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i think i was fortunate to grow early, grow tall and have a certain type of personality- nobody was bullied in my vicinity

there was one kid that kept eating his boogers who we taunted relentlessly to try to make him stop. he would not stop. i felt bad, but to this day i'm still not sure what the appropriate reaction would have been!

i remember the first time i was bullied, and it was such a weird experience. we were way too old for it- we were on JV baseball together. he called me stupid names, but i guess i didn't react in the way he wanted so he got bored

i think people bully each other when they're trying to iron out (from their perspective) aberrant behavior. if you're with it but don't want to change, you can sometimes turn it into a friendly back-and-forth set of zingers or get them to back off with a good enough display. show awareness of *their* faults without going directly for the jugular- make sure they know you have more left in the tank and that an armistice would be in order

but who knows, every bully's a little different. it sucks to feel out of control of that sort of situation

i had a rough semester in college where i was just kind of depressed and zonked out all the time. some of my friends were unhelpfully trying to snap me out of it by pointing out whenever i was doing something dumb. the rough part was that my brain was so foggy that i never had a proper response- it just felt like terrible bullying. don't talk to them much anymore

when starting my professional life, i think the salespeople wanted me to be one of the guys (surprise, i'm not! i'm a nerdy coder man that likes hanging out with the coders. they also might've been right- there was one woman i was foolishly following around at the time) and did a lot of bully-adjacent bro-talk. i forget how i broke that pattern. they weren't bad guys at all, so once i made it clear i didn't enjoy it they stopped. i'm not proud to admit it probably involved throwing some homophobic allusions at them in public (why are you so interested in what i'm up to, buddy?) while having more serious conversations about it in private


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You did indeed stab me in the back. However, you are only level one, whilst I am level 50. That means I should remain uninjured.