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Topic	I'm kind of torn on what to do with my daughter on this issue
Llarian 03/30/21 2:58:15 PM #21:	NeatoAnAccount posted... This is a teaching moment. She's 3 and a half so she can't really empathize with you here. She's never had anyone break her stuff and she's never had to buy anything for herself. "You may play with the dolls when you learn how to play gently with them." This teaches her that she doesn't always get what she wants, and it also incentivizes her to treat others' property with respect. You're not being a jerk, you're protecting your property. You wouldn't be asking us if these things were 100x more expensive. But 3-year-olds can't understand "these things are $50" OR "these things are $5000," so you shouldn't really treat them differently. The important thing is that it's not hers, so she must play nicely with it. If she has plenty of things to play with (and it sounds like she does) you aren't depriving her of anything. This this this. Also picking consequences that are easy for you to stick to but will still have an impact on your daughter is crucial. I knew that if I was not treating a toy or book nicely, it got whisked away to the top of the fridge where to my young mind, it might as well be in Siberia. Brief frustration or annoyance, but since my parents were They Who Cannot Be Moved, I quickly learned that the best course of action was treat things nicely and gently. --- Whenever you are about to find fault with someone, ask yourself...: What fault of mine most nearly resembles the one I am about to criticize? -Marcus Aurelius <cite>Llarian posted [p:952285109] in I'm kind o... [t:79374326]...</cite> <quote>NeatoAnAccount posted... </cite> <quote>This is a teaching moment. She's 3 and a half so she can't really empathize with you here. She's never had anyone break her stuff and she's never had to buy anything for herself. "You may play with the dolls when you learn how to play gently with them." This teaches her that she doesn't always get what she wants, and it also incentivizes her to treat others' property with respect. You're not being a jerk, you're protecting your property. You wouldn't be asking us if these things were 100x more expensive. But 3-year-olds can't understand "these things are $50" OR "these things are $5000," so you shouldn't really treat them differently. The important thing is that it's not hers, so she must play nicely with it. If she has plenty of things to play with (and it sounds like she does) you aren't depriving her of anything.</quote>This this this. Also picking consequences that are easy for you to stick to but will still have an impact on your daughter is crucial. I knew that if I was not treating a toy or book nicely, it got whisked away to the top of the fridge where to my young mind, it might as well be in Siberia. Brief frustration or annoyance, but since my parents were They Who Cannot Be Moved, I quickly learned that the best course of action was treat things nicely and gently. --- Whenever you are about to find fault with someone, ask yourself...: What fault of mine most nearly resembles the one I am about to criticize? -Marcus Aurelius</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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