans, it's rape" and a whole host of red flags pop up and it doesn't happen every time, but often to people who get overly defensive on the subject.

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