youre talking about a homogenized middle class school that has access to resources and afterschool activities and a child that comes from a nuclear family
that shit doesnt exist in big cities - you have poverty and parents that dont have access or can grant access to these resources - what youre doing is being blinded by your narrow viewpoint of the world bro, schooling is least of the concern to a child thats acting up because they havent had a decent meal in days and has to worry if hes going to get mugged or killed on the way home - THESE KIDS ARE SET UP TO FAIL
Giving kids free passes for their bad behavior just because their life is hard is not helping them. I hope you're not actually in charge of them in any capacity.