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Topic	I was hit as a child and didn't turn out fine
IronChef_Kirby 02/27/21 12:26:01 PM #48:	cuttin_in_farm posted... What happens when they dont listen? When they realize the most youre gonna do is put then in timeout or take something away? Or when they realize youre too scared to do something in public? What do you do then? Punishments only train children in what not to do. Strict parents only raise better liars; a child who is driven by punishments will only behave so long as they are in situations where they are likely to be caught. A well-behaved child needs training in what the desired behaviors are, and incentives to demonstrate those behaviors. The key to promoting desired behaviors in children is to give them something to work toward, rather than something to run from. Instead of playing whack-a-mole with misbehaviors, a successful behavioral intervention ascertains the function of the undesired behavior, and incentivizes the child to demonstrate a functionally equivalent replacement behavior. Consequences have their place, but they alone will not drive a child to behave properly, especially if the consequences are corporal punishment, as research has repeatedly shown corporal punishment to be associated with poorer socioemotional and behavioral outcomes. --- "Spaghetti or not, here I come." <cite>IronChef_Kirby posted [p:951146124] in I was hit ... [t:79316886]...</cite> <quote>cuttin_in_farm posted... </cite> <quote>What happens when they dont listen? When they realize the most youre gonna do is put then in timeout or take something away? Or when they realize youre too scared to do something in public? What do you do then?</quote>Punishments only train children in what not to do. Strict parents only raise better liars; a child who is driven by punishments will only behave so long as they are in situations where they are likely to be caught. A well-behaved child needs training in what the desired behaviors are, and incentives to demonstrate those behaviors. The key to promoting desired behaviors in children is to give them something to work toward, rather than something to run from. Instead of playing whack-a-mole with misbehaviors, a successful behavioral intervention ascertains the function of the undesired behavior, and incentivizes the child to demonstrate a functionally equivalent replacement behavior. Consequences have their place, but they alone will not drive a child to behave properly, especially if the consequences are corporal punishment, as research has repeatedly shown corporal punishment to be associated with poorer socioemotional and behavioral outcomes. --- "Spaghetti or not, here I come."</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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